Perhaps some advice...?

[Lord_Cosby 13]

Okay,so recently I realized that I am totally bi, as in I have physical and emotional feelings towards both sexes, and lately I've been much more interested in boys, I really want another boy to love and love me. Where I live, though,it's not really okay to be gay or bi (unless you're a girl,of course), so nobody knows I'm bi except for one friend,and I love her and she's bi herself. The problem is, as mentioned above,me being interested in guys and wanting a "boyfriend", so to speak (cause it probably wouldn't be public). Well I'm interested in one of my friends,he's cute,and sweet, and we have quite a bit in common, and I've been having dreams about him lately,they're not even sexual, just me hugging him and cuddling with him,which is what I really want. The thing here is that we're not really that close and he claims he's totally straight (he has a girlfriend who is also my friend), but I could see him being bi cause he's kind of feminine and.......unusual, I guess would be a good word, I do believe him when he says he's straight,though, but I could be wrong.

Any advice on the situation would be good,cause this is killing my mind

[Commander Thor]

If you really do like him, the only way to find out if he likes you back, or if he's even open to the idea of you two being in a relationship, is to tell him you're bi, and tell him you like him. If he doesn't feel the same, oh well. If he does feel the same, then all the better.

[Apple iShart]

Actually, it wouldn't be smart to do what xbox said...at least not yet!

Think of it from his point of view, he only likes women, MAYBE men, but from what you really know he likes women. The risk of telling your friend that you like him
might send him into a state of "shock" so to say. It would surprise him, and maybe weird him out a little bit (that's if he Does have a problem with you liking him) and it Could make things awkward between you two! Things like this are a sensitive subject to guys, mainly because, by you expressing the way you feel to him, it might be offensive. He could take it as you questioning his masculinity! Which, if he truly isn't bisexual, isn't a good thing for keeping him as a friend!

BUT really it all comes down to you my friend, what are you willing to risk to find out the truth? Chances are your feelings for him will pass when you find someone a little more mysterious or new to you! So give it some time and think about what the consequences will be if you tell him or don't. Weigh the pros and cons and make an informed decision! :)

Best of luck!

[Lord_Cosby 13]

Well I think either way he'd accept it,it's just I don't want to make things awkward between us,I like him,he's a good friend. And about his masculinity, it doesn't really exist,I don't think lol I don't think my feelings will pass, I really do like him, and I'm not looking for somebody new or mysterious, I want somebody close

[Example..]

i wouldnt come right out and tell him you like him. but if i was in your shoes i would maybe tell him your bi, and if he stops talking to you then hes not a really good friend and would probably stop your feelings for him, but if he accepts you how you are it would probably bring you closer and then you could wait till the right time to tell him you like him.

[Lord_Cosby 13]

In response to Parker: I don't know about him being shocked or weirded out, maybe shocked, but the only problem is that I don't want to make things awkward between him and I,he's a good friend, I don't want it to be awkward. I really do like him and I wish there was a way for me to know for sure if he's bi or not. As for the masculinity, I don't think he has much of that, he's far from masculine. I just want to tell him so badly :-(

To Dylan: I'm sure he would accept me, I'm really sure, but again the awkwardness comes in

[Apple iShart]

Cosby: Ok, so what I'm seeing is that you REALLY feel like you need to get it off your chest, but you don't want it to be awkward! Of course you don't want it to be awkward, that would suck! Why don't you tell him you're bisexual? As Dylan said, if he is really a good friend (bi or not) he will accept you how you are. I personally would still hold off on telling him your true feelings for him, at least for a little while. That way, he can become more accustomed to the fact that his best friend is bi. Ease him into it, if you know what I mean.

:)

[Heisen8erg]

Well, you could tell him and see how he reacts. Chances are he will accept you from what im hearing, but if anything does go wrong you could always be like "Hah! Just kidding! Knew id get you!" Or something like that. It may sound stupid, but if worst comes to worse you could atleast be friends with him without it being awkward. Its up to you.

[Lord_Cosby 13]

Parker: Yes, I really would like to get this off my chest. And I think simply telling him I'm bi first would be the best course of action,but I think it still might make things awkward due to other circumstances. But even then,I guess it's better.

Ada: I like the idea lol But it doesn't seem like it would work too well, but maybe...

[Apple iShart]

Parker: Yes, I really would like to get this off my chest. And I think simply telling him I'm bi first would be the best course of action,but I think it still might make things awkward due to other circumstances. But even then,I guess it's better.

Ada: I like the idea lol But it doesn't seem like it would work too well, but maybe...

Just stick with whatever makes you more comfortable!
=]

[gills93]

u said in ur first post that he's straight right, well if he says he is straight then really theres not much u can do by telling him ur sexuality isnt going to change his and u cant change other peoples sexuality ever if u really liked him

[Lord_Cosby 13]

The thing is, I could see him being bi, he just acts like it. And there's no harm in trying