i need help please

[vanhalenftw1539]

ive been really confused lately,

ive grown up liking girls. ive had crushes on girls in school, admired girls on tv, the whole 9 yards. i remember one time the girl i liked snuggled up next to me in first grade and i loved it. so i have always liked girls.

but ever since a couple years ago when i hit puberty, ive been really curious. just by guys my age or that i know personally. my liking for girls isnt as strong as it used to be, although i have never liked or wanted a relationship with a guy. it seems like the main thing that arouses me is certain guys my age.

girls my age always talk about male celebrities being hot. i dont find any of those guys hot. im actually confused about the concept of finding someone hot. are you supposed to get a boner or what? but its only guys my age, i dont find guys in general attractive.

the feelings i get around girls are different than my curiosity. when i see a guy in my grade that i've fantasized about jacking off with, its a feeling more in my stomach and i might get aroused. (this happens with female celebrities naked or porn as well). however i'm emotionally attracted to girls only. when i see a pretty girl in a movie, or an adorable school that i have feelings for at school, the warm feeling is more in my upper chest closer to my heart. for example a girl i kind of like kissed me on the cheek and i loved it. i saw the girl at the grocery store last night and my heart started to beat faster. that sort of thing.

i dont know if im ready for a relationship, i tried one and it didnt work, but im open to try again. and i want to get married, in fact i have pictured myself marrying that one girl that i mentioned. i dont have any of these feelings about guys. but it just seems like the sexual attraction to guys my age is the strongest feeling i get although i dont want serious or any relationships with guys.

im not sure how im supposed to feel about girls. the feelings my guy friends describe for girls are a lot stronger than the ones i feel. they can rate girls on their hotness and zone out in class thinking about a girl they like. im not that "girl crazy." is that normal?

bottom line:

- i grew up straight
- when puberty started ive been extremely curious
- the main thing that arouses me is my curiosity
- only for guys my age, not guys in general
- naked female celebrities and girls in general arouse me too
- however ive only wanted relationships with girls
- want to get married to a girl and have a family
- not as "girl crazy" as my friends

will the curiosity pass? am i straight? gay? is this normal? HELP!

[ohsnap]

It's a very normal thing, especially during adolescence, to be bicurious. When hormones get crazy, lots of people often start fantasising about the same gender. For some it lasts for 2 years, but others might be confused until their 20.

To be bisexual or gay, you have to have a physical, emotional and sexual attraction to your gender. You have to like how they look, want to be in a relationship with them and have a sexual attraction to them (unless you're asexual).

So conclusion is imo, that you're straight and bicurious. Of course this may not be the case, but it's most likely.

[sage of craze]

Everything ohsnap has said is correct, and I just wanted to add that you should just wait to find out who you really are. You shouldn't let feelings like this bother you, because they may be fleeting. If they're more permanent, then you should cross that bridge when it's in full view. My bottom line: give yourself some time. Things will become more clear.

[Kaius]

You've already created a thread about this here (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=94315)
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