Crush on a teacher

[PJay]

Ok I mentioned to a friend that I have a bit of a crush on one of my teachers. He's pretty young, cute and as he teaches IT and runs the network I sort of hang with him if I have free time and help out sometimes. I think he likes me and he knows a lot about me and had really helped me in the past.

Just to be clear I have a boyfriend and I dont want anything to happen, im just being honest I do fancy this teacher.

Now I respect my friends opinion a lot, and I thought that was pretty normal, but my friend was a bit wierded out. I What do you think? Is it really a problem or is everyone just really paranoid about this stuff these days?

[Donkey]

Pauly babs, to be honest - it's hardly unheard that people have crushes with teachers. It's quite common for teen girls to have crushes on their male teachers, and thus would seemingly also be common for gay guys. The bit I was really weirded out by was the fact that you said you guys were flirting. It's fine having a crush, but if I were you since your teacher is in a position of trust I wouldn't take it any further than that. Be friends, friendly and whatever but flirting is probably too much.

[PJay]

Yeah but straight boys do that right? By flirting i'm not meaning "innapropriate touching" lol. Just kidding around really ... not in a way that would get the guy fired obviously.

[Donkey]

I've never really felt anything for any teacher, lol. That said none of them are particularly attractive, you do hear of things happening with straight boys in the paper so there must be something going on in their heads with the right teachers. Just make sure the flirting doesn't go any further and you should be fine anyway

[nick]

I agree pretty much with what Jon has said, but I would also say that you need to remember that you could be putting his career at risk just by hanging around with him if there's no one else present. Even if nothing ever happens someone could make an accusation and it could screw up his whole future.

[Bluesman]

I think it might be common to think that a teacher is cute or something or even to have a crush on one. I find it extremely weird but it still happens a lot... I mean you spend a few hours a day with them for 180 days, in some situations it could be inevitable.

[Charleigh]

I would ask to be moved class, having a crush on a teacher can affect your education.

[Scarface]

Well let me put it this way:

You can have your thoughts, but do not act on them. Just because you may think he's flirting with you, don't ever think that it validates it or makes it OK. It's not. Having relations with teachers is really not a good idea and it could adversely effect you as well as the teacher. As well as you stated that you have a boyfriend so that's a danger zone within itself.

I don't think it's weird because everyone has thought of different things, but that doesn't mean you should act on them. If you think that this teacher is starting to become serious or make more than just "flirty" gestures, request to move your class. It's for your safety because it isn't right for the teacher to be allowing something like that and shouldn't happen regardless of how much he's helped you. Just let those thoughts pass, as they will sooner or later. If you need help or someone to talk to I'm always here. Good luck and be safe.

[FullyAlive]

As others have said having a crush on a young attractive teacher is fine it's not weird it's normal having a crush on an old weird teacher would be strange. But you can't act on it, he shouldn't be flirting with you, but he could just be a generally happy, talkative person. I have teachers that are fairly open and some conversations could be seen as flirting but there not. It's highly unlikely he would want anything to happen, but if he does you can't see him or anything again it's illegal and wrong he is in a position of trust.
Just keep the "flirting" minimal and it should be ok.

[Syvelocin]

I agree with the other posters.

I had a crush on one of my old English teachers. Yeah... she was a girl :P 20-something, really pretty, probably even the smartest of my teachers in my opinion even though she was one of the youngest. She talked to me a lot, helping me with some of my issues like the depression spell I had at the time.

All you can really do is just enjoy their company though. Like others have said, even if they do feel the same way about you, it would jeopardise their job, as well as their entire career.