School Nurse

[FullyAlive]

Sorry for making yet another thread but I need some more advice.

Basically I am being forced into going to see the school nurse/counsellor on Wednesday and I'm really worried. I know people have asked about seeing physchiatrists before but I'm talking specifically about a school counsellor. What is she going to ask? What will it be like?

I know she is nice I've had to go before months ago but I just told her a lot of bullshit about how happy I am and I didn't have to go again. But it got worse, I was found out again and mow I've realized that it's truth time if I'm going to get better.

I assume she will focus primarily on the self harm and self hatred thing, but I just I need some advice on what to expect before I get too stressed.

Seriously any help would be really helpful!

[MadManWithaBox]

They'll probably ask about the injuries, how often, and the extent of them. They'll ask how your feeling, when did the bad feeling start. If you need any advice message me

[Lost n not yet found]

I wouldnt worry too much anything that you do say should b kept confidential and she shouldnt judge you in anyway what so ever n like u said she is nice :)

[Fiction]

I don't know specifically about a school councillor, but when I saw the councillor in hospital, they asked why I did it basically. They then asked sort of general questions like how I got on with my parents, how much I liked school, if I was doing well at school etc. Just to get a general overview of my life I suppose.

They also asked to see my arm, and asked if I did it anywhere else, and how long i'd been doing it.

Hope this helped :)

[FullyAlive]

Thanks all the comments have been helpful :)
Do you think it's likely that I'll have to show her my cuts?

[MadManWithaBox]

She might ask, I don't know if you'd have to. Might be good for her to look, check their ok and not infected.

[FullyAlive]

Oh ok, well I hope I don't have too. I'm pretty sure they aren't infected, I use antiseptic. Although one is weird and blobby? And still sore from a week ago? If she doesn't tell my mum I might ask about that one.
Thanks for all the advice, I'm still not looking forward to it, but I'm feeling a little less stressed now.

[MadManWithaBox]

Could ask her to have a look then if it goes ok.

[Fiction]

They did ask me to see my arm, but I think you'd be allowed to decline.

[FullyAlive]

Well I'll see how i feel at the time, but thanks again for taking the time to reply.

[RAWWR]

Just a warning-she is likely to tell your parents, they are required by law to let them know, although some don't, but I wouldn't let this put you off getting help, You can do this, good luck :D

[FullyAlive]

Thanks, fortunately my mum was told a few months ago so hopefully I don't have to have her told again, especially as I do have an agreement with my teacher already she knows it's worse but if I dont give her specific numbers she won't phone home.

[Love.Hate]

Well the school counsellor asked me..
How often i do it..
What i use..
Am i safe..
How do i think it helps me..
Can i resist urges..
How my scars make me feel..
How i feel in general..
Then she went on and put a mirror infront of me and said name something you like about yourself...
They expect you to do the talking, and they guide the conversation. Mine didn't ask to see my arm.. She just wanted to know how deep.. as she was worried.
Basically if you tell her your thinking about a Overdose/Taking your life.. She will call your parents and make you go to the doctors.
They are really good.. and i was forced into it too, but its for the best.
I know exactly how you feel if you ever need to talk/ask anything about what they are going to say VM me :)

[FullyAlive]

Thanks Fran, that was really helpful. Im hoping she doesn't do a mirror thing as I don't know what I'd say :/. It seems unlikely she will, so fingers crossed.


Edit:
She did not fucking help in the slightest! What am I meant to do now!

[Love.Hate]

Give her another chance.. at first i thought it was shit..
But you have to start thinking positive if you want to change your ways..

You could also ask her to get you reffered to a psychologist with the hospital? as they really do know what there on about? xx

[FullyAlive]

I dont know she just didnt ask or tell me anything. I thought she would ask actual questions about why and stuff, and then give me some help. But the only real question she asked was how often. She told me i looked happier, i dont know where she got that from because i feel worse.
I suppose I could see her again but she isn't in every day, and I'm not very comfortable talking. I dont know about the hospital as i dont want my mother to know again.

[Love.Hate]

Fair enough,
Well i know how you feel, i dont really like talking about it much either..
But she doesn't sound very good. The thing about school counsellors is i think they only do talk therapy, which invloves you talking, they listen.. lots of awkward silences.
If she thinks you look happier, tell her your putting on a front.. you dont want to be seen as not being able to cope. Tell her you feel worse.
Maybe she was just shocked to see you back again.. idk?
keep at it.. but dont be too dissapointed if it doesnt really work xx

[FullyAlive]

Thanks, I don't know it's half term soon I can't get too much worse in a week surely? I might go back and tell her what you said about putting on a front. I'll see :)

[Love.Hate]

:)
Im glad, and woo half-term!!
(sorry over excited)

Please stay safe over the holidays :)

[FullyAlive]

Half term excites me too I have two 16th parties :D

I will be safe I feel in control at the moment, I'm not stopping but I'm managing it :)