somebody please help

[vanhalenftw1539]

ive been really confused lately,

ive grown up liking girls. ive had crushes on girls in school, admired girls on tv, the whole 9 yards. i remember one time the girl i liked snuggled up next to me in first grade and i loved it.

but ever since a couple years ago when i hit puberty, ive been really curious. just by guys my age or that i know personally. my liking for girls isnt as strong as it used to be, although i have never liked or wanted a relationship with a guy. it seems like the main thing that arouses me is picturing guys my age (or younger) naked or jacking off with them. not anything serious, just experimenting. but im sure if they actually asked me i'd say no.

girls my age always talk about male celebrities being hot. i dont find any of those guys hot. im actually confused about the concept of finding someone hot. are you supposed to get a boner or what? but its only guys my age, i dont find guys in general attractive.

the feelings i get around girls are different than my curiosity. when i see a guy in my grade that i've fantasized about jacking off with, its a feeling more in my stomach and i might get aroused. (this happens with female celebrities naked or porn as well). however i'm emotionally attracted to girls only. when i see a pretty girl in a movie, or an adorable school that i have feelings for at school, the warm feeling is more in my upper chest closer to my heart. for example a girl i kind of like kissed me on the cheek and i loved it. i saw the girl at the grocery store last night and my heart started to beat faster. that sort of thing.

i dont know if im ready for a relationship, i tried one and it didnt work, but im open to try again. and i want to get married, in fact i have pictured myself marrying that one girl that i mentioned. i dont have any of these feelings about guys. but it just seems like the sexual attraction to guys my age is the strongest feeling i get although i dont want serious or any relationships with guys.

im not sure how im supposed to feel about girls. the feelings my guy friends describe for girls are a lot stronger than the ones i feel. they can rate girls on their hotness and zone out in class thinking about a girl they like. im not that "girl crazy." is that normal?

bottom line:

- i grew up straight
- when puberty started ive been extremely curious
- the main thing that arouses me is my curiosity
- only for guys my age, not guys in general
- naked female celebrities and girls in general arouse me too
- however ive only wanted relationships with girls
- want to get married to a girl and have a family
- not as "girl crazy" as my friends

will the curiosity pass? am i straight? gay? is this normal? HELP!

[aaron4455]

yes its normal its just puberty from the sounds of it ur straight just curios, maby u should experament a lil ur the only one who will know what ur sexuality is dont think about it too much i didnt lol and i figured out im bi lol

[smitty35]

ya after reading all of that, i think you are str8 curious, when puberty ends you will have made a desicion.

[vanhalenftw1539]

ya after reading all of that, i think you are str8 curious, when puberty ends you will have made a desicion.

and the curiosity will end eventually right?

[jrl719]

and the curiosity will end eventually right?

Yes it will. It can end either during or after. It's just a matter of time. I had the same problem, and I just figured out I was bi, and there is nothing wrong with it. Just gotta do what you gotta do ^_^

[merrad14]

and the curiosity will end eventually right?

You are obviously just going through a stage of curiousity that everyone goes through... it is a part of puberty... I myself am BI and i decided that upon being "curious" i eventually started liking guys more and more... until i decided i must be BI... :)

[Cazhockey12]

It's all part of puberty. You most likely stop feeling this way soon

[Fact]

Puberty :arrow2: Sexuality

[Mrs.KermitTheFrogx]

Straight but curious probly
i only count it if your emotionally attracted to the same sex :)
but everybody will have diffrent opinions xx

[Brandon K]

normaly dont worry=]

[OutOfOrder]

Hey,

I am currently having the same kind of problem as you are. I think that you are straight, but you are just curious. If you are emotionally attracted to girls, even if you have these kinds of thoughts, it usually means you are straight. But it really is only you who can fully tell what you are. I would say maybe try to explore some and then you can figure it out.

Hope that helps!
-OutOfOrder-

[xChrisVx]

will the curiosity pass? am i straight? gay? is this normal? HELP![/QUOTE]




You are completely normal. I'm exactly like that as well and i'm not ashamed. Although i dont consider myself gay.

[Contra]

I'm just like you and I have the same fears as you, and I keep thinking if these feelings will ever disappear. I can tell you, being on VT, and seeing other people who feel the same way as I do makes me feel so much better about myself, because I can tell I'm not gay, not that I have anything against homosexuals, I just don't feel or picture myself as one.

And about your friends who rate girls and stuff, I bet they have the same feelings as you.

[sdude]

Yep, all is well mate, give yourself a break and see where life takes you...bi or straight, most guys do some healthy experimenting during their life...and whether it's with a buddy or someone you meet once, your relationships with girls is probably where u will end up...although I think from talking to my uncle (who is bi) the curiousity really doesn't end....you just aren't jumping with hormones all the time..lol..

[willrod]

Though only you can decide for yourself, after reading your post you sound either str8/curious, or bisexual to some degree. Though things can also change; like when I was 12/13- I knew that I liked guys physically, but the thought of being in a relationship with a guy didn't appeal to me. But just after I turned 15 or so, things changed, and I kept dreaming of one day having a husband, so you never know. Just give it some time and you'll figure it out. :)

[greekboy]

You sound like a normal teenage boy to me. Powerful hormones are pouring through your body during puberty which can cuase confused feelings. Also it is normal to be attracted to people of your own gender at this age even if you are completely straight. it is part of your own self image and self awareness programming. Also males are very visual in their stimulation, even when the vision is only one they made up in their mind. You say that you have no emotional attraction to guys - that is the big gay test then that you just failed. The feelings that are confusing you will pass as puberty develops and your hormones settle down. You sound completely normal to me. If not there are millions of others just as weird as you - oh, wait that is the definition of normal, there, see..

[Deathwingo0o]

ive been really confused lately,

ive grown up liking girls. ive had crushes on girls in school, admired girls on tv, the whole 9 yards. i remember one time the girl i liked snuggled up next to me in first grade and i loved it.

but ever since a couple years ago when i hit puberty, ive been really curious. just by guys my age or that i know personally. my liking for girls isnt as strong as it used to be, although i have never liked or wanted a relationship with a guy. it seems like the main thing that arouses me is picturing guys my age (or younger) naked or jacking off with them. not anything serious, just experimenting. but im sure if they actually asked me i'd say no.

girls my age always talk about male celebrities being hot. i dont find any of those guys hot. im actually confused about the concept of finding someone hot. are you supposed to get a boner or what? but its only guys my age, i dont find guys in general attractive.

the feelings i get around girls are different than my curiosity. when i see a guy in my grade that i've fantasized about jacking off with, its a feeling more in my stomach and i might get aroused. (this happens with female celebrities naked or porn as well). however i'm emotionally attracted to girls only. when i see a pretty girl in a movie, or an adorable school that i have feelings for at school, the warm feeling is more in my upper chest closer to my heart. for example a girl i kind of like kissed me on the cheek and i loved it. i saw the girl at the grocery store last night and my heart started to beat faster. that sort of thing.

i dont know if im ready for a relationship, i tried one and it didnt work, but im open to try again. and i want to get married, in fact i have pictured myself marrying that one girl that i mentioned. i dont have any of these feelings about guys. but it just seems like the sexual attraction to guys my age is the strongest feeling i get although i dont want serious or any relationships with guys.

im not sure how im supposed to feel about girls. the feelings my guy friends describe for girls are a lot stronger than the ones i feel. they can rate girls on their hotness and zone out in class thinking about a girl they like. im not that "girl crazy." is that normal?

bottom line:

- i grew up straight
- when puberty started ive been extremely curious
- the main thing that arouses me is my curiosity
- only for guys my age, not guys in general
- naked female celebrities and girls in general arouse me too
- however ive only wanted relationships with girls
- want to get married to a girl and have a family
- not as "girl crazy" as my friends

will the curiosity pass? am i straight? gay? is this normal? HELP!


Me too. I get turned off by gay porn but turned on by those near my age. I can't imagine telling my parents I'm bottom or telling my bf I'm top.