Advice on accepting the death of a relative?

[FullyAlive]

So as I posted in here before, my uncle died 3 months ago aged only 49 it was sudden and a terrible shock. Anyway I've been trying to move on and forget, but I still find myself crying randomly, getting upset at the mention of anything I can losely connect to him. I know it's not been that long but everyone else has moved on, or at least they don't break into tears everyday. I'm finding really hard to accept that he's gone forever, I wake up in the morning see the photo of us on my wall and for a moment I'll forget, I still talk about him in the present tense and have to correct myself.
And now my mums car has been written off by the insurance and it's made me really upset as my uncle had the car before us and i feel like I'm slowly losing any connection I had to him. I just want him back so much, I'm struggling to accept his death, I don't understand why it had to happen to him of all people? How can he just not be here anymore?
Any advice? If you've gone through something similar or just have advice it would really help?

[PJay]

Death sucks totally, and you just can't fix it.

Its a shit time for you, but only the passing of time will make it hurt less.

I'm sorry, but thats my experience. You survive, you move on, and you can only do your best to live a life that would make that loved one proud of you.

[Derek_001]

im sorry bout ur uncle i lost my girlfriend and my best friend i a car crash due to icey roads 3days after christmas last year n ik its hard but if it was their time it was their time like paul said u cant stop it if god wants them u cant stop him its jus life we all die sometime

[FullyAlive]

Thanks to both of you I guess I'll just have to wait it out maybe one day I'll feel better.

[PJay]

Course you will. The hole they leave doesn't go away, it just takes you a while to get used to it being there.

[scuba steve]

I know the feeling, my uncle was killed in a car crash while he was working in Australia for his family back in the UK. I grieved at the funeral and did my best to get over it, months after I would randomly get sad about it but the best advice? Get over it as quick as you can.

[Fiction]

I lost my Grandad in September, and I lost my auntie aged 50 a few years ago.
Sometimes crying in the best thing to do. Unfortunatly death is a part of life, and all we can do it accept it. Time will make you feel better, and crying is ok :)

[closed]

Louise, it's completely natural and OK. It's always good to cry, and to let all the emotions out, and don't be ashamed of it!
The best cure with this type of things is time. Also expressing your emotions, by writing, or talking to a professional painting composing or anything else in the world. You have the time. Just let the time do it's job. :hug:
Always remember that we will be here for you if you need someone to talk to, to let it all out. We will always be here :hug2:

[Sova]

I can't offer you a definite method, because currently I am mourning and trying to move on myself from the death of one of my best friends who died on new years eve, aged 16.
But crying and such is perfectly healthy. You will eventually move on, but you will never forget your uncle.
The best thing you can do is let it all out in healthy doses, find someone to lean on. I myself talk to a guidance teacher in my school and one friend, together they really have helped me. Also, I have no experience of it but I am in the process of being recommended for counselling about it, so maybe that's something to look into?

[FullyAlive]

Thanks again for the replies I'll just be carrying on with the crying then :/
I'm so sorry for all of you who have lost people but thanks for giving advice.
And the counseling isn't really an option I self harm and that would inevitably cone out in counseling so :/

[Sova]

From what friends tell me, you never have to tell a counsellor anything you don't want to (: I understand why you wouldn't want to tell them, I was a self harmer too a long time ago but I sorted myself out. Just know that they can't make you tell them everything about yourself, they're paid to listen to you rant then offer a solution and nothing more.

[Charleigh]

I suppose you will accept it when you are ready to accept it, you cant just take in something like that. I guess you will have to sccept it in your own time, and move on from it when your ready. I know it hurts, and it will do hun. But, you need to do everything in your own time and take things slow.
Im here if you ever need to talk ok?
:hug:

[anamcara]

hey, my mum died in september last year on my birthday, we all cope in different ways, unfortunately i cannot look at photos and i try not to remember my mother although i think of her everyday and i hardly ever talk of her, it soounds terrible i know and it is really, but thats how i cope with it and if i didnt do this i would literally breakdown into a million peices, all i want to say is the ones we have loved and lost are always looking down at us and protecting us, they're our gardian angels lol, im always here if you need someone to talk too xx

[aaron4455]

So as I posted in here before, my uncle died 3 months ago aged only 49 it was sudden and a terrible shock. Anyway I've been trying to move on and forget, but I still find myself crying randomly, getting upset at the mention of anything I can losely connect to him. I know it's not been that long but everyone else has moved on, or at least they don't break into tears everyday. I'm finding really hard to accept that he's gone forever, I wake up in the morning see the photo of us on my wall and for a moment I'll forget, I still talk about him in the present tense and have to correct myself.
And now my mums car has been written off by the insurance and it's made me really upset as my uncle had the car before us and i feel like I'm slowly losing any connection I had to him. I just want him back so much, I'm struggling to accept his death, I don't understand why it had to happen to him of all people? How can he just not be here anymore?
Any advice? If you've gone through something similar or just have advice it would really help? i kinda know how u feel my uncle has blood cancer and when i was in 6th grade on christmas eve he had two strokes due to a poorly preformed spinal tap well any way he just looks dead hes bed ridden cant walk can hardly talk so its kinda like he is dead he dosent even remeber who i am so i kinda know how u feel on every christmas eve i do get extreamly depresed but i keep trying to move on and i actioly wish i could cry about it i just cant get myself to.. oops sorry for rambling but what im getting at is its ganna be hard and i know for sure it may take a while for u to heal a little just wait think of all the good memories of him memories that make u laugh thats what i do or at least try to do and if u can try and ask for support from ur friends for when it gets too hard

[FullyAlive]

Thanks again to all the people who replied, I'm trying my best. :/