Question for girls?

[Egghellojoe]

Why do girls go for the assholes instead of getting to know the nice guys who actually care about you? Im a nice guy and quite shy talking to girls but once i get to know them i can talk to them more but then they seem to go for like an asshole. So why do you girls go for the guys who will ask anyone out just to say they have a gf when all you had to do was get to know the nice/shy guy and he would probably like you more then the asshole? so just wondering why girls go for the asshole who probably doesn't really care about you?

[Mrs.KermitTheFrogx]

Becuase if your shy we wont no you will we :P
girls hate asking guys out so the ones who ask you out you more likly to go out withxx

[Weeping]

All girls don't.

[ackmedsgirl666]

everybody is different'
girls for different types of guys depending on what they like
me i like men with nice personalities and are there for you when u need them
my current bestfriend is my ex so we have been connected alot and hes knows when something is wrong with me and if there is he always takes me right up in his arms and just holds me until i feel better
thats the kind of guy i like the passionate ones

[Fact]

Why do girls go for the assholes instead of getting to know the nice guys who actually care about you? Im a nice guy and quite shy talking to girls but once i get to know them i can talk to them more but then they seem to go for like an asshole. So why do you girls go for the guys who will ask anyone out just to say they have a gf when all you had to do was get to know the nice/shy guy and he would probably like you more then the asshole? so just wondering why girls go for the asshole who probably doesn't really care about you?

Entirely depends on what kind of girl you're after. As, naturally, if you run after the type of girl that will go with any guy that asks her out, for the status or for sex or for whatever reason that makes him an asshole, then she's not likely to be interested in someone who isn't an asshole if she'll just give herself to a guy that doesn't truly care when his intentions are clear.

Of course that's not always the case, but you should just be sure you're searching for the right type of girl.

[Daniel_]

Because women are mysterious creatures.

[Bath]

I tend to go for outgoing, animated, spontaneous guys, that's my excuse. I don't like shy, "nice" guys, honestly, they're boring. I have a small attention span so I need someone to keep me on my toes, even if it has a larger chance of getting hurt.

Not justifying myself, just explaining why.

[foreveryoung22]

It sometimes depends on the girl. Some girls who are quiet and shy might go after the "buttholes" because they think it will make the nicer guys notice them. And believe it or not, there are some girls who go straight to the nice ones... but these are special, rare girls. :)

[Sage]

Coming from an "asshole," I would reckon it's because we're more outgoing, confident, independent and rebellious as opposed to emotionally frail, timid, and needy. No one needs to "get to know me" to understand why I'm excellent, and I respect a woman's independence enough to let her carry her own things, open the door herself, and pay for dinner just as often as I do.

tl;dr "Assholes" pursue women while you're busy waiting for them to notice you, OP.

[steve1234]

Because women are mysterious creatures.

Agreed! :D

That question for girls is just like the 'why do the guys always have to ask the girls out?' one.

Unfortunatly there are a lot of girls who want the assholes, and then moan about how all guys are morons after they break up, and a lot of girls who expect the guy to ask the girl out.

But, not all girls are the same, and i'm sure there are plenty of girls who are sensible and don't always go for the asshole, and plenty of girls who actually ask they guy out.

[Skatergirl]

Actually that's not me at all. I do talk to the quiet shy guys all the time...online, since I can't meet people in real life easy. Due to parents/no school/where I live. I would do the same in real life too, and have.
To be honest the hot guys who joke around a lot (also known as jerks) are a turn off for me. Sure I like the look of them, but most guys who are hot, know it, and that just annoys me. I hate it when someone is full of themselves.
I'm not saying all hot guys are like that, but they're just very rare to find.
So, I don't waste my time going for looks. :)

[Azunite]

Usually, it is the spoiled girls who go after assholes and you don't want to be with spoiled ones eh?

[TheSingingBird]

Why do girls go for the assholes instead of getting to know the nice guys who actually care about you? Im a nice guy and quite shy talking to girls but once i get to know them i can talk to them more but then they seem to go for like an asshole. So why do you girls go for the guys who will ask anyone out just to say they have a gf when all you had to do was get to know the nice/shy guy and he would probably like you more then the asshole? so just wondering why girls go for the asshole who probably doesn't really care about you?

Because assholes are usually the ones with self-confidence. And confident girls want confident guys. Also, a guy you may see as an asshole, may seem like a sweet guy to a girl. Maybe he's just what she's looking for. Most importantly, different girls spring for different things. Personally, I'm dating a shy, really nice guy but it gets annoying because he's just tooooo nice. Like, spineless. I love him, but it's an annoying trait. Other girls, on the other hand, don't look for personality in guys at all, just their looks or wealth. Your best bet is to look for a girl similar to you. Similar attitudes towards life, similar social standing, etc. It's just practical, and more likely to work out.

I wish you the best.

[Charleigh]

Not all girls do.
It depends on the girl, her personality and things.

I have a question:
Why do some guys go for slutty whores?