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[tomboysk8r1314]

Ok so today I was going to ask out the guy that ive liked for a month now. He's practically my best guy friend and recentlly has been showing signs that he's liked me back. So I was going to be the one to break the ice and ask him out...one problem. He is my ex's Best friend as well.

So without having my ex find out i got my other friends to ask the guy i like if he liked me back and if he'd ever date me. I finally got my answer today. He said he likes me alot but doesnt want to go out because he doesnt want to jeprodize our growing friendship. He wants to become good friends...but he never said he didnt want to date after that. I believe he is a guy worth waiting for...but do i even have a shot at being with him?

Im glad he was sweet enough to not want to hurt our friendship but sad that it couldnt have been more than that....

Sorry its sort of longish.

Thanks

[Lord_Cosby 13]

You can never tell for sure whether or not you have a shot or not. I think you do, he just wants to get closer to you first, become good friends before taking it any further. And if nothing does happen, at least you guys will be friends. I'm hoping things work out for you :-)

[Contra]

It really is sweet that he's thinking of your friendship as a reason not to date you, because let's face it, after a relationship, very hardly do friendships remain the same they were, either because of a rough break-up or because it gets weird that you've been intimate due to the relationship.
The thing you need to think about is whether you want to take a shot at that, considering the fact that, if you do break-up, you may lose a great friend, from what I can tell.

[blackmusicbox215]

I think it's great he doesn't want to ruin your friendship. My best friend (a guy) and his best friend both like each other, but they don't want to ruin the friendship. I broke up with a girl recently, and our friendship isn't the same. She just faded me out of her life, and she actually tried to get her friends, which are my friends too, to stop talking to me. I think that you two should remain friends for a little longer and then you should see what your relationship is like then. Maybe you guys will be closer and still want to be with each other, then you should think about if you would want to go out. I think best friends dating is cute, but also it could jeopardize the friendship. I know, friendship is a very complicated subject...

[tomboysk8r1314]

You can never tell for sure whether or not you have a shot or not. I think you do, he just wants to get closer to you first, become good friends before taking it any further. And if nothing does happen, at least you guys will be friends. I'm hoping things work out for you :-)
This is what im hoping for and thank you (:

It really is sweet that he's thinking of your friendship as a reason not to date you, because let's face it, after a relationship, very hardly do friendships remain the same they were, either because of a rough break-up or because it gets weird that you've been intimate due to the relationship.
The thing you need to think about is whether you want to take a shot at that, considering the fact that, if you do break-up, you may lose a great friend, from what I can tell.
Yeah and ive been there...twice..and well to tell you the truth with both of my exes we are better friends now then we were before dating (: That's only because they are both really sweet guys. I would hate to have this current guy erased from my life because well hes the guy im closest too. Thanks for the input it was much appreciated. (:

I think it's great he doesn't want to ruin your friendship. My best friend (a guy) and his best friend both like each other, but they don't want to ruin the friendship. I broke up with a girl recently, and our friendship isn't the same. She just faded me out of her life, and she actually tried to get her friends, which are my friends too, to stop talking to me. I think that you two should remain friends for a little longer and then you should see what your relationship is like then. Maybe you guys will be closer and still want to be with each other, then you should think about if you would want to go out. I think best friends dating is cute, but also it could jeopardize the friendship. I know, friendship is a very complicated subject...

I think its great too and really sweet and caring of him. Thats what i want to do now as well...become better friends get to know him better have trust in him because arent relationships built on trust and loving eachother for who you are even though you've seen each other's worsts? Thank you though. Its giving me a better understanding of what to do.

Thank you all again (:

[Contra]

Yeah and ive been there...twice..and well to tell you the truth with both of my exes we are better friends now then we were before dating (: That's only because they are both really sweet guys. I would hate to have this current guy erased from my life because well hes the guy im closest too. Thanks for the input it was much appreciated. (:

Wow, then I have to say you are a very lucky girl! :)
Yeah, it's a bit hard to decide because you can't know what's going to happen, but if you have faith that the same thing happens with him, because he sounds really sweet too, then go for it!

And you're welcome, I'm here to help! ^_^