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mistral
January 11th, 2011, 11:38 PM
Alrighty, brace yourself for another sob story...

My family is really close to one of my mum's friend's family. One of her children is about the same age as me (14-15.) When my family moved near them back in '03, we used to hang out all the time. What I recently realised is that she used to like me. A lot. After about late-2008, we didnt talk as much anymore (she hangs out with my older sister nowadays) and it was only then that i realised i liked her. So i asked her out (she said NO) then she told me why i didnt ask her earlier. At first i was just upset that she didnt say yes, but after i got over it i understood what she meant.

Before i start talking for days, i just wanted to state my question: is there any way i can get her to like me again? This will be very hard since im aware that she might be interested in other guys now... but thats not fair. I didnt even know how she felt about me all those years. Or should i just give up on her and start meeting new people? Im just so confused...
devilsheep
January 12th, 2011, 12:40 AM
I would say probably try to forget about her because after a girl says no its unlikely she will change her mind because she's probably embarrased. Might just be a lost cause man, i know it's hard to let go of someone you like you.
Wolfy B
January 12th, 2011, 01:48 AM
I agree that it is most likely a lost cause. However I would talk to her directly and try to explain to her how you were only 14 and didn't really have the knowledge to pick up the hints she most likely dropped and ask for a second chance. You could also throw in a little bit about how you just recently realized how much she means to you and that no matter what you still want her in your life, whether that be as a friend or more. Hope I helped and best of luck.
mistral
January 12th, 2011, 03:24 AM
I was 12 when i asked her out; im 14 now (not that it matters). So i guess its too late for 'us' then... but i loved her so much... SCREW YOU FACEBOOK!!!!!!!! LOOK AT WHAT YOUVE DONE TO ME!!!!!!!!!!
Wolfy B
January 12th, 2011, 05:44 PM
I was 12 when i asked her out; im 14 now (not that it matters). So i guess its too late for 'us' then... but i loved her so much... SCREW YOU FACEBOOK!!!!!!!! LOOK AT WHAT YOUVE DONE TO ME!!!!!!!!!!

Ok first of all yes, it does matter that your only 14! and you were 12 when you asked her out!?! Seriously!? You aren't near old or mature enough to even fathom what love is. So yeah, grow up and then maybe you can attempt a relationship.
Ihaveleftforever
January 12th, 2011, 09:21 PM
If you see light go for it man!
Wolfy B
January 12th, 2011, 09:31 PM
If you see light go for it man!

Dude I don't even know what you just said so I doubt this kid will.
Daniel_
January 12th, 2011, 09:38 PM
Be nice, treat her right, hang out with her, talk to her, and if she decides to like you, she will. Theres no sure fire way to make someone like you, if they don't like you, they just don't. But try your best, and don't be a dick. When she needs someone to talk to, listen. When you think shes upset, ask her whats wrong and if you can help in any way.
mistral
January 14th, 2011, 07:01 AM
Be nice, treat her right, hang out with her, talk to her, and if she decides to like you, she will. Theres no sure fire way to make someone like you, if they don't like you, they just don't. But try your best, and don't be a dick. When she needs someone to talk to, listen. When you think shes upset, ask her whats wrong and if you can help in any way.

I've never been a dick to anyone. Ever. But I think she sees me as that 'nice friend who is out of her league' now. Because of this, i think i made up my mind about her way too late, and now she's over me. But I can't be too sure. I just wish i asked her out much earlier, around the age of 9. Maybe she wouldnt ignore me as much now...