Late night party with BFF/crush

[TheSleepingInsomniac]

So I have a BFF who is two years older than me she is 15 as of today and i'm 13 and mature for my age. So i'm invited to her party but i'm crushing on her so bad so is her boyfriend:cry: So i just know she is a very understanding person and i want to tell her i'm gay but not today because this is her day but i want to i don't know i just want to be with her i guess i don't know what my point is i may be mature but i'm still 13. Normally what i type is planed and ordered but today i'm typing like i talk in real life, this may be why i have no friends.
I don't know what i want from this advise, support, stories

[scuba steve]

Well by the sounds of things she is straight, since she has a boyfriend so even though you have a crush I would still say keep subtle about that. There's nothing wrong with being gay but there are still those who may feel "weirded out" by the whole thing so just be sure you trust her enough if you are going to tell her, I would also like to add to this that you are only 13 so you may only be curious, you have many years to put a title on yourself so just make sure your 100%.

If you really do want to tell her I would suggest doing it at a time when it's just the two of you, but don't be overempowering when you say it so if she is quite homophobic she doesn't feel your "coming onto her" or anything like that. But remember that she does have a boyfriend and 13 to 15 believe it or not at this age is quite a large age gap, hope this helps you get through the whole situation.

[TheSleepingInsomniac]

She has been my closest friend sense i was 11, she is not homophobic your confusing her with my mother. I am not going to come out to her on her birthday she has enough on her plate. I am 101% sure i am gay. As for the boyfriend thing she has told me she is bi.

[scuba steve]

She has been my closest friend sense i was 11, she is not homophobic your confusing her with my mother. I am not going to come out to her on her birthday she has enough on her plate. I am 101% sure i am gay. As for the boyfriend thing she has told me she is bi.

If your close enough then why not 2 years would still make me sceptical though, but whatever. I'd still wait and see what's happening with this boyfriend situation.

[TheSleepingInsomniac]

i'm not in love or anything it's a high school crush, like in 7th grade i had a crush on demi lavarto, i have no plans on pursuing anything with her.

[scuba steve]

i'm not in love or anything it's a high school crush, like in 7th grade i had a crush on demi lavarto, i have no plans on pursuing anything with her.

Well then what's your problem?

[TheSleepingInsomniac]

Well then what's your problem?

Coming out

[scuba steve]

Well you said that you were both close and that she was bi-sexual so I doubt she'll have any problem with it. It may be embarassing but what would be the point since she's more or less came out to you anyway.

[TheSleepingInsomniac]

Yes i know your right but i'm still new to coming out the only place i'm out is VT and i told my sister but she laughed and said "Alice i know your desperate but not that desperate come on."FML.

[scuba steve]

She's your sister, it's quite obvious she's going to refuse the idea initially unless you are extremely close, plus as I said before your only 13 so alot of people may think that your simply confused. You don't have to come out you know, if your not entirely comfortable with the idea then put it off for a while and think it over that this is the orientation you want people to recognise you by (I know you've said your mind is set on it, but i'm talking about on a public scale regardless of how small the audience.)

[TheSleepingInsomniac]

No public scale two close friends i trust with no reputation of gossip. my sister and the end for a long time. I just need people to support me and the people i choses to tell will always be people who
A need to know
B i respect to much to lie to
C Guys who constantly ask me out and won't take no
It's not that i'm ashamed i just don't feel the need to broadcast my sexuality.
I will tell my friend after she takes care of some personal problems.
Ps my parents do NOT fall into A B or C
Thanks for being mature and not just saying "ask the chick out"

[scuba steve]

Yea, that's probably the best way to handle things for now, the parents from what i've heard are always the hardest to deal with.

Anytime, this is what VT strives to sustain: a help site to provide confidence in those who seek it. :)

[coolmanin]

yeah!!!! she's not gay!!! if u propose maybe she may start hating u!!!! or atleast avoiding u!!!

[smitty35]

Well, if you really want her so bad, you can wait until she breaks up with her BF? I don't think she is gay at all, and if you ask her out, your friendship will most likely be ruined. But you can still tell her that you are gay, but dont ask her out.