what do i do next?

[maddii-may]

i met this guy a couple of years ago, we went out for the first time about 18 months ago, during our relationship he got the idea that i was cheating on him and then we broke up. we didnt talk for ages but then we got talking agin and in january/february we got close again and made out and stuff. this september about 10 days before my birthday he called me up and asked me out and because i had a crush on him i said yes i saw saw him on the weekend before my birthday and everything seemed normal, we kissed and made out like normal couples would. but weh i saw him in school he ignored me. when my birthday came i called him because we had been talking on facebook and things didnt seem right. when i call him he said to me he couldnt deal with all this s***. and it sounded like he was crying. so i broke down in to tears. in november we got talking again. for his birthday on the 20th december i went round his house with his other friend. when he left and it was just me and him he told me how much he liked me and he planned it all because of what happened before and that he was really sorry, and i forgve him, then we made out again. then i left he seems to be really sorry and i do still have feelings for him but i dont know what to do it hurt me so much last time, but for some reason i keep falling for him. recently he has been treating me like crap and has no tried to delete me out of his life, but he knows how much i care for him but he's now trying it on with one of my best mates to get back at me, i have spent the past two weeks feeling crap about myself i have cried so many tears over him but the thing is i really do love him :/

[The Madness.]

I don't think the guy's mature enough for a relationship. You guys have been off and on, but it seems like he can't make up his mind. Especially now since he's trying to 'get back at you'. He seems really immature, and I don't know if you mind that or not. But I think you should try and move on somehow, find someone else. Or at least just wait until the guy has matured a bit.

[Beats]

I don't think the guy's mature enough for a relationship. You guys have been off and on, but it seems like he can't make up his mind. Especially now since he's trying to 'get back at you'. He seems really immature, and I don't know if you mind that or not. But I think you should try and move on somehow, find someone else. Or at least just wait until the guy has matured a bit.

I agree, he's probably "cheating" on you if you want a guy's perspective

[Advanced A]

I know how your feeling, my older sister went thru the same thing with one of her boyfriends.

He was a dropkick.. good guy.. but a dropkick.. using her yet saying he loved her.. it was off and on.
In the end, she realised what everyone else saw, and altho she still really liked him he ended it.
Id suggest ending it, or if you dont want to.. give him one more shot.. and tell him its his last chance. If he messes with you again, end it for good.

[Myrnodin]

Most girls/boy dont really realize what they/their couples do with this kind of behavior, but its actually a form of mental conditioning, whereas his "ins and outs" regarding his feelings about you, condition you in a way that you keep coming back for more. Im not saying he or someone else does that on purpose, i doubt that the average could do it on purpose, but hes doing it nonetheless. Breaking it from your side is quite difficult, but I think that if you try to get help from your friends, you should be able to release yourself. A psycologist could probably help too, but for some reason people get scared when they hear that word... >.>

I hope you can get away, because he isnt really worth your tears.

Regards,

Josh.

[Kaius]

I agree, he's probably "cheating" on you if you want a guy's perspective

He can't cheat on her if they aren't in a relationship.

I know its a difficult thing to come to terms with but Katie is right, this guy really doesn't seem mature enough to handle a relationship with someone. I've found once you've fallen for someone you're always going to have some sort of a soft spot for them whenever they're around. Personally if he's trying to block you out I'd let him. Not only will the temptation disappear but it'll give you more of a chance to heal. I know it seems extremely hard to do but 90% thats always the better option than being around the person and feeling worse.

[Charleigh]

I don't think the guy's mature enough for a relationship. You guys have been off and on, but it seems like he can't make up his mind. Especially now since he's trying to 'get back at you'. He seems really immature, and I don't know if you mind that or not. But I think you should try and move on somehow, find someone else. Or at least just wait until the guy has matured a bit.

Agreed.

Consistantcy is good in a relationship, not like a flickeing light, on and off all the time. It cant decide weither it will stay off or on.