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Powerhawk
February 6th, 2011, 10:55 PM
A few weeks ago a reallly good friend of mine from my old home commited sucide. I told my best friend what happened, and he said stuff like ill be all right, its ok u have friends you can talk to etc etc. the next day i have a field trip at school. my friend was sitting in front of me on the bus in front of me with his gf and through out the entire day he didnt say a word to me, even though he could tell i was close to crying the whole day. later that day i get a text from his girlfriend telling me shes really sorry about my friend that committed sucide. i confronted my friend a few days later, and he said something like oh, i didnt know how to say sorry. he couldnt meet my eyes or talk to me for 2 weeks and now hes acting like my best friend again.

Im really upset about happened to my friend and mad at my friend for what he did and i dont have a clue for what to do now.

Quahog
February 6th, 2011, 11:02 PM
I'm really sorry for your loss. That must have been really upset for you to find that out. I had many friends that committed suicide, so I can get how you feel.

I'm sure your friend didn't do it on purpose. The first time you told him, he said that you could always talk to him if you feel upset, so I don't think he was brushing you off. He can't read your mind, so unless you tell him that your upset, or that you want to talk, he won't think that anything is wrong. I'm pretty sure that he didn't mean it in any wrong way, and if you just talk to him about it, it will all work out.

The Madness.
February 7th, 2011, 12:29 AM
The OP got it right. It's the guy's girlfriend, he's going to pay attention with her. Don't get too mad about him just trying to seem like a good boyfriend. If you really wanted to talk to him, you could've just spoken to him. He might not have been able to tell you need to talk. Just tell him next time. If he's your bestfriend, he will give you the time to talk to him.