why do i feel like this? please help

[bmxkid313]

so i am 14, a freashman in high school, and i have never had a girlfriend. i dont have many friends and im somewhat of a loner. when im in school i barley talk and when im not in school i dont talk to anybody from school. at home i always feel lonley and i wish i had a girl that i could be with, talk to, cuddle with, kiss, put my arms around, and someone that will always be there to do things with me that i once did alone. (IM NOT TALKING ABOUT JERKING OFF!!) i dont know if that makes sense or not but i hope somebody understood what i ment. has this happened to anybody else andhow long did it last for?

[Daniel_]

First of all, don't make miss leading titles. People who may be able to help you with your actual situation may not click on your thread if they feel they would be of no use to the topic you posted in your title. Just make your title related to your post, and you will get more people who have advice to give to look at your post, and they will give you a hand any way they can.

And this sounds quite common.. Your a guy. Your a teenager. Your going through puberty. Your going to want to mess around with, or at least have a girl to kiss, hug, hold, comfort. Theres nothing wrong with it, it's happened to everyone, and it lasts forever. Just come out of your shell, so to speak, and start talking to girls whether it be at school or otherwise. Be kind and considerate, and most of all don't be an ass. You'll find a girl eventually who will be interested in you, and once you do you'll have to ask her out, so you should start talking to people at school and start making friends, it will help you become less socially awkward when the time comes and you go to ask out a girl.

[Wolfy B]

Haha interesting way of getting attention. Anyway dude I'm in an almost identical situation to yours and I'm a junior so I'll tell you my story and hopefully it'll make you feel a little better.
Although I'm also a loner at school I do have friends that I talk to and stuff but if I don't have any friends in a class I don't talk much either. Also I go to a school of about 2,000 people (including all classes) so they're are a lot of "groups" of friends that don't really deviate from they're group so in my situation its pretty hard to meet new people. Anyway I don't worry about it much. I have better friends I've met online than people I know in real life so don't let it bother you too much. I'm just looking forward to going to college because I've always been more mature for my age (I'm like the only person I know who HATES family guy) and I can't wait to meet new and more mature adults.
Also I understand where you are coming from with the wanting a girlfriend thing. That is mostly hormones and puberty so it would probably be in your best interest to not get into that, especially at your age. Most couples around your age only last a week or two (and I'm not exahgerating at all). At my age however (16) it is actually something quite hard to ignore and I also find myself kind of "shopping" if you will around the 1,000 or so girls at my school (lots of choices haha) but I normally don't ever follow up because for some reason even though I'm not really popular I always like girls that are really outgoing and gorgeous who usually end up being popular. But the most important thing to remember is that most high school relationships don't last. And even though its a nice experience to have, you will have plenty of time for dating in the many years of your life left.

Hope I helped. If you wanna personally chat send me your MSN, AIM, or whatever.

[Infinity]

As harsh as this may sound...
You might want to quit being a little loner and be social.
Sometimes, when people see a kid who normally doesn't talk to anyone at all and sticks to himself, they think something is wrong with him.
I used to be very shy and never socialized with anyone but one other person.
People used to think something was wrong, like I was too socially inept to socialize with anyone else.
Try just approaching a girl, a simple "Hi," will do.
They might be a little weirded out at first, but if you just get a little less "socially awkward" everyday, soon girls will say "Hi!" back.

[kyle95]

Don't mix the idea of wanting a friend with the idea of wanting someone to hug and kiss; the latter follows the former. We all have to make the effort, it's called an emotional investment - no investment, no return. Approach girls nicely and see if they let you chill with them. One of them will warm up to you more and when she does, you've got a friend :) As for the hugging and kissing girls prefer an honest and sincere friendship over heavies. So prove yourself to be a good friend without expectations. Who knows, you may find yourself with many "girl-friends". Take a deep breath, calm yourself and be confident when you approach anyone. Good luck mate, you can do it :)