Should I tell a friend, how to talk to friends bout being curious?

[PAfarmerkid]

Ok, I want to have a friend to talk to here about being curious etc... Im not shure if I should or not. The friend I would tell is alittle against gays, and dont want him thinking Im gay or anything like that, since Im not. I dont know how to say it either if I do. I think he is curious himself but not sure.

[CaliKid24]

When I told a few of my friends, one was alright with it, but another went on to talk shit about me because of it. Be sure you are ready to tell people, and if you are then make sure you can trust the person.

[PAfarmerkid]

Im pretty sure I can trust the person, Ive told him other things that arent as private but he never told anyone. Im going to wait alittle longer till I tell him or anyone.

[tyler007]

NO you should not tell your that friend, if hes even a little anti-gay. Even if he is courious... he could be hiding or cover up that fact by be anti-gay, but that does not sound like a good choice to me. Do NOT do it if it make you uncomfortable. I think you should tell a friend who you know well and who can keep your secret, and who is gay/ bi tolerent,at least, (gay/bi friendly woul dbe best). Its not something you can just take back..after you say it.

I dont know really but thats just what i would do,,,

[PAfarmerkid]

Thats my only worry, I really dont have many friends I talk to alot, like maybe 3 or 4. 2 I think I can trust, 1 of them I know I can trust wich is one wich is not gay tolerant. The other 2 I dont tell any secrets too, they cant keep their mouths shut and I know it, lol. Ive found its very hard to find someone that is gay/bi tolerant wich Im guessin also includes being curious?

[PAfarmerkid]

Well, today didnt go so well, not bad but not the best. Me and one of my friends were talkin bout porn in study hall and the subject of gay pron came up somehow and I accidently said somethin that let him know I watch gay porn, at first I denied it but he was all ok bout it, just told him to not tell anyone and he said ok, I trust him, I think he also kinda got the hint that Im curious also, again, not on purpose :(

[grstl]

Sounds like a pretty good start. If he mentions it again or hints that he has tried watching it perhaps you could watch some together and talk about it or something.

[PAfarmerkid]

Thanks. I decided to tell a good friend that dont live around my area, I knew he would take it ok.So I told him bout my incident in school today. Then I told him Im curious etc. etc. I had to clear some confusion up but then we talked and asked questions. Went well, he knew it wasnt easy to tell him either. Defiantly changes thought on stuff and not keeping everything to myself.

[Ihaveleftforever]

Dang man I think you should see what happends and sounds like this guy is all ready knows your curious by how you worded it... idk what eles to say

[tyler007]

I think that cool about the friend you told or let slip out tha you sometimes watch gay porn., and he was cool about it. So i would just talk about it some more and see what happens... :) And thats really cool that you told another friend, and he was pretty much ok with it. im sure it was not eazy,...
So how do you feel now, that you told someone your courious, and about the porn???

[PAfarmerkid]

I told 1 more friend that I was very iffy about telling, the person who is against gays, I see him everyday so thought it'd be nice for someone I saw everyday to know. He took it well and agrees Im just curious. He was alittle iffy about the porn thing though, but he told me whatever works for me.

As of how I feel, telling my 2 friends and accidently letting it slip to another, its making me feel much better now..... alot better actually. It wasnt easy telling either, I was sweating buckets and alittle shaky, but now that its done I dont regret it.

[Johupp]

Hey man, it was like the same way for me. When I told my sister, I was shaking and was wanting to just say never mind, but I stuck through and told her. When she told me she was fine with it, I felt so relieved. It's easy saying two words to somebody close to you, but when those two words are "I'm gay/bi/curious," it sure does get challenging...

Up to today, most of my High school, friends, and most of my family knows I'm gay. After telling people what I really was, I was so relieved and less stressed about hiding who I truly was.

But I've probably been rambling long enough lol. I wish you luck coming out, even if you're just curious... :P

[jason123]

U may get over the gay porn peroid. Its a natural part of puberty

[PAfarmerkid]

Its been 2 days now and everything is still all good. Me and my friend I accidently told about the gay porn and sat down yesterday and talked. Today I noticed absolutely no awkardness or differences.

My other friend I told at school is alittle different, in a good way though, theres been alittle awkwardness. But when Ive been round him hes seemed to be a bit more happy, than usually. Ive been alittle worked up bout it though, I feel great that Ive told some people, but physically I feel like shit! Some people have told me to ask the people Ive told how they feel about it and everything.

[Jetsman]

I wish it went that well when i told my friend "I'm Gay."

After that we havent talked at all and he avoids me... It's almost been 3 months now ):

[PAfarmerkid]

That sucks. After talkin to em both they seemed like they wouldnt care if I was gay either because I act straight.

If I were you Id try and sit down and talk to him about it, if he was a true friend he would spend the time and talk to you. He was probably very surprised and just feels awkward. You ever need anything man let me know.

[Jetsman]

I would love to sit down and talk with him, but he avoids conversation and even eye contact. Now I'm scared to tell anybody else in fear of losing all my friends.

[PAfarmerkid]

Last night I asked my one friend how he felt, he said hes just surprised and never expected it. Then I told him I wanted him to ask all the questions he had. So he started askin questions without and issue, and he was very understanding.

My other friend on the other hand was alittle different, hes the one thats alittle anti-gay. I asked him his feelings and got, "I dont really care dude, its still you" I had to push alittle for 1 question, wich was if under any circumstnces I would be physically attracted to a guy, and told him Im not gonna lie and said yes. He said hes stayin in his comfort zone and I asked him if he's soaked it all in yet and got a no back, wich I kinda figured. I have a long road ahead with him but we will get through it!

[PAfarmerkid]

Last night I talk to my one friend alittle bout it. Made some great progress I think.I asked him if he was wondering why I told him so I told him bout he bein a good friend and I can trust him and I needed to tell someone so I can talk to them and its also been hard keepin it in for almost 2 years. He agreed it would be hard then we talked bout it alittle more. I told him I hoped some day we can talk bout it in person and he said he will be able too eventually, he's just trying to ease into it. Im happy with the progress and personally I also think its makin the friendship better by us knowing we trust each other.

[DrkZ90]

congratulations, you're very lucky for having such an awesome pair of friends.

I wish I had someone like that :/