Sex Before Marriage?

[Geraaboo]

Yes Or No? And Why?

[Jess]

you can do whatever you want. personally, I would wait afterwards or not do it at all

[Vonn]

I don't believe it's a sacred/holy act. It's natural and people should be able to do it whenever they please, marriage or not.

[Modus Operandi]

While I don't hold the belief that it's 'holy', I doubt I would before making a long-term commitment to someone. Just for practical reasons.

[Amnesiac]

Sex is a natural biological process. Actually, the only reason you exist is to have sex and reproduce to further the species. Treating the activity as if it were 'sacred' and something to be 'saved', therefore suppressing natural urges to do it, is stupid and goes against nature.

Therefore, I don't believe in abstinence. However, I do believe in condoms.

[Sith Lord 13]

Sex is a natural biological process. Actually, the only reason you exist is to have sex and reproduce to further the species. Treating the activity as if it were 'sacred' and something to be 'saved', therefore suppressing natural urges to do it, is stupid and goes against nature.

Therefore, I don't believe in abstinence. However, I do believe in condoms.

Condoms are also against our natural urges, even more so than abstinence. There are times in a person's life cycle that they naturally wish to abstain. There is no point at which the body naturally grows a condom.

/devil's advocate

[Amnesiac]

Condoms are also against our natural urges, even more so than abstinence. There are times in a person's life cycle that they naturally wish to abstain. There is no point at which the body naturally grows a condom.

/devil's advocate

I knew someone would bring this up, and I admit it's a bit hypocritical. However, it allows people to release that natural biological urge to have sex without having children. The world is overpopulated anyway, in the case of us humans, who've been blessed with the intelligence that allows us to keep ourselves alive (you know, medical science) when we'd usually be the victims of natural selection, sex is a different issue when compared to the rest of the animal kingdom.

I don't believe people should suppress their natural urge to have sex, but I do believe they should restrict the number of offspring they produce, for the better of the species.

[WaahZombie]

i believe you should wait.. whats the big rush? and why not do it with the person you'll be spending the rest of your life with?

[Sebastian Michaelis]

I think its ok as long as its with someone you've known for longer then 6 months

humans are the only animals that believe in monogamy

[Vonn]

i believe you should wait.. whats the big rush? and why not do it with the person you'll be spending the rest of your life with?

Couples who get divorced have no problem sexing it up with someone else.

[Sith Lord 13]

I knew someone would bring this up, and I admit it's a bit hypocritical.

A mite more than a bit I'd say.

However, it allows people to release that natural biological urge to have sex without having children. The world is overpopulated anyway, in the case of us humans, who've been blessed with the intelligence that allows us to keep ourselves alive (you know, medical science) when we'd usually be the victims of natural selection, sex is a different issue when compared to the rest of the animal kingdom.

I don't believe people should suppress their natural urge to have sex, but I do believe they should restrict the number of offspring they produce, for the better of the species.

But why? Going based on your previous premise abstinence is actually the way to go since it's more natural than condom use. You've said what you think, and I personally agree with, but not why condoms are better than abstinence.

[Perseus]

I personally do not see a problem with having premarital sex. Sex is natural, therefore you shouldn't have to be married to someone to do it. I probably am going to wait till I'm married for full on vaginal sex, but I might not wait for things like anal and oral.

[PJay]

However, it allows people to release that natural biological urge to have sex without having children. The world is overpopulated anyway, in the case of us humans, who've been blessed with the intelligence that allows us to keep ourselves alive (you know, medical science) when we'd usually be the victims of natural selection, sex is a different issue when compared to the rest of the animal kingdom.

I don't believe people should suppress their natural urge to have sex, but I do believe they should restrict the number of offspring they produce, for the better of the species.

Couldn't agree more.

I think abstinance is just contrary and odd if you are surpressing the feelings, if you don't have them its a different matter. I wouldn't think abstinence and the thoughts that go along with it aren't good for your mental health. Condoms are for people who are horny but don't want diseases or babies.

Option 3 - go gay :D

[Andrew0017]

I think it's up to each person and what their personal beliefs happen to be. I wouldn't wait until marriage, (obviously not since I'm not a virgin), but on the other hand I have to be in a serious (longer than 6 months and exclusive) relationship before I'd even consider having sex. I don't think premarital sex is wrong but I do think sex still is special because of who you chose to share it with. In my opinion, I don't think casual sex or sleeping around is right, but to each his own.

[Sage]

I believe in neither abstinence nor marriage.

[Ryhanna]

I think it should be a personal choice.
If a person chooses to abstain, they have their reasons (wanting to find love first, religion, personal stance.)
In my opinion, sex before marriage is fine, unless you're walking up to random people on the street and asking for sex. I definitley think you should abstain from that.

[Fushigi]

hmmm i guess its ur choice but for me.... hmmm i guess its ok to have pre-marital sex but it is more better than to be married before having sex

[Zazu]

Hmm I see on point in abstinence, never have. Sex is fun, sex can be safe, sex can be very much enjoyed e.t.c.

I don't really believe in the whole idea of marriage anyway, all that you get from it is a piece of legal documentation. Your feelings for that person should never change.

[Amnesiac]

A mite more than a bit I'd say.

Uh-huh :rolleyes:

But why? Going based on your previous premise abstinence is actually the way to go since it's more natural than condom use. You've said what you think, and I personally agree with, but not why condoms are better than abstinence.

Well, condoms enable people to have sex without having children. Releasing those natural urges is healthy, and should be encouraged — unlike abstinence, which limits one's ability to release those natural urges. Yes, abstinence may be more 'natural' than condom use, but that doesn't mean it's healthier or better for the human species in the long run. I'm probably backtracking on what I said earlier, but I'm not perfect :P

Humans are an exception to the principles of natural selection. While it's proven that sex is a healthy activity, the species doesn't need more individuals, it needs less. Condoms promote participation in sex without creating offspring.

[Syvelocin]

I think it's pointless to suppress yourself and abstain like that. Do what you want to. As long as you're mentally ready to face the consequences, but that delves more into teen sex.