Cut or not to cut?

[ashleighhxbby]

I've been going for about 3 weeks and 6 days now. I haven't done anything, but I'm getting restless. I'm always antsy... I promised someone I wouldn't, but I'm dying here. I feel like I need it.
Someone help me...please...

[FullyAlive]

Just keep focusing on that person try your hardest for them.
Distract yourself do anything draw, write, sing, listen to music, talk to someone.
Try different techniques like snapping an elastic band in your wrist, rubbing ice on the place you want to cut, draw in red pen where you want to cut.
And focus on those 3 weeks and 6 days you can go another 3 weeks 6 days trust me.
Hope some of this helps always here to talk if you need it.
:hug: xxxx

[ashleighhxbby]

It's just hard... I really just...baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah. I want to beat this, but I can't.

[FullyAlive]

You can you really can believe me I know it's hard incredibly so sometimes but you just have to keep trying you're stronger than this!

[ashleighhxbby]

If only I believed that. I'm pretty hopeless. Sigh, it's just I've been doing it for so long, I just can't stop for once and for all.

[FullyAlive]

You can though, you have to change you're attitude. Try to be a little more positive think to yourself " I can beat this Cutting won't control me " then maybe you'll start to believe it.
You don't need to stop straight away do it at you're own pace no one can just stop, they'll end up relapsing. Try to take little steps do it a bit at a time :)

[ashleighhxbby]

Oh, I know about relapsing. This is my gazillionth try to stop. I've done it cold turkey every time. I'm just tired of it. Tired of hiding it. I just want to be done.

[FullyAlive]

I understand, I want to be able to just stop too, but I can't it's hard. You say you've done it cold turkey everytime and relapsed, then may I suggest you try a different way?

[ashleighhxbby]

I don't know what to do anymore.

[FullyAlive]

I don't know what else to suggest, you just have to try really hard, you've gone 3 weeks 6 days if you hold out now then you can make it a month!
But remember if you do slip don't worry it's not the end of the world you can try again just keep going! xxxx

[Quahog]

Try wearing a rubber band around your wrist. Flick that everytime you feel the urge to cut. It's harder to quit for some, than it is for others. So don't feel ashamed in yourself. There has got to be something that you can do to distract yourself from cutting.

[ashleighhxbby]

I've tried rubberbands, it doesn't work for me. Nothing helps.

[Quahog]

Oh dear. Have you tried squeezing ice cubes? You can also try squishing playdoh. I don't know if you have any.

[RAWWR]

^^ playdoh is immense!
How about, (and I'm not in any way supporting self harm here, but I know how hard it is to quit, I still can't do it.) You choose a few days a week, say 2 or 3 depending on how little you can manage, that you can self harm on, then-taking it slowly and only when you feel ready, do you decrease the amount of days, till hopefully you won't have any days where you self harm :)
Another thing I realised a while back was that I was self harming when I was only a little bit stressed out and triggerd, If you try not to cut then and only do it when you feel desperate, you will find you self harm a lot less, and then can focus on those times more and try and find the reasons behind them :)

[katieinwonderlandx]

I find that i cut at night. So if im trying to stop, ill usually tell myself that i have to go to sleep, and if it still feels as bad in the morning, i will let myself cut then. Its true that once you sleep on something, it never seems as bad. and instead of waking up with new scars and cuts and thinking, 'why the fuck did i do that?! it wasnt worth it!' i wake up thinking, 'i got through the night'. You coud try having a bath, or watching a movie and telling yourself that if the urge is as bad afterwards, then you will do it. you just have to get through that urge. the rubber bands/ ice cubes etc never ever worked for me either, but i know they are very useful for a lot of people, maybe give them more of a chance?. Try writing down all of the reasons you want to cut, even if they seem small. and then go through them, and say whether or not cutting yourself will make any of them any better, or make any of them change. youl find that all the reasons will still be there, and you will be hurting on top of it all. it wont change anything, and it wont make you feel better for long. you are a beautiful girl, and you deserve to love yourself. youv just lost your way. find it. xxx

[ashleighhxbby]

38 days. THIRTY EIGHT. I'm doing it. I can do this. Thank you guys so much. I really appreciate it. <3 xoxoxoxo.