Finding a partner or a group

[Jess]

idk if this should go here or Education & Careers. move if needed

anyways I hate it when you have to find your own partner or group to work on some assignment or project. Why? because I have no friends I want to be with. I'd rather the teacher choose the groups or partner.

Whenever the teacher says, "Find a group of 3" or whatever, I wait until everyone else finds their own group, then get the teacher to notice I don't have a group. Then my teacher would put me in a group

I want to improve this. I don't want to be the one that gets left out and have to have the teacher find me a group. also, last year in World affairs I ended up working on a big project by myself because no one wanted..I mean I had NO partner.

At times I like working alone, but if it's something difficult I don't want to be by myself. It makes me lonely and stuff.

I need to improve this!

First steps I know is to overcome my shyness. And I'm stills struggling with that.

Then I have to make real friends.

advice? :/

[Mrs.KermitTheFrogx]

Compliment girls
not to much becuase you dont want to be overly keen
but the odd comment like 'Aww i love your hair it looks really nice today'
will really build up peoples opinion on you ...
Always be friendly and bubbly
And never be moody look for the kindest girls in your class and talk to them occasionaly
eventually you will get closer to people :)
and if you actually have no friends ... this is pritty big
but what about changing to a nearby school
get a fresh start ... i always wish i could start school again ... but no point im in my last year :} haha good luck hunnie :) xx

[Jess]

I'm not going to change to another school, not in the middle of the school year and not when the school I'm going to is better than most other schools. And my mom won't like this...:|

[Ambrosia]

I'm just like that when I'm in class where none of my friends are. But I've improved a LOT over the past four years. By the time you reach middle school there's pretty much no such thing as "making new friends" with the people you have gone to school with for years. What you do is take deep breaths and wait until everyone is up. Pick out the nerdiest kid in the class and just ask him...

I usually go to the group of super smart nerds and say "Hey. I'm in your group." It's easier then asking. They can't say no when you STATED a FACT!

[The Madness.]

When you're asked to pick groups, if they say a group of 3, just go up to a group of girls with 2 people. "Hey, want to work together?" Something along those lines. Just ask someone, most people would be glad to work with you as long as you try to keep a conversation going.

[Vonn]

In all of my classes, everybody already has their own established group. Whenever a group assignment/project is assigned, they all automatically move into their groups. The good thing is that there's always a few loners, so I group with them and we're all satisfied.

Aren't there any loners you can join?

[Andrew0017]

In all of my classes, everybody already has their own established group. Whenever a group assignment/project is assigned, they all automatically move into their groups. The good thing is that there's always a few loners, so I group with them and we're all satisfied.

Aren't there any loners you can join?

Yeah, same thing happened in my school.
I'm on the quiet side as well, and oftentimes in high school I wouldn't luck out and have friends in my classes. So I would usually stake out the other quiet kids and join their group or try to work by myself. (Sometimes I'd have teachers that would let people work alone if they really wanted to. You could try asking them about that.)

[IAMWILL]

I think you just need to be open to everyone. As long as you show you want to work hard at the project and you have a good, happy attitude going into the project, almost everyone will accept you.

[AutumnDae]

Whoever you sit next to in class, just whisper, "Hey, wanna be partners?"

It's like this for me in gym, and a few of my classes. I don't have ANY friends in my gym class, I stand off to the side until there are all the groups made and either do whatever it is alone or make a larger group because my teacher makes me.

In my history class last year, 2 of my friends were in the class as well. We had a partner project, and they paired up. I was left without a partner, and I got stuck with the kid who was absent. Which ended up being not half bad, he actually did his share of the work instead of leaving it all for me.

[Jess]

thanks for the advice guys

I need to work on this. I'm still shy and don't talk much...THAT I need to work on, though it's improving a bit

[Sebastian Michaelis]

Im just like that. Try being friendly outside of classes with someone you know you'd work well with. It worked for me. GOOD LUCK!

[Contra]

I know it's hard, but just try to connect with people from your class outside. Talk to them, start random and nice conversations, that's a good first step towards achieving a good friendship. Then, if you have friends, it will be easier to form groups with your class mates.

[Alaph]

Other people want friends too, get involved and they'll probably like you.

[Jess]

talk? random conversations? I hate talking :/