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[ackmedsgirl666]

i am confused and upset now. my bestfriend wants me to dump my girl because she is apparently taking advantage of me and she doesn't want me hanging out with anybody but her. adam says that he doesn't want to see me get hurt and end up on the street and getting raped by a drug dealer. i love adam to pieces and i don't want to lose him over something so silly but hes being serious when he says that he will leave me and never speak to me again because he thinks thats what i am doing is gross and he knows that i don't like women but that i just date them to get attention and i am getting the wrong attention
its mine and my girls 5 month on sunday and adam is expecting me to dump her today. i tried to explain to him yesterday that i love her but for him i will try what he asks and go off and find a nice guy who loves me. i guess its worth a try because i havent been with a guy in a long time. i told my girl this morning what adam has planned and she is pissed off and she wants to kow if i am going to listen to adam. im kinda stuck right now and idk what to do
HELP!

[PJay]

Where is the most love? Which relationship is the most rewarding and positive and healthy?

I don't like the idea of someone telling you who you should go out with, but without knowing the full details they might have a point and just be looking out for your interests.

[ackmedsgirl666]

I HAVE EVEN FEELINGS FOR adam and ann marie my girlfriend but me and adam are much closer but even if i wanted to take his advice and perhaps date him i can't cuz he has a girlfriend and what he is trying to do is protect me from her hurting me. the most healthy relationship is with adam i guess cuz we talk about everything and we are together all the time

[PJay]

Ok so do you think he has real reasons to protect you from your girlfriend? If he's got a point (i.e. if she's bad for you in some way) then maybe you should listen to him, and not your heart.

Could be he's just a bit jealous you have someone else if you guys are close, but if he's got a girlfriend that seems less likely.

[ackmedsgirl666]

well i mean me and him sometimes still makeout and stuff
but hes trying to convince me to find a nice guy to marry and have kids with
cuz he said that i won't get nothing out of pussy and he wants me to be happy with a man and not a women. i don't understand why this is happening because he was ok with it before... infact he was the one who got me and my girl back together last week

[PJay]

Well to be honest it sounds like he may not be looking out for your interests at all then. He sounds like he's having an issue with your sexuality - maybe someones been saying something to him. Could actually be he's not into his girlfriend as much and wants to be with you (or he's just finding it hard to make a choice).

Sounds to me as though you need to decide what you want. Given that he's not being very loyal to his girlfriend makes me think he might dump her for you, but thats not a guarantee.

Its not going to be healthy carrying on making out with him and stuff if you both keep your girflriends : they are very likely to get really hurt and upset. You either need to back off your relationship with Adam or both of you dump the girls.

[ackmedsgirl666]

well the girl hes dating is my bestfriend and they have been together for a month as of today.. i am not rele sure why this stuff continues to go on between me and him but its getting confusing. as much as i love having him around and as much as i love him i love my girlfriend but hes right when it comes to my sexuality
idk if i am bi anymore i don't get attracted by girls or anything but i love her and this is what has be confused

[PJay]

Ouch. Well it may be you have to be brave and stop everything, because the way you are going you are going to hurt at least 2 friends and you could suddenly find yourself alone.

Love is a good place to start though, maybe the novelty has worn off and you need to spice things up a bit. But if you don't find her sexy, then it would be cruel to her to carry on as her girlfriend if you aren't actually wanting to be more than friends.

I suppose I don't have any answers but thats the way it looks to me.