What am I supposed to do?

[screamtobeheard]

My mom's so pissed off at me. I'm not entirely sure why, but that isn't the point. She went off on me (took my phone too, but gave it back when she realized I didn't card), told me I'm never going to be able to keep a job or have friends or get married because I "talk down to people." I don't talk down to anyone, I simply treat them with the same amount of respect they treat me with, and the word respect might as well not be in my mother's vocabulary. But she made me worry. I'm scared I'm a terrible person. I mean, I already hated myself, but now...I don't know if I can deal with it.

And then she checked my grades and pointed out that they're dropping. Which is true, but my lowest grade is a 94. I have three 95s, a 97, and a 102. She said she didn't care, but she screamed at me. I know my grades are falling, but it's hard for me to make myself read or study or do my homework. I mean, I can barely get out of bed most days. I just feel so...sad all the time, it's hard to function, and that's why my grades are dropping. That's why I'm in a bad mood a lot of times. I don't know what to do. I just feel awful right now. Someone please help me...

[Quahog]

Maybe you should find a tutor, or study group, if you feel your grades are dropping. Maybe you should explain your problems more openly to your mother. Maybe she is taking your bad grades, as you not caring, and you need to tell her, that you just need help studying for school.

[Ambrosia]

You are NOT a bad person and you need to ignore what your mother says about that. Talking to a parent with the same amount of respect they show you will cause issues, I know this from experience. Just because our parents speak to us one way supposedly gives us no grounds to treat them the same; That's where we have to learn to make them think they are respected a bit more.

How you speak to your peers is something totally different. It sounds like your mom is just mad because you don't talk to her with "the respect she deserves" (as my parents call it). This doesn't mean you will never get a job or get married. It just means you have higher standereds for how you wish to be treated and you're not afraid to make that known.

[Kitty]

some time's parents have a high expectations. I know this because my parents hope i will live up to my sisters A* grades and doctors future.

When i think i'm a terrible person i simply talk to a friend that i can have a laugh with. And i think...why is she friends with me? And if you where a terrible person she wouldn't be friends with me <3 xxxxxxxxx

[screamtobeheard]

Let me clarify on the dropping grades. I'm still a straight A student, my grades are just lower As than usual. School is easy for me. I just don't do anything.

That being said, thank you all for you advice and input. (: