Do your parents drink?

[Chatterbox]

Hi.

My dad drinks every night but has recently tried to stop but I can see its a struggle. My mum used to but shes got more control now. But when she does she can't just have one glass of wine. She has to have whole bottle of wine. Im dynig to tell them how annoying they are when they drink. My dad is grumpy and hardly talks to us unless he's wants to have a debate about something or moan about something. Thing is, I know what they can be like, they are great people. Its just frustrating when they drink. Do I tell them how I feel or bite my tongue?

[Ambrosia]

Tell them how you feel! That's an obvious answer once you re-think it. Parents usually realize how impotant it is to stop when they see it is effecting their child. My father was a heavy drinker before I was born and up until my first birthday. My mother gave him the choice to either leave and never see myself and my sister again or to quit drinking. He quit drinking. By telling them they should realize the issue.

[Kaius]

My mother drinks quite badly. I've told her time and time again but it only sinks when shes sober. I would talk to him tbh, but make sure its when he's sober so you can tell him exactly how you feel. Don't lie that you're fine with it or anything, he needs to know the full truth if hes going to do anything.

[Fiction]

Well, drinking a whole bottle of win isn't that bad... is it?
My parents drink a bottle of wine between them every night, which my dad usually has more of, as well as my dad having a pint of beer and a glass of port. That's probably about the same amount of alcohol as a bottle of wine.
I thought that was pretty normal...

[PJay]

Depends how bad it is when they are drunk. My dad is a bit more than grumpy when he's had drink.

If you say anything, all I can say be polite and do it when they aren't drinking. Work out what you want to say first so it isn't just a rant.

[UnknownError]

My parents only drink at weekends/parties or whatever.
My friends dad on the other hand is an alcholic. The whole livingroom is filled with 29p cans of beer because her mum says he can clean it himself. :/

[FullyAlive]

My dad drinks quite a lot he'll go to the pub about 4 nights a week but I've never really thought that was too excessive he is nicer when he drinks, except when he is hung over lol :/ but if it upsets you then I would tell them, you don't deserve to feel bad :)

[Syvelocin]

Only very special occasions they drink wine or champagne and usually not around me unless, again, it's a special occasion. They knew I've had a problem with stronger beverages morally anyway.

[Chatterbox]

Just to everybody who has posted replies on this.

Thank you very much for the encouragement and support. <3

I decided to talk to him today at lunch time - he was surprisingly understanding, he said he won't comepletely stop, but now he will only drink on fridays and saturdays and limit himself to three beers on either of those nights. Im really proud of him and glad I spoke up. He is overweight so hopefully now he will be healthier for our holiday in March.

Thanks again - youre a great bunch of people. :)

CHATTERBOX <3

[ShatteredWings]

Dad does, plenty. I really don't like it, he's an asshole and he's worse drunk.

[UnknownError]

Just to everybody who has posted replies on this.

Thank you very much for the encouragement and support. <3

I decided to talk to him today at lunch time - he was surprisingly understanding, he said he won't comepletely stop, but now he will only drink on fridays and saturdays and limit himself to three beers on either of those nights. Im really proud of him and glad I spoke up. He is overweight so hopefully now he will be healthier for our holiday in March.

Thanks again - youre a great bunch of people. :)

CHATTERBOX <3

Im glad it worked out for you. (:
Well done. ^_^

[Weeping]

Nah, not more than like, a beer or some wine for dinner, and only fridays and saturdays.

[Skeptical Bear]

My dad used to literally drink everyday. He was somewhat violent but wouldn't hit us. He'd slam crap on the floor and break stuff. We'd get scared because he mostly fought with my mom. He could have hurt her, but he didn't. He got in a coma a couple years ago from all the drinking. He vomited his liver in a bucket. We took him to the hospital. Then he woke up a week after. He says god saved him and gave him a second chance. Well, he uses this "second chance" to smoke a pack or two of cigarettes and weed day to day as of now. He's like a steel machine. I want him to stop but I don't know what to do. I know I'm going to lose him one these years over of this stupid shit. :(

[Skatergirl]

My parents don't drink at all, so I don't know what it's like to have drunk parents. lol
I think it wouldn't hurt if you told them how you feel about it. Also it's a good start that your dad is at least trying to stop.

[John Marston]

My parents drink every night too. I've gotten used to it, but they need to stop. They don't fight as much nowadays, but when they do its really bad.

[Fourth Dimension]

eh not really i mean we have wine and beer in the house but its not really touched more by me than anything but the beer my dad usually has one after work which i dont blame him i worked where he does and its a hell hole but they do go to the bar sometimes(my dad and stepmom) and they are fine but there were a few times i was called to be a desi driver and then have to wrestle my dad for the keys
now my mom she doesnt really maybe a glass of wine every now and then thats it

[Quick_Sylver]

My father's an alcoholic now, but wasnt always this bad. Ehh.

:hug: Be strong.

[Charleigh]

Ahh hun.
My step dad was an alcaholic.
My mum used to smoke pot and be stoned now and again.
Keep strong hun :/
:hug:

[Lonely_Shadow]

my dad has the few beers a night, like coarse light and rolling rock etc... but my mom drinks about 5 glasses of wine a night and you can tell shes drunk because she incoherent to everything around her, slurs her words greatly, and get super annoying.
would that be considered bad for her?

[The Madness.]

My mom does a lot. There's nights when she has her friends over and my mom alone drinks about 15-20 beers. My dad absolutely despises drinking.
But at least my mom isn't an alcoholic. She doesn't drink everyday. A few times a week, not like she needs to.
My brother's an alcoholic though. Hurts me to see him get drunk a lot because he's not even 18 yet.

[Modus Operandi]

My parents don't drink much. My dad'll sometimes have a beer or two, and my mom a glass of wine, but they don't ever get drunk unless they're out with friends, and when they do, they're pretty sane drunks. I'd just tell you to be strong and tell them how you feel. Parents really do care about their kids.

[Bluesman]

Yes they both drink but only socially... maybe a beer every few days.

[Quahog]

No. But they used to be really bad alcoholics.

[Cryofthewolf]

I think it is your call. You know your parents better than we do, so if you think they can take it well and that it will be productive then go ahead and say something.

If you do say anything, do it calmly and respectfully, and don't do it when they are drinking. Try to set a time aside to talk to them. No time will be perfect to bring it up, but there are better times than others.

I wish you luck with your parents. There is alcoholism in my family, so I can, from a distance, see what you are going through. Stay strong. <3