Is it possible to miss someone you've never met?

[AutumnDae]

I was born in December of 1993. My mom called her mother, who was in the hospital in Florida (We were in New York.), and said "Hi Mom, I know you're sick, and you don't have to say anything but I want to let you know that you have a new granddaughter and her name is Autumn." My grandmother replied "Oh honey, she's beautiful." And then went back to sleep.

On February 14, 1994, my grandmother, Lurena, passed away, and I never had the chance to meet her.

Even though I've never met her, I miss her. Or maybe I'm just sad I never met her? I'm jealous of my older sisters that got to spend time with her. They got to sleep over at Grandma's house and play and go places with her, and I never got the chance. She took them shopping and out to eat and gave them candy and potato chips even though my mom said not to, and they had a great time. And Grammy let my sister do her make up, and she watched them play tee ball. She was the greatest grandmother there ever was.

And now, as I'm getting older, I wish she was around. I just want to know her. I've heard so many stories, and she's one of the most amazing people. Her husband (My grandfather) committed suicide, and although it was tough for her, she worked through it because she had three young children to raise and made sure they were safe and secure. She met her partner, Grampy Jim, 12 years later, and although they never married, they were a perfect couple. I miss him as well, even though I've heard less about him. He passed away two years before Grammy, and my mom knows that she died of a broken heart.

I do things to make Gram happy a lot. I wear gold jewelery, she loved it. And she always loved hazel eyes, I'm lucky that I have them. And I love to watch people dance, she was a ballerina. I love the recipes that have been passed down, and I know them myself now.

She's beautiful. Her smile lights up every photo that I've ever seen of her, she's radiant. Whether she's holding her grandkids, or standing in her garden (She won prizes for it!) or playing with her dogs, she's always the focus of the photo. My mom tells me that I remind her of her mother. It's the best compliment I've ever received.

I must sound like a crazy fool for all of this. I didn't even know her....I just miss her. I miss you Gramma Reeni, I hope I'm making you happy. <3

[aaron4455]

u no ya i know what u mean i miss my grandpa that died probly years before i was born and i miss my grandma who dont even remmember meeting cause i was a baby so ya

[Quahog]

Yes I guess its possible. I think it's the fact that you know nothing about her, you never got to talk to her, or see her face to face, is why you miss her.

I had a uncle that passed away when I was about 2 years old. He was a police officer. I never got to talk to him, as when your 2 years old, you don't really remember anything. But looking at pictures of him, and home videos of him, he seemed like a really cool guy, sucked I never got to talk to him, as I never really had a father figure growing up.

So yes, I think you can very much miss someone whom you never met.

[Fushigi]

yes!!! it happens to me a lot

[RAWWR]

Yeah I think it's perfectly rational for you to miss her. I miss my nan and she died when I was 3months old, So I can't remember her, I probably didn't even understand who she was back then.

[FullyAlive]

Yes of course it's possible I feel the same way about all my grandparents who I've not met. However I think rather than missing the person specifically you are probably more likely to be missing the idea of having her as your grandmother especially as you say you are jealous of your sisters who did know her. But anyway I think this is completely rational so long as you aren't getting depressed or anything and you don't sound like you are as you seem positive, living your life for her :)

[Love.Hate]

I think it is perfectly normal to miss her.
I mean afterall it doesn't matter if you never met her. She has still played a considerable role in your upbringing. She would be proud of you, and i think its lovely how you are holding onto special memories of her.
Its almost like you living your life in her memory :) x

[Syvelocin]

I don't thinking missing is quite the word. You can't miss something you never had.
I definitely understand a longing for that relationship you never got to experience, which is completely normal. I've been there before.

[Lost n not yet found]

I only knew my grandad for a year n i only knew him when he was realii ill, i dont think that u miss her because u never met her but im sure that if she was still here she would b very proud of you. Hold onto all the memories that you can :) because sometimes memories are all that you have left.