End of the Line?

[Matt Matoran]

So yesterday was probably the worst day of my life. I found out that the guy I have been crushing on for the last year asked out someone else out for a date on Valentine's Day (today). I really liked him and was crushed when he told me... I felt really depressed and just didn't know what to say.

Recently (meaning within the last four months) I've begun to notice that he's been shifting away from me. He's become really quiet around me, doesn't text me at all anymore, and isn't as playful with me as he used to be.

So, continuing my issue, yesterday we were let out of classes so me and him went down to get some food. Some of his friends came along and he just went along with them and completely ditched me in the hall. I also noticed that as soon as his other friends came by, he started to talk to them a lot more and seemed to be having a lot more fun around them than he has around me.

Afterwards, while we were waiting to get picked up, I told him what was bothering me and he basically replied, "You care too much about your friends, I don't even think about people like you when I get home." I was completely crushed when he said that because I make it a point to care about my friends and I had told him a while ago how much I cared for him. I felt like he took what I said and crushed it and threw it all away. I basically told him, "Yea, you're probably right. I'll start by not caring about you."

So now we are completely not talking and he didn't even try to apologize or tell me what he was thinking. He was basically like, "Oh, I mean this doesn't really bother me, I mean I don't even know what to do about it, so... eh.. whatever."

I can't seem to get over him because he was one of my closest friends and I literally told him everything about me. Does anyone have any ideas on how to get over him and how to move on with my life? I'm really depressed right now.

[Beats]

Well, I've never had a true friend like that, but you should probably forget about him, if he doesn't care, niether should you, I mean, you could always try to make a closer friend.:/
I wish I could help more..
P.M. me anytime. -hugs-

[Matt Matoran]

Well, I've never had a true friend like that, but you should probably forget about him, if he doesn't care, niether should you, I mean, you could always try to make a closer friend.:/
I wish I could help more..
P.M. me anytime. -hugs-

Yea, that's what I was thinking. I've been feeling like he has completely changed this year for no apparent reason. (Maybe because his parents told him something?) He said that the doesn't have anything to talk about because "we've already been through so much, so we have nothing to talk about" and then said, "We don't go to the same school, we don't have anything to really talk about". Urg, he makes me so mad whenever I think about it.

At the same time that I'm so mad at him, I've been feeling like a huge part of me has been taken out because we used to be such good friends. People used to say that they thought we had grown up together and were best friends. I really don't know what changed between four months ago and now...

[Beats]

People change, I'm sorry to be the one to tell you this but, the power of others effects yourself more than the power of yourself does, And it may depend on you guy's different position in popularity, is he more popular than you? Or did you guys ever have a big arguement? I mean, personally I think my friends are what keep me going, I think if I didn't have friends then I would be in an insane asylum, I just think that you could do better than someone that's going to run off and desert you, we all do. And you could also tell him the, " We don't even go to the same school." jizz is so cliche, for me none of my /best/ friends go to my school because I meet them all online, and that online people don't seem to judge you, that's just how I prefer it, I wish you the best of hopes. I know you can get over him and make newer best friend(s).
Good luck.(: -hugs-
And remember, I'm up for P.M., V.M., or MSN, just in case you wanna talk. :3

[sieg]

quit thinking about him, he is not worth your time or sympathy. if he doesnn't care about you then dont feel the same mutually, my friend joe did something like that, i've happily moved on to love ryan.

[Matt Matoran]

quit thinking about him, he is not worth your time or sympathy. if he doesnn't care about you then dont feel the same mutually, my friend joe did something like that, i've happily moved on to love ryan.

Yea, I'm going to agree with you here... I'm trying not to think about him anymore. If he wants to be friends that's fine with me, but for now I really don't care about him anymore.

People change, I'm sorry to be the one to tell you this but, the power of others effects yourself more than the power of yourself does, And it may depend on you guy's different position in popularity, is he more popular than you? Or did you guys ever have a big arguement? I mean, personally I think my friends are what keep me going, I think if I didn't have friends then I would be in an insane asylum, I just think that you could do better than someone that's going to run off and desert you, we all do. And you could also tell him the, " We don't even go to the same school." jizz is so cliche, for me none of my /best/ friends go to my school because I meet them all online, and that online people don't seem to judge you, that's just how I prefer it, I wish you the best of hopes. I know you can get over him and make newer best friend(s).
Good luck.(: -hugs-
And remember, I'm up for P.M., V.M., or MSN, just in case you wanna talk. :3

Yea, I'm definitely more popular than he is. Whenever I meet his friends, they usually ignore him and talk to me the whole time and we text or chat later also. Come to think of it, he used to ask me about "moving up the social ladder" (as he called it) and along the way he has been ditching the friends he made in the "lower social classes". Do you think he thinks he's moved up above me and is just ditching me for that reason?

I talked to one of my close friends about this and she basically said that my friend might be scared of me and that's what he's not talking as much anymore. We are both going on a multi-family skiing trip this weekend (which is going to be very awkward now). She basically said that I could probably talk to him more about this during that trip and try to mend our friendship... I really think I should keep to myself and my other friends there and ignore my friend who is acting weirdly. If he wants to be friends then, he can come and talk to me?


p.s. I can't PM anyone because I apparently need 50+ posts to do that... I don't have that much yet! Haha.

[ohsnap]

A person like that doesn't deserve someone like you.

[Lifeguard18]

You need to stop thinking about him. He's not a good friend if he's just gonna forget all about you. You'll find someone else. He is not worth your time.

And if he ever tries talking to you again, just remind him about how he basically pushed you out of his life and its gonna take a lot more than a simple sorry. If that doesn't work, then I would find another person who you can be close with.

If I were you, I would delete his number, delete him off of facebook if you or him have one, don't talk to him anymore, don't even make eye contact, etc. If he wants to treat you like a stranger, then treat him like a stranger back. If you keep thinking about him, It will start getting to you and you could easily become stressed and or depressed. (I've been there before and its not very pleasant.)

You will find someone better than him.

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[TravM]

If he was that quick to drop you, that lets you know it wasn't the best idea to even give a rats ass about him anyway.

[Matt Matoran]

Thanks for all the replies guys!

Yea, I've been talking about this with my friends at school also (since it's been bothering me a lot) and they basically said that he must have "been on something" when he said all that stuff... I've been trying not to think about the whole thing too much, but I keep thinking about it from time to time (although I am getting better now). And yea, I will delete him off my Facebook and AIM and phone. I think it's better this way...

[Apollo.]

The guy sounds like a bit of a dick to me. It's good that you care about your friends, I wish I could have friends that cared. If he is like that to you just forget him it's his loss