Catch 22.

[ThatScience]

A girl I know who I cannot find flaw with just broke up and now I feel like I may want to ask her out. The only problem is that she's never single for too long. She's not promiscuous, -she goes out with people for a long time- it's just that I'm kinda friends with her ex and don't want to create any conflicts or awkwardness. I want to get to know her on a higher level but don't want to feel like I'm "snapping her up on the rebound" but I know that if I wait I'll miss out... It would be wrong to try and lay the "ground work" for a relationship whilst she is going out with someone else just because I'm convinced of the fact that they will break up eventually... She appears to be very fond of me, though, and in the last stages of their relationship she appeared to be granting me more attention than her (now ex-) boyfriend.

Should I:
*Try and rush into a relationship which may cause awkwardness?
*Try to ease into a relationship whilst she is dating her next boyfriend?
*Wait and see if she will ask me?
or
*Forget it and just accept that the situation is too volatile for me to handle?

I would greatly appreciate your help and thank those of you who read through my ramblings.

[Sage]

I know what it's like, seeing a girl you can't find fault with. In my honest opinion, Jake- You're sixteen, there are plenty of wonderful women you'll probably run into later. This situation, like you said, does sound pretty volatile, so I really think you should simply avoid it all and stay on good terms with her ex. Friendly relationships, you may grow to find, are more reliable than romantic ones.

[ThatScience]

You have no idea how much I mean it when I say that she's flawless. She's more beautiful than anyone I know, more intelligent, more compassionate, more selfless. And she does that all at once! If she does decide to try and form a relationship with me do you recommend I turn her down?

[Sage]

You have no idea how much I mean it when I say that she's flawless. She's more beautiful than anyone I know, more intelligent, more compassionate, more selfless. And she does that all at once! If she does decide to try and form a relationship with me do you recommend I turn her down?

And you have no idea how much I mean when I say I've been in your exact spot before. Trust me, she's not as good as you'd think. If she comes onto you, go for it, but I wouldn't hold your breath for that.

[ThatScience]

What if it turned out that the ex was only friends with me because his gf was friends with me?
Because he always seemed very unhappy of my presence. Maybe he won't want anything to do with me anyway.
What would you suggest then?

[ShatteredWings]

it's just that I'm kinda friends with her ex...

how does he feel about it?

[Eagle63]

I don't wanna sound like a hypocrite, but if I were you, and there was a girl at my school as good as you say there is, I would just go for it. Maybe ease into it for a few days, tops. I certainly wouldn't sit around thinking up bad scenarios.

[ThatScience]

how does he feel about it?

I'm not quite sure what you mean...

[ThatScience]

New develpopment!

(She's in Canada ATM for a holiday.)

The method her boyfriend used to break up with her was an e-mail from halfway across the world. All of a sudden I'm not so worried about losing a friendship with that disrespectful son of a bitch!