i really need help....please

[vanhalenftw1539]

ive been really confused lately,

ive grown up liking girls. ive had crushes on girls in school, admired girls on tv, the whole 9 yards. i remember one time the girl i liked snuggled up next to me in first grade and i loved it. so i have always liked girls.

but ever since a couple years ago when i hit puberty, ive been really curious. just by guys my age or that i know personally. my liking for girls isnt as strong as it used to be, although i have never liked or wanted a relationship with a guy. it seems like the main thing that arouses me is certain guys my age.

girls my age always talk about male celebrities being hot. i dont find any of those guys hot. im actually confused about the concept of finding someone hot. are you supposed to get a boner or what? but its only guys my age, i dont find guys in general attractive.

the feelings i get around girls are different than my curiosity. when i see a guy in my grade that i've fantasized about jacking off with, its a feeling more in my stomach and i might get aroused. (this happens with female celebrities naked or porn as well). however i'm emotionally attracted to girls only. when i see a pretty girl in a movie, or an adorable school that i have feelings for at school, the warm feeling is more in my upper chest closer to my heart. for example a girl i kind of like kissed me on the cheek and i loved it. i saw the girl at the grocery store last night and my heart started to beat faster. that sort of thing.

i dont know if im ready for a relationship, i tried one and it didnt work, but im open to try again. and i want to get married, in fact i have pictured myself marrying that one girl that i mentioned. i dont have any of these feelings about guys. but it just seems like the sexual attraction to guys my age is the strongest feeling i get although i dont want serious or any relationships with guys.

im not sure how im supposed to feel about girls. the feelings my guy friends describe for girls are a lot stronger than the ones i feel. they can rate girls on their hotness and zone out in class thinking about a girl they like. im not that "girl crazy." is that normal?

bottom line:

- i grew up straight
- when puberty started ive been extremely curious
- the main thing that arouses me is my curiosity
- only for guys my age, not guys in general
- naked female celebrities and girls in general arouse me too
- however ive only wanted relationships with girls
- want to get married to a girl and have a family
- not as "girl crazy" as my friends

will the curiosity pass? am i straight? gay? is this normal? HELP!

[skinny_white_boy]

Your just curious :)
It's Your raging hormones looking for anything.
It's a part of puberty alot of people go through

[vanhalenftw1539]

so will this pass? i grew up completely straight and i just cant picture myself gay or bi.

[skinny_white_boy]

You'll have to wait and see.

But there's a good chance it could pass

[Painted_Indian_Horse]

first of all, it's a GOOD thing you're not a teenage horndog, like some boys. *sigh* anyway, you're just curious. it's a part of the hormones and growing up, and being caught in the in-between phase we're in. to be honest, i'm in the same situation. grew up straight, now i'm questioning myself. i'm pretty sure it's a phase, though.

and there are always people who will accept you no matter where life takes you or whatever sexual orientation you are. :) i hope this helps.
if you ever need to talk, i'm here :)

[sdude]

There is no such thing as 100 percent gay or straight. We are all sexual beings where certain people will arouse us more than others, some male, some femaie..Grow out of it? I doubt it, but you will probably find a relationship that cements you one way or another..since the "straight world" is where 80 percent or so end up, your chances are that is where u will end up, but that doesn't say you won't have the occaisional urge to do some hot guy!! Enjoy it!!!

[nick]

There is no such thing as 100 percent gay or straight.
I tend to agree with that, although plenty of guys will tell you they are 100% straight. What you are describing is what gets called curiosity. Thinking about guys of your own age and maybe wanting to see them naked and compare with them. Its very common and doesnt really affect your sexuality.

[Bobthebeast666]

Yeah same here and Its just hormones.

[AudioCity]

This is all pretty normal generally what u are turned on by during puberty is everything and will prob pass, on the finding people "hot" its finding them attractive you dont have to pop a hard-on over them but appreciate their looks and girls will always talk to people about who they think is hot its just something they do :)

I wouldnt worry about being in a relationship that will come in its own time and downt rush your feelings because you can end up getting really hurt if you really want to then experiment with guys your age to get it out of your system, just make sure that you are safe at all times.

Not being as girl crazy as your friends means that you are a bit more mature than your friends who are still raving horn dogs :P

Finally it sounds to me like u are a typical teenager you like girls you have a little curiosity for guys and that you are straight :) its all normal :) and will most likely pass as you get older and find out more about yourself.