Sometimes, I wish I was a 'normal' teenager.

[steve1234]

I know that you should be yourself, and you shouldn't really conform to others, and be proud of being different, but sometimes I just wish I was 'normal'. And yes, I know there is not really such thing as normal.

I don't like smoking, I don't like drinking, I don't really enjoy parties, I'm a bit of a loner, most of the music I listen to is from the 70s and 80s, I have never been in a relationship and i'm too much like an old man (like getting annoyed with litter, graffiti etc). I enjoy a simple life.

All of my friends are going on holiday together after the exams, except me. They are going to one of those mediterranean resorts, where the holiday will basically consist of getting drunk and having sex. I sometimes really wish I could relax and just have a laugh with my friends and enjoy getting wasted and enjoy what most teenagers enjoy.
I wouldn't say i'm a really boring person- I would like to go on holiday with my friends, and do some sightseeing and go to a bar and have a few drinks, and just have a laugh, but I know most of my friends enjoy getting totally drunk and making idiots of themselves.

I'm fed up with feeling like an old man. I want to be myself, but how can I be when i'm so boring?

[PJay]

I don't like smoking, I don't like drinking, I don't really enjoy parties, I'm a bit of a loner, most of the music I listen to is from the 70s and 80s, I have never been in a relationship and i'm too much like an old man (like getting annoyed with litter, graffiti etc). I enjoy a simple life.


I like some older music too (Marillion are one of my faves, most ppl haven't even heard of them, I also like medieval music so maybe I'm not the best example lol), and I dont like litter and stuff. Dont' think thats so odd.


All of my friends are going on holiday together after the exams, except me. They are going to one of those mediterranean resorts, where the holiday will basically consist of getting drunk and having sex. I sometimes really wish I could relax and just have a laugh with my friends and enjoy getting wasted and enjoy what most teenagers enjoy.

Don't think I'd want to do that. i've watched "Sun, Sea and A&E" :-D


most of my friends enjoy getting totally drunk and making idiots of themselves.

Same here. I've had some kind of friedns who have been going out getting pissed on vodka and cider weekends for about 2 years. I guess some ppl think its cool (sheep)


I'm fed up with feeling like an old man. I want to be myself, but how can I be when i'm so boring?
You are probably just more mature than a lot of your friends. People want to fit in so they compete to be cool, and things get out of hand.

Anyway don't be a sheep, be yourself. Doesn't mean you have to be - or are- boring.

[Magus]

You are who you are. And you need not to change what you are, so that you can integrate with people who cannot accept as you are.

I left all my friends, because I know they are not me and I am not them; they are not my friends.

A friend is someone who can actually reflect a direct image of you. If they or you cannot do it. Then I believe this is a waste of time to pursue what they want you to be and vice versa.

[Cryofthewolf]

To be honest, I'm very similar to you. I like a lot of older music, I don't drink and do drugs like some of my friends do, litter annoys me, etc. (It really does.) :-P You, my friend, are completely normal the way you are. Sure, people like you and I might not get along with other kids. I'm guessing you have always been told you have an old soul, you're mature for your age, or that you get along with adults better than you do with other teens. Just wait until you grow up, and most people are like you. You should be a highly respectable person someday.

Don't do things that you aren't comfortable doing. If these friends of yours don't like you for who you are they aren't your friends. I know it may be hard to break from those people if that is the case, but I would reccommend doing it if you want to be truly happy.

Just be patient, and look for like-minded people like you around. If you still feel like you are boring, try to get into some of the new things most teenagers are interested in without losing yourself in the process. I, personally, have found new bands and artists that I liked by listening to what is popular nowadays.

Don't do it to impress anybody though. Do it for yourself, so you have some common ground to talk about with other teens. I now go out with friends a lot

Just hang in there! Try to be more social if you aren't already, and DON'T COMPROMISE YOUR INTEGRITY TO FIT IN!!!

Ah, now I'm repeating myself. Here, two quotes by one of my favorite authors:

Nothing is so dangerous as being too modern; one is apt to grow old-fashioned quite suddenly.
- Oscar Wilde

“A dreamer is one who can only find his way by moonlight, and his punishment is that he sees the dawn before the rest of the world.”
- Oscar Wilde

The first one speaks for itself, and the second, well, it kind of fits our situations. We are the dreamers, and we can see things that most of our peers do not at our age. Also, if you are ever feeling down or in need of inspiration, search some quotes. They always get my mind going. :-)

Alright, I'll really shut up now. Carry on! ;-)

[MrZero]

Same here. A while back i did those things too - party, drink etc. but after a while i realized I'm after love more then sex, and i don't like hangovers:P, the end.

I'm confident you're not a boring person, it's just hard to have a fun time with people you don't have things in common with.

I can only say what the others have said already, stick it out. Once we get too see more, and meet more people, and be part of things I bet being a bit more unique will pay off.

[PAfarmerkid]

Your not a boring person at all. Im the same way as you. I dont drink, do drugs, chew, or smoke. I hate parties, I get annoyed by stupid things alot, and I also listen to older rock music. Im not normal at all for my age, Im a stand-out redneck, I dont do sports or afterschool activites, I just go with the flow. I dont cause trouble either. I just like to work instead of doin fun stuff.

If your gettin greif about it like I do, ignore them. I dont date, I get called gay, I dont do sports and Im alittle overweight, I get called fat, and since trucking and farming is a part of my life I get alot of greif on that also.

So your normal, just not like all your friends. My best advice is dont do anything stupid or anything you dont want to.