Don't Know What To Do - Please Help (:^(

[The Harlequin]

Me and my gf have been going out now for 4 months, and it's great, we're really really close. I always knew that she wasn't ever close to her family but it wasn't untill relatively recently that I found out what was really happening. I was horrified when I learned that the bruises she claimed to have sustained from a mosh pit actually came from her mother throwing her about the house - I felt like such a bloody idiot for not thinking.

She's really unwell, she's just been diagnosed with ME and her parents regularly scream at her telling her that there's nothing wrong with her and that she's worthless as shit, and then in public say all kinds of bullshit.

She's sworn me to secrecy and I don't know what to do, it's been happening all her life, tonight she was round my house and she actually broke down in tears, she was so afraid and felt so worthless, I'm trying to get her to see somebody, get some professional help - it doesn't help that I have so much to do that I can't always be there to support her, and I dunno what to do anymore.

I'm begging her to do something but she's adamant that she can't get help - it's obviously not true but I can't make her believe it. I dunno what to suggest, where do you go in a situation like this? I don't even believe what's happening anymore, it doesn't seem possible.

She even told me that when she got obvious bruises she was made to take days of school by the bastards so that people wouldn't ask awkward questions.

She trusts me and I want her to get help of her own will, if I have to step in I will, thisis killing me - I made a promise and it's one that's eating me alove every day.

Please help me, I don't know what to do </3

[ProBaller40]

Sometimes, promises cant be kept.

If you trust your parents, talk to them, and maybe they could help her, but otherwise I would keep talking to her, comforting her, and keep suggesting that to her strongly. She obviously trusts you and this shouldn't be happening.

I would talk to your parents and tell them that you want to help her, and they should step in. If not parents, maybe someone else you trust thats older.

[Severus Snape]

You must intervene. She will thank you later. You will be acting in her best interests.

[Wisconsin]

completely agree with those above me. this is wrong and must be stopped. deception might not be the way to go but it is a last resort
(ex: make an appointment and tell her ur taking her somewhere she likes to go, then take her to the appointment)

[The Harlequin]

It was really hard, but I've told my parents, and they're really supportive, which is wonderful - we're investigating all the options she has open to her, and I told her that they knew today, she almost freaked out but she calmed down fairly soon after I said that they weren't going to interfere at all if she didn't want them to, it's all just for her information.

There's apparently this society called 'Relate' which is supposed to deal with this kind of thing, now I've just got to get her to go to an appointment. If they're aware of the problems now then at least if the nightmare scenario does occur then there's no explaining to do.

This has been so scary, I'm really grateful for all of your comments, they've been really helpful - I feel so relieved that I'm no longer catrrying the burden of being the only one to know the truth. Massive weight off my shoulders (Y)

xx

[Arantor]

You made the right decision, i'm glad it worked out.

Let us know how things end up.