Im lonely.

[Etzim]

I have been really Depressed about this for a while now. Everything in my life has been going very swell nothing out of the ordinary, no suicidal thoughts at all.

Do you ever get that feeling that You just want somebody you can hold, talk too and love and work out each others problems? I get it all the time... Im a Jr in high school, I'm 16 and i go to a private school.... Mostly guys go to my school... No girls AT ALL. It kills me i can't stand it!
I go to that school for 2 periods of the day then i transfer to a technical school for diesel mechanics for the rest of the day. Jee i wonder do any girls work on diesels? NOPE! Guys all day. Its drowning me in depression.

I don't know how to find a girl to hang out with or date when i don't even see any girls at all, all day! I have dated plenty of girls before. My last relation ship really hurt me... She cheated on me three months in. You have no idea how that even made me feel, Especially after having sex. I didn't even know what to say to her after that. I haven't dated anyone sense, that was 8 months ago.

I don't know what too do. I'm really lonely and need a friend. I don't have very many friends because I transfer from school to class all day. And all my other friends are growing up and getting Jobs and responsibility.

I know this sounds very dramatic and desperate, but its killing me to the point where its the only way.
I'm just being honest on how I feel. And I'm hurting really bad inside.:(

Please help me i don't know what to do!


Oh yeah and you can call me Sean~ Thanks

[Josiah7]

Sounds like you are really doing it tough. You just have to stay strong, and find someone you are comfortable to talk to. There are many, many people on this site alone that will be willing to talk to you. There will be someone out there that will be right for you. The challenge is just finding them.

Good to hear that you are not thinking about self harm - it only leads to further depression and problems. Stay Strong. There will be the one for you. Have a chat with people on here and try to enjoy yourself, I know its hard but things will look really brighter when your feeling happy rather then down.

Im just a message away if you need to talk futher. Here to Help.

[Etzim]

But i cant find anyone, No girls go to any of my schools, I been looking.
And when i do see girls there either in a relationship or not my type.

[Josiah7]

Maybe it would be better to not dive straight into a relationship straight off the bat. It sounds weird i know but develop small friendships for awhile then once you really like someone go on from there. Nothing says that you need to have a GF (But of course it is nice to have one). Just take it slow, we all will meet a person we like at some stage. Go out with your mates on the weekends and you may meet some girls through them. Just dont dive into a relationship straight away. If you rush into one - she may not be the one and it ends. What happens after that ? - Your back to where you started.

Feel free to message me if you want. Here to Help.

[Etzim]

I don't try to get a gf right off the bat. I just i guess i have a problem making friends. I must not seem to fit in very well. Not only that There just are no girls around. I have a few friends, but it would be really weird to try to hook up with one of my friends friends you know?

[Josiah7]

Yeah Mate I know, Been there myself. Do you have any general hobbies that you could get into, sport (Not sure about your area) or clubs/organisations outside school that you can get into to make friends. It worked for me. Here in Aus I joined a Army Cadet Unit and am now a Senior Rank and the Medic for over 100 people. Not sure about what you have near you but could you give something like that a go ?

[Etzim]

Yeah Mate I know, Been there myself. Do you have any general hobbies that you could get into, sport (Not sure about your area) or clubs/organisations outside school that you can get into to make friends. It worked for me. Here in Aus I joined a Army Cadet Unit and am now a Senior Rank and the Medic for over 100 people. Not sure about what you have near you but could you give something like that a go ?
I go to a small private school and there are no After school activities, we don't even have a gym. And my other school is a technical school also privateish, The only thing they offer is to allow you to attend the after school activities at your other school.

I don't even know where to start looking for activities outside school.

[Josiah7]

Do you like to play any sports or anything like that ???

[Etzim]

About 3 years ago i did competitive gymnastics and was a lvl 9 gold medalist.
It got way to serious and stressful so i quite

I'm too short and small for football, not only that I'm not a big fan.
I don't like soccer.
Not interested in baseball,
Did competitive dive team and swimming for years. I got bored of it
Wouldn't even try hockey, that sport is crazy.
I did wrestling and got my ass kicked because I'm small haha. I don't feel like getting made fun of for lack of skills, and size
I can't really think of anything else.

[Josiah7]

If your generally intrested in something persue it. If you can do something that will get you out and meet new people do it. Who knows where it might lead. In saying that not sure bout how busy your life is but it is a idea you may be able to build on.

Another thing you can do to keep busy and may meet new people is volunteering to do stuff for organisations around your area. In saying all that I think building friendships with the other people at school is important - then you can branch off that to new people. But its up to you and whatever you are comfortable with.

[Etzim]

I think i just realized i have some bad social skills that need to be worked on. But i think it has a lot to do with me an who i am. people dont like me, Im very different from others, i have a very different way of seeing things, and being short doesn't help either.
Me and my friends are hella fucking weird. I have had the same 2 friends for 8 years now, When i try to make new friends it never feels the same as when me and my other buddy's became friends, its like we never connected or clicked you know. There has gotta be something im doing wrong.
But then i don't understand how i have had so many relationships over the years i had the social skills for that.
why have i not made any new friends in the past 8 years? Help me on this one?

[Josiah7]

U obvioulsy arnt shy or nervous - seeing you have had so many relationships. Just work on communication with others. I was hopeless at communication -couldnt even go to a shop and ask for something a few years ago. But i worked on it by (I know it is going to sound super nerdy but its not; I made it cool :P) I joined the debating team at school and now i teach First aid to 120 Cadets all by myself. It takes pratice it took me awhile but im fine with it now.

Why havent u made friends ? Without knowing you I cant say for sure but; if you work on communication it should be fine. 1. Communication and 2. Get out there and meet new people. It may talk a little time but will pay off in the end.

[Etzim]

U obvioulsy arnt shy or nervous - seeing you have had so many relationships. Just work on communication with others. I was hopeless at communication -couldnt even go to a shop and ask for something a few years ago. But i worked on it by (I know it is going to sound super nerdy but its not; I made it cool :P) I joined the debating team at school and now i teach First aid to 120 Cadets all by myself. It takes pratice it took me awhile but im fine with it now.

Why havent u made friends ? Without knowing you I cant say for sure but; if you work on communication it should be fine. 1. Communication and 2. Get out there and meet new people. It may talk a little time but will pay off in the end.Yeah i guess your right. Communication is the key. Thanks Josiah.

[Josiah7]

No Problem Mate, If you ever want to talk - dont be shy, always willing to help :)

[Skeptical Bear]

I have the same problem. I have one friend I hang out with once in a while but I'm usually lonely. I try to hang but sometimes get turned down with some stupid excuse. Especially with girls. I don't if they're trying to blow me off or just telling the truth but I give up. Maybe you can hang out with some people. Talk to them. Even if you have facebook or something else. Start a conversation, get their number. Ask if they wanna hang out sometime. I'm no expert but I hope this helped a bit.

[Etzim]

Thanks. I really appreciate the help guys. :)

[Skeptical Bear]

Your welcome. :)

[gingeylover14]

try gettin envolved in a local youth group or something most of them have cool outings and its a great way 2 meet ppl i dnt no wht id do if i dnt hav my youth group to lean on

[Mrs.KermitTheFrogx]

Broaden your horizon my friend :)
Join clubs outside of school were you cant meett people
Go out with your friends who have girlfriends and get them to take a few of their mates along :D
hahaaa i go to an all girls school so but im bii so it doesnt really affect me
especially since theres a boys school across the road
but i feel you when you say you just want sombody to hold
I love the feeling when somones got their arms around you
and now it just feels lonly even when your surronded by millions of friends ...
If you ever need to talk private message/msn/Wall postt

And you can call me Viki :DD haha xx

[Etzim]

Thanks for this guys. Lately i have been relying on my local youth group, Every week i been urging to go, its a lot of fun we play some games and meet people. But im afraid to ask anyone if they want to hang out or date because they are religious. Im Christian just so you know. Im not a Freak about it tho i bend the rules. Idk tho its been really hard for me to meet new people and make new friends.

[Skatergirl]

Do you ever get that feeling that You just want somebody you can hold, talk too and love and work out each others problems?
Yes! :(
I know what you're going through. Well the lonely part anyway. Some days I feel so lonely too. I haven't had a boyfriend for over 2 years. I never get to see my friends either.

Anyway I didn't see all the replies, but have you tried getting into some kind of sports or something besides school?
Oh, I just scrolled down and saw you're in a Youth Group. That's great. :)
I hope you meet a really nice girl who will treat you right, soon. :)

[Etzim]

Thanks i hope so too. i really do. It sucks to have nothing and feel unliked.

I just made friends with a kid in my diesel class. We are going to hang out next weekend and take the intakes off are cars and clean them and the throttle bodys. I hope all goes well.
Please do not double post- Fiction

[Skatergirl]

Well that's good. Good luck with that! :)

[EvilDeathMist]

i know what your going through.....do something so your not depressed ( i know easier said then done, but try).......its overiously seeming challenging but maybe youll get it easier when you get out of school...... maybe what your studying is important and for some reason your ment to study that career and faith dosnt want you to mess it up on something else.....
and if anything im a person who likes to listen so if you ever need anyone to talk with i have an open mind all the time =]

[Etzim]

Again thanks guys. Feel free to Chat me on my profile. Posting this made me realize a lot and im going to make a change. And im working on figuring out what it is that i need to change.

[Skatergirl]

That's great! Good luck with everything!
And no problem. :)