help?

[mynameisnotimportant]

i made a promise to my boyfriend that i wouldnt cut ever again after he threatend to dump me when he found out. last weekend he brought up out of the blue that he needed time to himself and i got really stressed and did it. he found out and left me...before this happend at the weekend i managed to last 6 months without. he was the only reason i hadnt and now hes gone im finding it hard to stop myself. i feel like ive failed. i just want to know what i can do.

[Quahog]

You didn't need him to quit. He wasn't really a good friend to begin with, if it he isn't able to help you through situations like that. I have faith in you, and I know that you can do it without him. 6 months is a long time, and I know that you can keep going. You didn't fail yourself. We're here to help you.

[Njathind]

You know if he gave you that ultimatium maybe its for the best that he's gone :( He may have loved you but he should not have forced you to choose between SH and him, instead he should have helped you to quite.

Just remeber you didnt fail, you slipped up, and what do you do when you slip up in the street? You pick yourself up and carry on walking. Pleas remeber that, and the fact I and everyone else here on VT is here for you. :hug:

As Jesse said 6 Months is a heck of a long time and you should be proud of making it that far, maybe try variouse distraction techniques when you get the urge :confused:
You can beat this, I know you can, keep going hun :hug:

[kidkizzet]

Firstly, you haven't failed, that's an important thing to remember. You slipped, but you didn't fail.

You didn't need your boyfriend to quit, and he obviously wasn't a good friend because he didn't help you out, and he should have tried to understand and realised that it's not as simple as not cutting. You're better off without him.

You did well to go 6 months without cutting, and you can do that again. I know it's really hard not to cut, but you can do it. There's the announcement http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/announcement.php?f=16&a=52 and that has some alternatives for you, there's a list of what you can do instead. I know it's hard to find a reason not to cut, but quitting now is best for you.

You can do this. We're all here to help you, and if you ever need to talk, then I and a lot of other people are here for you. Keep going. :hug:

[Charleigh]

You havent failed. You have just fallen a little bit and maybe becoming a little more down, you need to stand up straight and not fall down completley! You havent failed at all, you just dealt with all of your emotions and stresses in a different way. He doesnt understand and he is most probly ignorant to it. I would forget about him hun. Or, text him or talk to him and ask him to help you get through this together and that you dont want to be alone, but you want him to help you and support you through this.
Here if you need to talk ^^
:hug:

[LoveMe_HateMe]

You haven't failed. Just a slight trip. At the end of the day, if you can go 6 months (which is a really long time, and well done for stopping for that long... longer than I could ever manage anyway) then you do that again, and go for longer. Okay, so you may not have him any more, but just think about how you felt when you weren't cutting, hopefully that'll make you keep from doing it.

Also, as the other's have said, he shouldn't of had to make you choose between him and SH. At the end of the day, you should stop because YOU wanted to, not because someone else did. You have to stop for yourself not anybody else... Otherwise, it probably wont work....

But, stay strong and good luck with stopping :)