religion and sexuality

[gills93]

so have any of u after finding out about ur sexuality stopped going to church or believing in ur faith ?

[ShatteredWings]

I gave up on religion long before figuring out my sexuality.

[ackmedsgirl666]

my parents used to force my religion on me when i was younger
but when i discovered my sexuality it disrupted my faith in god and i was ashamed with myself so now i only go to church when i go visit my parents and even then i feel horrible and feel like an outcast because i know that my family knows about me

[grstl]

I have a very conservative Christian family. I love music, I mostly get to do in church. I have left the church in my heart and enjoy guy sex too much to be straight, fully committed and therefore acceptable.......so I expect I will abandon church before I am kicked out when the truth fully comes out to everyone about my sexuality. I dread it, though, because it has practically been my whole
life and social place. I know I am a hypocrite by church standards and selfish by most standards,
But the guilt part has pretty much gone. I want to be me.

[gills93]

yea see im at this stage now where i sorta have to choice between my church and well my sexuality and its really stressful coz its like a 50-50 choice for me because sorta like grstl its been my whole life and social place and there like family to me

[darkwoon]

yea see im at this stage now where i sorta have to choice between my church and well my sexuality and its really stressful coz its like a 50-50 choice for me because sorta like grstl its been my whole life and social place and there like family to me
A community forcing you to choose between itself and your own personality is probably not worth following. A family, especially a spiritual one, should not be there when everything is ok and nothing is at stakes - it is when one's in trouble that it should stand firmly with him and say: "whoever you are, we'll always be with you".

It is quite sad if your church refuses to accept you as you want to be but in that case, I think the best choice is easy to make: be yourself, and find real friends in spirituality, who are ready to welcome you regardless of your sexuality.

Welcoming the one who is different is one of the most fundamental message of Christianism - those forcing you to make a choice between your sexuality and your beliefs would better remember Luke 10:30, amongst others.

[sieg]

i made a compromise between religion and sexuality
i made my own little branch with less hate and more love

[sdude]

Don't feel like I have lost anything but the hypocrites in Church. Sex is part of us, therefore part of any higher power we believe in...Organized Religion was developed to make the masses adhere to rules mostly setout by the perverted leaders of their time...which of course they didn't follow themselves...get over it. Religion is just another crutch of the weak minded...Spirit comes from within...

[Severus Snape]

I quit religion for many reasons but my sexuality may have played a small part. My mentality was and still is "well fuck you if the way I am is somehow evil"

[Sire]

I gave up on it when I realized how ridiculous religion was; long before I realized I was gay.

[greekboy]

I gave up on religion long before figuring out my sexuality.

Exactly. I think for a living and just can't get my head around this. I certainly couldn't allow such nonsense to interfere with my sex life - what little there is of it.

[Fourth Dimension]

i stopped going to church a long time ago

[Lord C]

I'm gay and I still go to church religiously (pardon the pun).

Maybe it's different in the USA or much more strict wherever you guys live but to be honest here I don't see it as any kind of issue in our church. It's just about people learning to love, not politics and silly, stuck up conservative shit.

I don't see why anyone would give up on their faith just because they figured they were gay or bi. I understand, perhaps, if your church turns on you because of it. But then just find another church! The word of man is not the word of God.

[Severus Snape]

The word of man is not the word of God.

Which negates the need for church membership entirely, does it not?

[Lord C]

Which negates the need for church membership entirely, does it not?

Not necessarily. I don't see it as going to learn about my religion because I can do that just by reading the Bible. For me it's getting involved in the great community that they have where there's pretty much no negativity - something that's surprisingly hard to find these days.

[greekboy]

I am not at all interested in religion but I am pleased that you have found a community in which you feel comfortable and without negativity. I wish that all religious associations were that positive. unfortunately they are not and many religions propogate hate and intolerance. I am glad for you that yours does not.

[persiandude]

just because im not straight doesnt mean i have to stop beleiving in god or islam.....religon is something personal......dont let anyone who says ur gonna go to hel cause ur gay get to u cause if u have faith in god and u r a good person thats all that matters..............but atheism is cool too

[mr.sexy_bomb]

eh kind of, like sometimes i feel like there is a god, and sometimes i dont, and its really confusing, i know its not bad to be gay whether there is a god or not

[gills93]

I'm gay and I still go to church religiously (pardon the pun).


I don't see why anyone would give up on their faith just because they figured they were gay or bi. I understand, perhaps, if your church turns on you because of it. But then just find another church! The word of man is not the word of God.

i dont mean to get into an argument but i have been doing some research and read some books and i dont know how u see the bible over there but have u not read what Paul wrote and also about Sodom all related with homosexuality, the whole fact is that church does not see as having a relationship with another man as ok in there eyes and 'gods' eyes it is said to be seen as a sin, so thats y i cant see why people seem to be able to find other churches when it says straight out in the bible that homosexuals will not enter the kindom of heaven

and by the way this is not my view only what i have read and studied

[IMonfire]

I already know what my sexuality is and I already accepted who I am. I still go to church because my family is very religious and if I did not follow their rules about religion, they won't send me to school anymore. Well, I still have 2 more years left in college so I'll just wait till the right time comes before quitting my religion. I don't believe in it anymore. Don't get offended but I think it's the greatest deception ever.

Now, if you will read I CORINTHIANS 6:9-11 in the Bible it says that:

"Or do you not know that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate,nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, swindlers, shall inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, and in the Spirit of our God."

Well, I don't care.

[Infidelitas]

Im an agnostic / athiest (Agnosticism is where believe you cannot know whether religeous stuff has ever happened or not) so i dont belive in a god I was never baptised into a religeon so im not chained into anything. I love being gay, others should love being gay with out their church turfing them out. Im glad that some of you guys can keep both, I hope I havnt offended anyone here

[Lord C]

I feel lucky that I can still be accepted in my church, it's unfortunate for those that aren't but I don't believe that should be a reason to stop believing in God. If you believe, you believe, you can practise by yourself. I used to before I went to church.

[cpuguy18]

I gave up on religion long before figuring out my sexuality.

Me too

[canyon]

so have any of u after finding out about ur sexuality stopped going to church or believing in ur faith ?

Well, I believe that God is everywhere and he created everyone with a purpose, so I just think that He created me this way for a reason. I know a lot of people who believe that God created everyone and that being gay or bisexual is wrong, but I find that to be a contradiction. If those people believe that God created everyone, why do they say that being gay is wrong, if He created them that way? I guess that to them gays are aliens or something...

Anyways, I used to go to church all the time when I was little. I stopped going now though. For a while I was really mad at God and stopped going, but now I'm trying really hard to start believing in what He wants for my life. I still don't go to church, I don't think that I should be told when to worship Him and where I should go and for how long. Instead, I believe in Him, but in my own way. I know there's a God for me, and I know that He created me this way for some reason. So instead of being mad at Him, I'm going to embrace it and find out why I was created this way.

[spw184]

I really belive that this thread has proved a point, almost everyone here "gave up on religon a while ago" or "before the where LGBT." I personally belive whole heartedly in the catholic religon (im 16) and im gay/bi. However the catholic church is against LGBT. I can still attend church without too many problems because the bishop of my diocese belives that you should help anyone no matter what they are, or what they choose. (as with several of the preists)

[Apollo.]

I am an athiest but I respect everybody roses right to follow a religion, If I did go to church I would of left when I found out they were against gays.