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[Infidelitas]

Just told 437 of my facebook friends that i was gay...no comments yet

[Quahog]

Facebook/Myspace isn't the best place to come out. It's best just to tell people face to face.

I came out in a myspace bulletin and people assumed that I was joking. So that didn't work out. So I came out physically. I just told each of my friends. I wish you luck, but sometimes, coming out on facebook/myspace, might not always work out.

[Magus]

Woops. Said something, else.

I told my 200 or so friends, that I am a tranny. Noboddy commented. Fuck, who cares.

[Infidelitas]

its easier doing it that way than answering a heap of messages asking if i was. ive told the people who are important to me in person.

[Fact]

Just told 437 of my facebook friends that i was gay...no comments yet

its easier doing it that way than answering a heap of messages asking if i was. ive told the people who are important to me in person.

Don't you think that if you come out online then you're leaving yourself open to a load of abuse?

It's good that you told the people who matter in person, but why tell anyone else? Do they honestly need to know? If you're not confident enough to display your sexuality in public, then publishing it on Facebook could create you more problems.

[Dunce]

They probably think you got fraped or something. I know people who type things like that when they're signed into their friends accounts.
Otherwise, they probably just don't know what to say in their comments.

[Infidelitas]

Im not scared about abuse, everyones happy with it i think

[Sosaku]

Im not scared about abuse, everyones happy with it i think

You don't have to be scared, but wary of it. I haven't come out to my whole family(father, and grandparents etc), but abuse isn't something to be scared of. Abuse should be just stopped. Posting this kind of stuff on facebook is not a good idea. (lets say for example) Someone you don't know but has access to your page, knows when and where you go out, (a stalker obvi). He finds out you are gay, and is a major homophobe, he'd track you down, and kill you. Just because of what is on facebook. (yes, that is exaggerated a bit, but it IS a possibility) I'm just trying to say, be careful, and think before you do something that causes your life to just, fall, it would upset us all. (well i know it would upset me at least)

[sdude]

The damage you can do to putting yourself out there on Facebook is pretty bad...I would clear off or close your account and start over or better yet, find another way to really make freinds....facebook isn't real.....that's not the place for such a personal decision....

[Syvelocin]

I don't know why you're getting so much crap about it from VTers.

The main way I came out was on Facebook. I got words of encouragement from everyone who replied.

Then again, I only friend actual friends.

[Fact]

I don't know why you're getting so much crap about it from VTers.

The main way I came out was on Facebook. I got words of encouragement from everyone who replied.

Then again, I only friend actual friends.

It's alright if you only have people who are actually your friends, but since he has over 400 friends added, I somehow doubt they're all going to have nice things to say.

Still, it's your choice as to how you come out, but as many others have said, it's not exactly the ideal.

[Lights]

I know that I only connect with people I'm friends with, and have spoken to properly before. I don't connect with people I don't like or who I've seen but haven't spoken to. I only want my friends looking at my stuff.

It's more risky coming out when you're connected with such a big amount of people, but if it's a declaration you feel you have to make, then you have to take the risk. If people give you shit about it, disconnect with them and/or even block them. If they can't accept you for who you are, they're not your friend.

[tyler007]

I think that was pretty cool, and that you told your famliy and close freinds in person.
Maybe most of your FB freinds dont really care if you are or not or they might think it was a joke. If you do start getting alot of haters then i would say they were not really your freinds anyway. Im sure that you feel good about doing it, and if you dont at any time then you can "always say it was a joke or a friend did it" but i hope not.

Did you change your instrest to: men too or did you just leave it blank.
I hope it all works out for you.

[Infidelitas]

I changed my intrests to men. I have over 400 friends on facebook, but they are all close friends relitives and people i have gone to school with in the past. I have a policy that if i dont know them, i dont add them. This year im going to a new school so i wont know anyone there other than some of my friends, plus if i cop any shit from anyone, ill block them. I changed my profile a few weeks ago and alot of people have been asking if its true, and its easier to tell everyone straight up then lie to people. And i went to an all boys school where everyone thinks there has to be a few gay people. It seems i come from a part of australia that no one i have come across has been homophobic. another boy from my school came out last year everyone accepted him. I think im gonna be fine

[OutOfOrder]

Facebook is probably not the best place to tell people these kinds of things because they might just think you are joking. I've had plenty of friends post "I'm gay" or "I like men" on other friend's Facebook walls when they leave them open on computers. We all just think it's a joke and don't really comment (although some people have "liked" the post in the past as a joke).

It's probably best to tell people in person that way there is no ambiguity.

[mr.sexy_bomb]

i never came out people just assumed

[Infidelitas]

i never came out people just assumed

i was supprised with how many suspected

[Azunite]

They probably thought it was a joke, facebook isn't a good place to come out.

[Infidelitas]

It hasnt done me any harm at all. Everyones cool about it. Ive had a heap of messages of people saying they are cool with it

[MoveAlong]

I think it's fine that you decided to do it this way. It's your decision - no one should criticize you about it. In fact the main way I plan to come out is on Facebook after I graduate.

Facebook would be the only non-dramatic way to tell a bunch of people at generally the same time. The reason I would make it clear with a status update is because if you change your "Interested In" people would only know if they looked at your info. This way people cannot be confused, since I've always denied my sexuality when asked.

The only loop hole in this plan is that why would it matter to tell these people after graduation? I probably won't ever see or talk to them again. So my plans are tentative for now. Whatever.

[Infidelitas]

I think it's fine that you decided to do it this way. It's your decision - no one should criticize you about it. In fact the main way I plan to come out is on Facebook after I graduate.

Facebook would be the only non-dramatic way to tell a bunch of people at generally the same time. The reason I would make it clear with a status update is because if you change your "Interested In" people would only know if they looked at your info. This way people cannot be confused, since I've always denied my sexuality when asked.

The only loop hole in this plan is that why would it matter to tell these people after graduation? I probably won't ever see or talk to them again. So my plans are tentative for now. Whatever.

I wish you good luck with that :) . Homophobia isnt big in my city (hobart) so its all good. I dont think i should be critizised about it, i was confident that it was the right thing to do, ani it was. Im happy atm