I think I may be Bisexual/Gay?

[canyon]

I've been thinking about this for months, killing myself over it. I think I may be bisexual or gay. I've spent so long trying to convince myself that I'm straight, but I don't know if I am. Talking about stuff on here, about what I like and everything, it's the first time I've actually been honest about how I'm feeling.
I've been telling myself for so long that it's all in my head and that I'm really straight, but I don't think I am. I think it's just because for so long I've pictured getting married, having kids, etc, but denying it because if I really were gay, my entire life would change, and I'm just not ready for that to happen. I don't want to have my life uprooted and thrown in a completely different direction.

But, I don't know. I feel a lot better already just being honest with myself on here, and I don't think I'm gonna act on my impulses for a long time, if ever.
But hey, what can ya do... :P

[nick]

Well lots of us have been through a similar thought process, I know I have, but coming to terms with who I really am has made me a lot more comfortable with myself even if its not what I thought I wanted. Just try to stay relaxed in your own mind and dont fight against yourself. Dont worry too much about labels, take life as it comes and just go with what feels right for you.

[persiandude]

ur still young so u dont need to worry about marriage so much.....JUST FOCUS ON WHAT GOING RIGHT IN FRONT OF U.......i agree with nick that many people go through this.......dont worry about labels........ur forum picture says life is good so live a good life......good luck

[DarkNick]

First of all be honest with yourself no matter the consiquences.
As for the others...I'll agree with Persiandude.We are too young yet to know what's happening to us.Just let the time pass and see for yourself (That's what I do at least :D :P )
Pm me if you want to discuss anything about it :) .

P.S: I'm sorry for doubleposting it :$ :$

[DarkNick]

First of all be honest with yourself no matter the consiquences.
As for the others...I'll agree with Persiandude.We are too young yet to know what's happening to us.Just let the time pass and see for yourself (That's what I do at least :D :P )
Pm me if you want to discuss anything about it :) .

[Severus Snape]

Keep in mind your sexuality is something you cannot think, will, or pray away.

[Sosaku]

ive thought this, but you dont have to lable yourself, my roommate doesn't, he's bisexual, but he thinks too much. At this age its kind of stupid to go with what you feel, but (as an empath) i have to focus on my feelings so I may as well know what i feel, and use that to my advantage. Dont lable yourself, just be yourself, there is nothhign wrong or weird about that.

[tyler007]

I know how you feel, im starting to think more that way too. I have had a guy friend who i did stuff with too, and a girl friend, and i have strong feeling for both of them. I guess part of it is just accepting that i might be bi, and its not just a guy phase. I have always said that i would not lable myself until college, after i tried it all but know im not so sure.

[Infidelitas]

I was very very confused when I joined VT. Everyone on the site has helped me to accept who I am, and inturn, my parents and friends made it very easy for me to come out as being gay. For about 6 years, I was confused about it, denying it. Im so happy now that if I had a choice to be gay or strait, id choose gay. Just take it one day at a time like i did and you'll be fine

[Colin2011]

It's normal for the development and understanding of our sexual orientation to take some time, and it's also normal for our orientation to have subtle or even big shifts through life.
But in the meantime, especially when it comes to what's going on in your own head and your own heart? Trust it and accept it.
PM if anyone wants to chat, I'm new to this site so it would be good to hear from people. I'm bi from England

[Rainclouds]

watch some lesbian porn. if it turns you on or gives you a boner then you are probably at the very least bisexual

[drac]

watch some lesbian porn. if it turns you on or gives you a boner then you are probably at the very least bisexual

How is that good advice? Your sexual fantasies are different compared to your sexual orientation. Rant over.

But in all seriousness, take it one step at a time, just to be sure. Thats what I did, and VT helped me with that. If and when you are sure, just be confident enough in yourself to accept yourself. If a few people say anti-LBGT slurs, don't take any notice. Your the stronger person and their homophobia is hiding something which is uncomfortable in themselves.

[mr.sexy_bomb]

you can still get marry and have kids if your gay, being gay will not stop you from being happy and achieving the stuff you want

[Beats]

The fact that you have to drill the thought that you're straight into your head, may be a dead giveaway that you're not. I spent three years trying to convince myself that I was straight. :P It doesn't work. And the longer that you try, the longer you'll think you actually are Bi/Gay.
And you're most likely Bi. I know only a few straight up gay people. Just give it a chance and see how it works out, you'll be very shy at first, Like I am. :P
But it will hopefully work out for you. :)

[Apollo.]

I an exactly the same. But now I'm starting to think I'm gay I am getting really down about it, I feel like I will never find anybody that loves me back.