I am gay what to do???

[ryan_krammer]

I found out i was gay a little while ago... What to do? I want to find someone to be with... And should i tell someone?

[sdude]

Well, if you have close friends, you might start by telling one of them you can trust....or look up in your area to find any lgbt groups that you might find some functions that allow you to meet other gay people..and then there is the family thing..have you thought about tellling one or both of your folks?

[ryan_krammer]

I don't really have any good friends... And i have thought about telling my mom (dad isnt around) but i think she might think im weird... (she's a homophobe)

[sdude]

Well, I am bi, but certainly understand, I'm lucky to have parents that support me, although I haven't admitted to them I like guys, if I ever decided to, I know I could...On meeting other gays, it's hard unless you live in or near a large city...where are you from?

[ryan_krammer]

I'm from oakville, ontario, canada

[nick]

Dont feel under any pressure to come out to anyone until you feel ready, but when you do you will probably feel a great sense of relief that you dont have to hide anymore. Its difficult if you think your mother would react badly, but most mums will come to terms with it pretty quickly and realise that you are still the same son and they love you just the same.

[Fushigi]

u should tell them when ur ready.... and there is nothing wrong being gay

[Infidelitas]

I was worried when i came out...Then they were understanding...it feels like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders

[sdude]

Sounds like a fairly metropolian...do some searches for gay teens in your area or support groups....I'm fairly certain you can find some near Toronto, there are in Vancouver where I am...

[Sosaku]

Find an LGBT group. Don't feel like you HAVE to come out, it is not like step 5 of being gay, (Step 1: Notice it. Step 2: Have sex. Step 3: Get attached. Step 4: Get a boyfriend/girlfriend. Step 5: Come out.) >.< (just kidding on the steps.) I mean, it feels like walking on clouds when you do. And most people will respect you because you had the courage to come out. But then there are people who are just (excuse my language) assholes who are going to try and to their best to hurt you. just be careful, but not like paranoid. and Think before you do something. (on the comming out part, don't like think out a conversation, if it doesn't go that way, you'll be lost) Just go with you feelings on that. Centuries ago, we didn't really think, we worked on instinct and look at where we are now, we are actually pretty well off. =D congratulations on finding who you are btw, my roommate doesn't know, although he is finally stopping to think, and starting feel. And he is recognizing how he most likely is bisexual.

Again good luck...and you can probably skim that top paragraph, i just woke up so its kind of rambling. >.<

[canyon]

I found out i was gay a little while ago... What to do? I want to find someone to be with... And should i tell someone?

Don't take this the wrong way, but do you mean you thought about it for a few minutes and then just out of the blue decided you were gay? Because most people who are gay deal with finding out who they are for years. I'm not saying you're lying, and maybe I'm just not getting the way you worded your post, but deciding that you're gay will take longer than a 'little while ago'. And also, don't think that because you're gay you have to get a boyfriend right this minute. Things take time, just go with it. You're acting as if since you're gay you HAVE to have a boyfriend now. Finding a boyfriend is just like finding a girlfriend for someone who's straight. You don't just decide to be straight and pick up any girl.
And if you have been thinking about stuff for a while, you might not even be gay. You could just be curious or bisexual even. It isn't 100% straight or 100% gay.

Like I said, I could have just misunderstood your post. Either way, just be yourself and don't change for anyone. It's your life and you deserve to live it the way you want to live it.