Do I have a chance with her, what's my next move?

[theoburray]

There’s a girl at work who I like and I’ve known her properly since about November when we had our first shift together, she’s very attractive physically but has a great personality too. Anyway on Boxing Day when she asked if I’m going to some club and I said yes and she smiled and said ‘see you there’, when I got there, she saw me and pulled me by the arm and said ‘hey (my name)’ and kissed me on the cheek and we talked for a few minutes but she couldn’t stay long as she had to wake up the next morning early.

Since then we’ve had a few conversations and she smiles a lot and laughs a bit so I know she isn’t bored at least, It’s took me ages to move forward and progress to try and ask her out because she is so hot and I think I’m at best looks wise just a bit above average or average.

I got her number last week finally after talking to her for like 25 minutes, it was slightly awkward to just dive in before I left but I pretty much said 'you want to hang out sometime?' which in retrospect I probably should have been specific and I could tell she wanted me to have something at least specific and planned out at least because she wasn't backing away or anything and she said 'and do what?' and I said 'whatever' to stay casual and she smiled and said 'yeah alright', maybe she thought I wasn't going to ask I don't know but after all that's happened I think she knows my intent. Except her phone was stolen so she is waiting for a replacement to come so I can't call or text until it comes but I'm thinking coffee and a movie and if she didn't want anything at all to do with me, I doubt I would have got the number in the first place. I'm fairly confident, like I said I think the only thing that would have startled her is I wasn't specific and it might have came off a bit too weird and non commital. Where do I go from here? I want a relationship and not 'friendship' but I know it can take the latter to get the former.

[theoburray]

anyone?

[Quahog]

Relationships start as friendships. Keep the pace you are at now. Go on little dates, and sooner or later, I'm pretty sure that a relationship might form. It doesn't seem like she isn't interested. If you like her, and if she likes you, I see no reason why you couldn't have a relationship. Just don't rush things. Take it slow.

[dmeek7]

So let me get this strait. You work with a girl, who asked you to meet her at a club, at which she pulled you aside, kissed you on the cheek, and started talking to you all smiling and such? Also, this girl gave you her number after which you asked her to hang out and she said "yeah" while smiling? Well it sounds to me like she's definitely interested in you.

One question I have to ask: Do you have any form of contact with her outsides work? Do you go to the same school? Do you live by each other?

If you do go to the same school or have some other form of contact with her outside of work, then....
You should just talk to her. Become someone she talks to on a regular basic. Become someone that she trusts to keep a secret (but stay OUT OF THE FRIEND ZONE. Don't ask her if she has anything she wants to say. Let her ask you if she can tell you something). Tell her that when she gets her replacement phone, you better be the first one she puts in her phone. Give her your phone number on a piece of paper. Be cute about it. Don't be serious be cute about it. There's Your first step

Step 2: get to hang out like she agreed to do with you. Go watch TV together, or go have a walk around town or something. It doesn't really matter what you do. Do something you are both interested in and both will enjoy. Anyways, when you do hang out, the first few times should just be strictly hanging out. Don't pull any moves. just flirt and have fun. Barely show any hint that u like her like that. Let her come to you. If she just so happens to pull a move and basically comes out saying she likes you then go ahead and go along with it. But hang out for a while. then get closer and closer to personal. Hang out in more personal places, like her room or your room, or just sitting on a couch together, wathcing tv or a movie.

Basically I'm saying: Become her friend but not the kind of friend that is her best friend. Don't be too interested in her personal life. Let her tell you that on her own. She doesn't want a best friend b/c that's what her girlfriends (and sometimes gay guy friends) are for. Be a guy she can feel safe, happy, and protected with.

IF you want a chance just stay out of the friend zone. That's the best advice i can give really.

I hope this helped :D

[theoburray]

Yeah I hear you, I haven't seen her since 'I asked her out' but I doubt it'll be awkward, I'm not going to mention it the next time I see her cos I still want to 'get to know her' as a 'friend', I'm thinking of planning it for next week or the week after but I'm not sure whether I should wait until her phone is back in action or not.

[theoburray]

the only thing I don't like is she works pretty much Monday-Saturday but on Monday to Friday she works in a section which I'd have no other purpose of being there except to talk to her and I'd have to walk right up to her because it's covered by a few things and it's placed right against the back wall of the store lol.

[theoburray]

update:

I haven't spoke to her for two weeks since I got the number because I haven't needed to walk all the way to the department where she works like for example when I asked for her number and I don't want to rush into the friend zone by talking to her everyday but I know not talking to her for two weeks isn't good either but anyway her number works now as I tried it with a private number and she answered although I hung up because I just wanted to see if it worked, it'll be interesting to see if she brings up that she has a new phone when I do talk to her next though.

[jttaylor92]

She seems to like you. Ask her out on a date (but don't call it that) with a group of your friends. If it goes well from there, ask her out again, but with just you two. Jst make sure you talk to her more or it will make it seem like you're not interested.