i think im gay but im not sure really need advice from gay guys

[pandageneral15]

i think im gay but im not sure.ok really need help from gay guys.
ever since i went to amsterdam last year and a guy from my school in my room at the hotel got his dick out. i got really hard but didnt know why. ever since then when i think about men i get a boner.
however 2day, a gay friend of mine was telling me about some dirty texts between him and some guy and i really wanted to tell him about me liking men as well as women but i couldnt!
please help! what should i do?

[Zazu]

Well firstly it seems like you're just going through the unsure-about-your-sexuality stage of your teenage years. Just relax about it, there's sod all to worry about really. Just do whatever is right in whatever situation and prompt whatever you feel necessary.

It's up to you whether or not you really want to tell anyone about where you stand sexuality wise at the moment but think before you do as as I'm sure you're aware, there are an absolute ton of arseholes out there who will immediately judge you based on who you can love. It's moreover a question of whether or not you give a shit what people think and can loose the fear surrounding this subject that many of us possess.

[Sosaku]

OK, i can help you a bit on this.

-first, with the incident in Amsterdam. well, with my first job (taking care of horses) I noticed that if one male had an erection, it would trigger an erection in another male, more specifically, if a stallion(has testicles) has an erection another stallion will get one too. Trying to size each other up. If we are ANYTHING like animals, then we do the same. without thinking about it, blood rushes to the penis as soon as another penis is "Exposed"(happens with straight guys, bi-guys, and gay guys). I still believe this to be true.

-also, during that same time in Amsterdamn, while in the room, would you feel an erection beginning when alone in the room with him w/o him showing his penis? If so, your hormones(testosterone) were interacting with his hormones(testosterone also)


Now, your body knows this response anyway, so when you think of men, the same reaction will occur.(again, can happen with Straight, Bi, or Gay guys) However, do not label yourself unless you are sure, think of the basis of a relationship, can you establish and work to keep that relationship with a member of your own sex?

Now i am not saying gay is bad, lol, i'm gay myself. But dont be too concerned.

OH and dont think, just feel. Let your feelings guide you...unless they do something REALLY stupid...then think...

BTW, i'm 16, and if you need to talk just pm me. :)

[nick]

Getting horny from seeing a friends penis, especially if he was erect or playing with himself, is a normal and natural reaction even for straight guys. What its triggered in you at the moment doesnt sound much more than normal curiousity.

I agree with Sosaku above, the real question is not whether you find some things horny, but whether you could imagine dating a guy, could you have a relationship with one, could you fall in love?

Give yourself more time to work out your feelings, dont be in any rush to attach labels, they're kind of meaningless anyway.

[grstl]

As you go on in puberty, you will add up significant sexual memories. Just keep a running total of how many are gay and how many are straight then sum it all up. You may never bee totally one way or the other. Things may change as you go along. Live according to the majority of your feelings but honestly allow for the rest of them. I have been learning this here on VT.

[greekboy]

i think im gay but im not sure.ok really need help from gay guys.
ever since i went to amsterdam last year and a guy from my school in my room at the hotel got his dick out. i got really hard but didnt know why. ever since then when i think about men i get a boner.
however 2day, a gay friend of mine was telling me about some dirty texts between him and some guy and i really wanted to tell him about me liking men as well as women but i couldnt!
please help! what should i do?

How old are you. when I first started puberty I only needed the wind to blow to get a hard on let alone see something sexual. What you are going through is quite normal, you are just young and horny. You should tell your gay friend about your thoughts. he may have some useful input and is unlikely to rat on you anyway.

[tyler007]

I think thats pretty normal, to want to experment with other guys and if your friends is gay and you were rooming him them i think maybe you were just more open or aware of it, maybe want to expermint. You should really talk to him about it, a good freind is worth a ton on answers.