help

[thecoolkid]

ok so i might be gay but i dont want to be
iv always dreamed about being with a girl
but then i like men
but i dont want a cock up my bum and i dont want to put mine up theres
i want children i dont want to be with a guy
every one says im gay so maybe i cant change it?

please help

[smitty35]

just because everyone says you are gay, doesnt mean you are gay. Its YOU who decides that, no one else gets to determine someone elses sexuality. You probably are just really curious. So you are: Str8, but curious.

[curiousteen]

ok so i might be gay but i dont want to be
iv always dreamed about being with a girl
but then i like men
but i dont want a cock up my bum and i dont want to put mine up theres
i want children i dont want to be with a guy
every one says im gay so maybe i cant change it?

please help

I was like that before. just because u like men doesnt mean that u cant have a girlfriend or wife. U dont have to have a dick up ur ass or his ass. u dont have to get married to a guy u can still have children without bein wit one. u r just goin through a stage of being curious. u may find that u r gay or not. i would consider u str8 curious also because u have an emotional and sexual feeling for girls and curious because u have an emotional feeling for guys. dont knock it till u try it though. it actually all up to u to decide what u want to be.

[Firemisson]

I was like that before. just because u like men doesnt mean that u cant have a girlfriend or wife. U dont have to have a dick up ur ass or his ass. u dont have to get married to a guy u can still have children without bein wit one. u r just goin through a stage of being curious. u may find that u r gay or not. i would consider u str8 curious also because u have an emotional and sexual feeling for girls and curious because u have an emotional feeling for guys. dont knock it till u try it though. it actually all up to u to decide what u want to be.

Yeah what this lad said. :D

[VerizoniPhone]

just because everyone says you are gay, doesnt mean you are gay. Its YOU who decides that, no one else gets to determine someone elses sexuality. You probably are just really curious. So you are: Str8, but curious.

I agree. 100000% lol

[nick]

Not sure what you mean by "I like men" if you are not at all interested in them sexually. Maybe you just mean some guys are good looking. Well anyone can tell the difference between who's good looking and who's ugly, its just that some guys are frightened to admit it. That doesnt make you gay.

[Quick_Sylver]

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[Zig-Zag]

ok so i might be gay but i dont want to be
iv always dreamed about being with a girl
but then i like men
but i dont want a cock up my bum and i dont want to put mine up theres
i want children i dont want to be with a guy
every one says im gay so maybe i cant change it?

please help

How old are you ? I didn't 'know' my sexuality until after i was 18, it was a long windy road... Anything could happen yet, i even went through a phase where i liked girls slightly

Not sure what you mean by "I like men" if you are not at all interested in them sexually. Maybe you just mean some guys are good looking. Well anyone can tell the difference between who's good looking and who's ugly, its just that some guys are frightened to admit it. That doesnt make you gay.

When I was younger I went through phases where I have been intensely attracted to other guys, but not sexually, I would'v fantasized about intimacy, nothing sex related so it's possible, complicated stuff, glad i'm past the worst parts of puberty now...

[greekboy]

You don't give your age but i'm assuming that you're quite young. There is no date by which you have to make a decision. Like any other part of your personailty, your sexuality will be determined, and further modified, by the sum of your experiences - good and bad.
Do you like men in a sexual way or as friends, ie do you want ot have sex with them - it doesn't sound like it to me. Puberty hormones can play havoc with your feelings you will just have to run with it for a while before you come to any conclusion. I don't understand why everyone says you are gay - have you given them good reason. Don't panic, give it time and if somebody is giving you a hard time tell them to fuck off. Only you can decide this.

[Unlucky_Leprechaun]

Being gay means you are physically and emotionally interested in the same sex. I believe that you are curious and a little bit confused. Let time go and just be yourself. Assuming that you are younger you have plenty of time to determine your future. Just be patient.

[Short Circuit]

Does not sound as if your gay to me! At best, I would say curious, at worst it would be bi.

Only YOU can decide what your sexuality is, not what others call you or say on here.

[Kujiro]

Its alright to admire, to love, and in fact its possible to conduct a relatiobship with no sex involved.
To think of having a dick up you and such is just plain stereotyping gays.

What people say about you would be less important to who you really are. It does not matter which light they look you under, but most importantly be true and honest to yourself.
Sexuality is not a matter of choice, if you are, you are, if you are not, you are not.

You've mentioned you like men, but dream about being with a girl. It seems though you are not sure which side of the fence you are on in the first place.
You have plenty of time ahead of you to explore and understand yourself better, hence there is not a need to label yourself if you feel that you are not ready.

Understanding yourself with a more open minded perspective would help you discover yourself better, to come out or not is a different matter entirely.
Most importantly you have to be true to yourself and your feelings.
Ignoring what others say, and ignore stereotypical thinking, only with that, you would be able to see things in an entirely different spectrum.

Good luck
*smile*

[Sosaku]

you could just be bi-romantic...and as others have said, stating that anal sex is the only sex in a relationship, could simply mean you are under educated, because that ISN'T the only sex in a m/m relationship. Just like in a m/f relationship, Vaginal sex ISN'T the only sex...You could simply think men are attractive, thats fine. I mean, I'm gay and I've told many of my female friends that if I were straight, (and attracted to them) then I'd pursue them. If you want to think of it as a mental thing, well simply tell yourself WHAT you like. have a talk with yourself. (go to a closet, get a lamp that doesn't produce heat, and just talk, visualize you seeing yourself, or get a mirror, and just have a converstaion. Sort out your priorities.)

However, if you want MY beliefs, I believe you are bisexual. (Since you want a label it seems) And you simply have not found someone who's pheromones react in the right way with your's. (Pheromones are your sex hormones, that EVERYONE can detect, some however, can't detect them consciously)

If you need anymore help, just ask :)

[ShatteredWings]

This be from january