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[xhelgrindx]

Mt gf asked me today if everything was okay and if anything was wrong and I told her. and we had a fight about it, it revolved around me not making decisions for my own and giving my input when we make decisions together. Whenever we do something I always let her decide what to do. Is this a bad thing? I don’t think so. I was just trying to be nice by letting her do what she wants to do. But sometimes I like to make decisions for my own and I like to put my input in when we both make decisions. She's really honest to even if its mean if theres a movie i want to see i think she'd straight out tell me it looks stupid and i put up and watch her chick flicks with her. I don't tell her that the movies and music she watches and listens to is stupid. I just think im too nice idk. An example of this is church last Sunday I probably should have stayed home and done homework but I went to church I hate church and so does she but she pressures me into coming. I first told her it was both of our faults and you can understand why I would say that because after so long of just letting her decide it kind of becomes a tradition and then she always picks and she may do it without even noticing but it really is all just my fault and I told her that it really is just all my fault and she was still angry with me. I told her that I need to work on that and that I need to work on telling her when something is bothering me or when I am upset. I almost never tell her when I am upset or when something is wrong because I am always worried she will be angry with me or we will start fighting and I hate fighting with her more than anything. This is a prime example. I always listen to her when there is something wrong or when she is upset with me and I always try to understand or try to hear her out. So I never bring anything up when it bothers me or upsets me because I don’t think she’s as understanding as I am. I always let it bottle up inside me until I just let it all out and I can’t do this anymore. But I don’t want to fight with her or for her to be angry at me. I HATE IT!!! So she stopped texting me and went to bed she didn’t even want to fix it before she went to bed so she went to bed with us fighting. Idk and then she’s going to a Boy Scout camp this summer and yes I trust her it’s just some of the boys I don’t trust. She went last year and that didn’t go so well we barely saw each other and we fought a lot. There’s no cell service up there so it was usually on weekends I would text her because she went into the closest town to the camp and would have service or I would see her sometimes on the weekends. I would love to go with her. Idk many of the people who work there so it would be kind of lame but I wouldn’t mind but there’s kind of other things I want to do over the summer then work at a boy scout camp but idk if I would be able to go another summer with her working at the camp again. Idk I just idk. I feel like I care for her alot more then she does me. I think not all the times but how to be sweet and cute because ik she likes things like that and i just like to make her feel good and i dont think she thinks the same way i do. I love her so much its just stuff like this that annoys me and ya. Idk what im asking but ya she called me a kid and told me that she hope i can man up because she cant be with a kid forever or something like that. and her facebook status right now is They all say things you wanna hear but actions speak louder than words. so ya idk. Ill keep ya updated.

[Wolfy B]

Well in my opinion it really sounds like you have problems with expression and confidence. First of all girls don't like to make ALL of the decisions on their own (at least a majority of the time) and they definitely don't like guys that won't speak their mind and actually contribute in a relationship. By always letting her make all the decisions you are pretty much telling her that you think that your opinion and what matters to you are less important then hers and that you won't speak up to make your opinions heard. Also you aren't really being nice, you're just being a spineless jellyfish honestly (NO OFFENSE). So you need to realize that your thoughts, feelings, and opinions are just as important as hers and you need to start speaking your mind!

"She's really honest to even if its mean if theres a movie i want to see i think she'd straight out tell me it looks stupid and i put up and watch her chick flicks with her."
As for chick flicks thats pretty normal for a guy to put up with so don't worry about it. But if she keeps telling you that all the movies you want to see are stupid you need to stand your ground and tell her that you are considerate enough to watch movies she likes and she should be able to return the favor.

"An example of this is church last Sunday I probably should have stayed home and done homework but I went to church I hate church and so does she but she pressures me into coming. I first told her it was both of our faults and you can understand why I would say that because after so long of just letting her decide it kind of becomes a tradition and then she always picks and she may do it without even noticing but it really is all just my fault and I told her that it really is just all my fault and she was still angry with me. I told her that I need to work on that and that I need to work on telling her when something is bothering me or when I am upset."
This is kind of stupid considering that if you both don't like it I don't know why you'd go. Now, I'm an athiest (don't believe in god) so I can't really offer much advise for this. But I will say that you shouldn't be pressured into doing anything you don't want to do in a relationship and if you even acknowledged that you need to start working on that and she was still angry I think you might be better off with someone else.

"I almost never tell her when I am upset or when something is wrong because I am always worried she will be angry with me or we will start fighting and I hate fighting with her more than anything. This is a prime example. I always listen to her when there is something wrong or when she is upset with me and I always try to understand or try to hear her out. So I never bring anything up when it bothers me or upsets me because I don’t think she’s as understanding as I am. I always let it bottle up inside me until I just let it all out and I can’t do this anymore. But I don’t want to fight with her or for her to be angry at me. I HATE IT!!!"
This is a HUGE problem. One of the things you should be able to count on with your boyfriend/girlfriend is that they will be there for you when you need to talk about something or vent or whatever. When you don't talk about what is bothering you and then it bottles up this happens! You end up not talking and in a huge fight! You need to start expressing your feelings and if she can't be supportive and there for you then I'm thinking you need to move on.

"So she stopped texting me and went to bed she didn’t even want to fix it before she went to bed so she went to bed with us fighting. Idk and then she’s going to a Boy Scout camp this summer and yes I trust her it’s just some of the boys I don’t trust. She went last year and that didn’t go so well we barely saw each other and we fought a lot. There’s no cell service up there so it was usually on weekends I would text her because she went into the closest town to the camp and would have service or I would see her sometimes on the weekends. I would love to go with her. Idk many of the people who work there so it would be kind of lame but I wouldn’t mind but there’s kind of other things I want to do over the summer then work at a boy scout camp but idk if I would be able to go another summer with her working at the camp again."
If she is trustworthy in your eyes than I wouldn't worry about other boys because I'm pretty sure no rape would be going on at your age. As for the distance, I'm' not sure how old you are or think you are but if you want a relationship to work you need to make sacrifices occasionally. So if you really want this to work out, I would offer to go with her over the summer to camp and be with her. If you really like her nothing should be more important to you than spending time with her, even if it means spending a whole summer at a lame camp.

So basically spending time with her over the summer should help you work out some problems and other things especially without all the hassle/stress of school, other people, etc. It will give you a lot of one-on-one time to work out stuff and should help a lot. And if things don't work out, don't sweat it. She doesn't sound like the nicest person in the world or the "right one" for you anyway. And it won't be the end of the world, so don't be afraid to move on to greener pastures.

And yes I know this is long, but you've got a lot of problems :D
Oh yeah and YOUR WELCOME!

[Wolfy B]

"I love her so much its just stuff like this that annoys me and ya. Idk what im asking but ya she called me a kid and told me that she hope i can man up because she cant be with a kid forever or something like that. and her facebook status right now is They all say things you wanna hear but actions speak louder than words."
Ok so what I'm getting from this is that she feels she is always babysitting you because of the fact that you never make any decisions for yourself (so you resemble a child). Also what the facebook status to me means is that like you earlier mentioned that you told her that you know the church thing was all your fault and you're sorry and you're going to work on it. But she is tired of you telling her all these things and wants you to do something about it NOW (hence the "actions speak louder than words").