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Love.Hate
February 8th, 2011, 01:45 PM
Ok so i just am so annoyed..

How do you guys react when people argue with you?

Im the sort of person that will talk to them trying to calm them down... then when it doesn't work.. I burst, I will go Insane! Screaming, taking my anger out on myself, or them..

I need ideas on how to deal with family arguements in a better way, as i cant keep up like this..

Only today i have had 4 arguements with my sisters.. Its like they gang up on me..
Over stupid things, like keys.. Socks.. Bottles.. food.. Its rediculous.

This morning i got slapped, kicked, spat at..
And pushed through the front door.. and landed straight on my face :(
Tonight it has so far its been verbal abuse..

If my sisters don't win they will start using my insecurities agaisnt me..
"Freckle face".. "rabbit" (thats cause i eat healthly)

Im fed up.
Mum knows they treat me like shit.. But she doesnt seem to care. :/

Please can someone tell me how to deal with them.. so i dont winde myself up and become self destrustive and I don't cause them any real harm..

Quahog
February 8th, 2011, 03:45 PM
It depends on whom I'm arguing with.

If I'm arguing with a friend/family member, I will usually shut my mouth, and allow them to speak. As I feel, not only am I listening, but I'm not causing what I really hate in arguments, which is yelling, and shouting.

If you get into arguments with your sister, just say what's on your mind. I said say, not yell, or throw a fit, or anything like that. If they are shouting, just agree, and don't shout back.

If they are hitting you and spitting you that isn't right. I know you said your Mother doesn't care, but I know deep down she does, and that if you tell her the full story, she would listen.

I don't think your sisters hate you, I just think brothers/sisters naturally fight. But if your sisters are spitting on you and hitting you, that isn't right at all, and you should tell your mother.

Love.Hate
February 8th, 2011, 03:55 PM
Okay, thankyou.

But really, she knows... she is just too caught up in work to do anything.
I suppose i just have to live with it..

And i will do that agreeing thing, because shouting just isnt doing any good at all :/

Thanks :)

Lost n not yet found
February 9th, 2011, 12:36 PM
I totally agree with the just agreeing thing cos it is like uv won already 2 them cos ur not reacting, keep strong n try not to let it get 2 u i no its difficult, u no im always here 4 u :)

whereismymind
February 9th, 2011, 03:00 PM
With my brother I go mental when he starts to be honest, if its my dad i usually cry halfway through the argument with anyone at school i just walk away.

If you sisters annoy you just walk away don't give them satisfaction, I know its easier said than done but they'll get bored. If they hit you its self defence to hit them back really. Good luck and message me if you ever need to

Love.Hate
February 10th, 2011, 05:18 PM
Thankyou guys <3