Step Brother is entering puberty.

[Voodoo]

Alright, so my stepbrother is 11 years old and he is entering puberty, a few days ago he came to me asking some questions, witch I found kinda strange seeing how he has two older brothers. But he told me he trusts me the most, he asked me why his privates get hard when he looks at boys and girls I tryed to tell him it's hormones But I don't think he understands it. Then he asked me why his "private area" is growing hair (I think hes a early bloomer) I tryed to tell him why, he just doesn't understand.. Any tips on how to tell him for his age group? I tryed to tell him in the best I could but no luck. :/

[nick]

Really all you need to tell him is that these things are normal and happen to every boy, that its just a sign of growing up and becoming a man.

There's no need to go into the biology of things.

[Voodoo]

Really all you need to tell him is that these things are normal and happen to every boy, that its just a sign of growing up and becoming a man.

There's no need to go into the biology of things.

Well I tryed that he keeps wondering why him and not his friends also... I guessed he asked one of their friends and they said it wasn't happening to him. Thanks for the help nick! +1 rep coming your way.

[nick]

Well I tryed that he keeps wondering why him and not his friends also... I guessed he asked one of their friends and they said it wasn't happening to him. Thanks for the help nick! +1 rep coming your way.

Hey, no problem. Just tell him that it happens earlier for some guys than for others and that he should feel proud to be ahead of the game. 11 is a perfectly normal age to start puberty, you can reassure him of that.

[Severus Snape]

There are some great websites out there geared towards younger teens that act as an easy to use FAQ. I understand if you are kind of hesitant to answer all of his questions. It would be a bit awkward.

[greekboy]

Since he clearly trust you above all others it is important that you try and answer his questions to his satisfaction although he may not have the same frame of refernce as you to work with. The most important thing to tell him is that what is happening is completely normal and is part of growing up and therefore happens to everybody in roughly the same way. Perhaps the best way is to tell him what happened to you. I agree with Nick that graphic biology lessons are probably not the way just yet.

[smitty35]

you need to tell him that he is an early bloomer and that he is priveleged to be ahead of his friends, you might have to sit him down and answer all his questions, i mean he has the right to know this, as his big (step) brother its kind of your duty to fill him on this kind of stuff.

[sdude]

Yeah, dude..tell him how all the other boys will be looking up to him for his growth stuff..if it gets too much, let him join this site to find out more...he's a lucky boy!

[qawsedrftg]

if i wer u id just leave him to find out on his own, it'll be way easier for u and him if he doesnt have to go through an embarrassing talk lol.

[tyler007]

I think that NICK gave you the best advice, he normaly does.
And i think that you should talk with him and try to answer his questions as much as possible. And i think that you are luck that he feel comfortable enuff to come and talk to you about this. So talk with him.

[Kaius]

If his brother is only 11 years old it's against the rules for him to join up. No harm on you reading up on things though and advise him on it. You don't have to go into all the ins and outs of it, just let him know what to expect

[Voodoo]

Agreed, I just wanted to see if others had any better ways to explained it I kinda did they way I would on here. He seems very confused.

[jason123]

Nick made the best advice. not much more to add to that

[josh6387]

You can always show him websites and such. Just explain to him how it happened to you or something.

[neigh]

tell him he can ask the school nurse, or PE instructor.

[pawn12]

sounds like u did waht u can