My quiting thread...

[Alexithymia]

Despite what it says, this is -not- a non-self harm calendar. This is just me explaining how I plan to quit SHing. Feel free to go ahead and post ways that you quit, or plan to.

So, every two weeks I'm allowing myself one "cheat" cut. I can only cut in a specific location (I really want it to scar) and I can only cut once (Or... eight, because it's the word "FAT") every two weeks. Eventually I'll raise that cheat cut to three weeks, then four, and then hopefully by then I won't need it. And this cheat cut won't interrupt my non-cutting spree (even though it technically would), but if I cut a single cut more, then the spree is over. (Sorry for odd word choice, can't think of a better word.)

Anyone here agree? Disagree? Have better ways to quit?

[Painted_Indian_Horse]

it sounds like a logical way to do it. i wish you the best of luck! i'll be here for support if you need it :)

i just... stopped. i don't know. that happens with me. i'll quit cold turkey and be fine for months, and then relapse into a cycle again. but that's just me. right now i've been cut-free (not scar free) since like october. :D

[Alexithymia]

Gratz! I'm here if you ever fall back into that cycle.

[Myrnodin]

I loved your idea. I think it is a great way of making yourself stop cutting. However, can i appeal to you desire of leaving a scar? I know you want it to be a permanent mark of what you did, but think of it, you are doing something good for yourself, you are making a step ahead, why is it that you must damage the "goodness" of it, with scars in your skin, that sounds a lot like a punishment to me. Punishing yourself for doing something good doesn't sound quite logical does it? You have set parameters, as long as you follow those, i see no reason why you should leave scars for yourself. Wouldn't it be nice yo look back when you are finished, and see a clear skin? There are other ways of reminding you of what you did. (You can take photos, thats what i would do)

Please think of it, no skin deserves to be sacared, no girl deserves to be punished. :)

Yeah, i woke up a bit cheesy today. ;)

My humble opinion,

- Josh

[Syvelocin]

I've just been making sure to be with people who know how to help me out of it. I'm not able to be alone, which will get me frustrated but in the long run will help that I have some close friends who know what to do to keep me from getting upset and running off to get my razors, and are there when I need them. Honestly, if it was just me, I don't think I'd ever get better, because it's other people who I'm getting better for, not myself as much as I wish it was. Alone, my strength isn't even half of it's potential.

[Alexithymia]

Josh, the reason I want that scar is not only because I feel like I need it, but because I want a reminder of this. It may not make sense, but this is the one scar that I want.

And good job, Rith, for having people around you to stop. Sometimes it's hard, but it'll be worth it.

[closed]

Congratz. I'm sure that with little effort you can do it. But please, please don't give a damn about technical counting. Don't care about stuff like that, because the important part is that you stop with it, not how much cuts it took you to stop:). Of course, don't use this message as a legitimation to cut more.
-I stopped cutting this way: I decided with a friend that if i don't cut he want cut to. And just told myself not to cut. There were a little hard situations, but if you decide it, it's not that hard. Besides, i sorta stopped for him.... anyway, my point is that you need to tell yourself from the beginning that you won't cut more than you let yourself, and hold to that promise.
Good luck, and if you ever need to talk someone about it, know that i'm always here :hug:

[Alexithymia]

For me... I can't do that. Because if I don't care about the technical counting, then I'll just cut once and say that it doesn't matter. Then twice, it doesn't matter. Three, four... I have to count. For some counting only makes it harder, but for me (When I have a goal) it makes it so much easier.

[HeroesAndCons]

i really hope this works for you <3 :hug:

[FullyAlive]

I'm really happy that you've found something that may help you stop, I'm really proud I hope you manage to stop. And when I finally decide that I can stop I nay steal your method a cheat cut sounds like a really good idea. Good luck :)

[UnknownError]

I hope this works for you. Keep us updating on how its going. (:

[Alexithymia]

Thanks for the help everyone. I'm doing pretty well today. Hopefully it stays that way!

[Mike321]

I hope everything works out, good luck!
Keep us posted

[Alexithymia]

Here is the day 5 fall. Mmmm... Anyone feel like helping me? I've got a long night of insomnia awaiting me.

[Fiction]

Feel free to pm me with what you want help with :)

[Alexithymia]

Sorry about me leaving. I just wanted to take a break from the computer. But good news, I'm getting what I wanted! Which means I'm happy. Which means that I have absolutely no reason to cut! I'm proud of myself for managing to go this long. It's day 8, and tomorrow will be my record. I know that I haven't beaten it yet, but I know I will. And I feel elated.

Edit: Day 9. I'm useless. What does it matter if I beat my record? I'm never gonna quit. All my friends hate me. My parents distrust me. I lie, lie, lie, lie. I act like I'm smart when I'm an idiot. I'm fat. I can't even think straight. I suck in every possible way. I overate today, eating god knows how many calories. I can't think. I'm hopeless. I need to get this onto somewhere. I don't know if this even makes sense. I can't think. I don't know what to do. I don't want to quit.