I need some really good advice....from a girl

[guitarfreak174]

So for starters ive been dating this girl off and on for two and a half years. the first time we broke up, it was because she was curious about bisexualism. after a few months we realized that we missed each other and got back together. I was iffy but im into giving second chances. we broke up again a year later because we were falling away from each other. sophomore year was hell for both of us without each other. We got back together for the same reason. well now we are both juniors and we are doing all right. but i just recently found out that she had cheated on me with a girl freshmen year. it wasnt anything to do with me but she was curious and was bi. she was actually the one who told me about the cheating. to add on... she has done everything besides straight sex. i havent gone past the "hands on part". she has been my first for everything and im doubting trust and my ability to please her. Please give some good advice!

[Sapphire]

When you say that you both miss each other maybe it is in a more plutonic way. Missing the other persons company, not actually missing the love or intimacy. If you are doubting trust then maybe you should both settle for being close mates instead, which ever. I am not justifying what she did in that freshman year by saying this, but sounds as if it was just experimentation. You have already said that her uncertain sexuality caused a break up.

May I ask why it did cause the break up though? I mean if she was uncertain as to whether she was bi or straight it shouldn't have caused such problems. Was she questioning her attraction to guys?

[guitarfreak174]

i think that the reason that we broke up was because she thought that i wouldnt understand. She thought about my morals (im a christian but one that doesnt go to church every week, i cuss, etc...). But that was one of the reasons that we got back together. I let her know that i was here for her no matter what.

[desertpaint]

Honestly i think its a bit weird that she left you to experiment with bisexuality. it sounds to me that she is unsure of what she wants. i think that if there is still a possibility of her being interested in girls you should tell her that you dont think you should be together until she is sure about what she wants. i also think that it was wrong of her to cheat on you.

All sexuality aside, i think that your relationship is too complicated. you have been on and off for three of your high school years... you need to meet new girls instead of limiting yourself to just her because i can assure you that there are more girls that are actually worth your time :)

[obsessivedisorder]

Look, if you are guessing, you shouldn't be. You have given this girl enough chances, and now, it's not fair to you. I'm not experienced with relationships, but I do know that you deserve more than what she was giving you no matter your feelings for her. The feelings weren't mutual in the end, and you should be with someone will feel the same for you as you would for her. Did that make sense?

[ImCoolBeans]

Please start checking the dates when postingm this is a 6 year bump. :locked: