Confused - Being a Drama Queen - Or Not?

[Kitten]

Sooo - my parents suck. Plain and simple. My dad and mum got divorced when i was like, five. My dad moved half way across the word, to Asia. I'm stuck in the States with my mother.
My mum remarried a very abusive man. Ever since we met, he's made it very clear that he wants nothing to do with me.
Me and my mother used to be very close, but ever since they remarried, life's been hell. My stepdad has warped my mum's brain into somehow thinking physical discipline (hitting, etc.) and verbally tearing me down is right.
I've gone to many therapists (apparently being diagnosed with Depression), but once they agree with me and not my mother, she pulls me out, and finds a new one. My mother doesn't see what shes doing. I've thought about suicide (but stopped. i dont have the guts.) ive smoked, done pot, drank, and cut. Nothing seems to get her attention.
My brother (mama's boy) is at home, but just got accepted into a college. While im excited for him (being an elite college he got excepted into) im terrifed that when he leaves, things will get worse.
Thing is, when i tell my friends looking for help, all anyone tells me is "go to the police." or something in that sort. Thats not exactly what i want to hear. Though my mother is probably a psycho, shes still my mother, and i still love her. I don't want to get pulled out of my home, sent away, or get introuble. Is it just me, or do other people not like hearing that (go to police) as well? am i just being a drama queen? :\\

[Myrnodin]

Of course you are not being a drama queen. Dont let anyone tell you that; your happiness should always be the most important thing for you, and reaching out for help doesn't make you dramatic.

Now, about your issue: You dont want your mom to get in trouble right? I dont think you care that much about your step dad do you? See, your mom needs therapy, thats it, just a few visits to the psycologist. She wont get in trouble or anything; the only thing a psycologist would do is making her understand that verbal and pysical harassment does no good to you. (and neither does that guy) Your step dad is another story tho. Has he ever laid a hand on you or verbaly harrassed you? If he did you have the RIGHT you accuse him, and it would be HIM who would be taken away from your home, like i said, the only thing for your mom would be some time of therapy, which is for her own good. You dont want to see that guy hitting her do you? Nobody does.

You dont have to go to the police tho. (Even I am scared of policemen) Why don't you try a school counselor (or whatever it is you have at your school) they are usually trained to handle this kind of thing, Explain the events carefully, and don't omit details. Write it if you wish. (a written paper weigths much more than just a testimony, and they cant show your mom or any other person your letter, unless it is a judge)

Like i said my dear, that guy is a danger not only to you, but to your mother, and if you really care about her, and love her, then you have to do the right thing. Like i said, shes not gonna "get in trouble" or anything, it will be good for her. Be brave, i know its hard to give this first step, but its better now than later.

Regards,

- Josh.

[smitty35]

No you are certainly NOT a drama queen. This is serious. While I was reading I was thinking that you could go to your school counseler and if that doesnt help you may have to go to the police. This is definately abuse.

[1_21Guns]

Nobody wants to hear that you should go to the police over your own family, but sadly they do have a valid point. There's no reason why you should have to go directly to the police yourself, seeking help at school from perhaps the school councellor (if there is one) or even a trusted teacher. I'm aware that if you go down that route, it's very likely they will have to pass on the details to the authorites. It's not right that you're living in fear like this, and I know it may feel wrong that you have to go around doing this behind your mothers back, but it's for your own sake that you try and get some help with it.
Good luck, and feel free to PM me if you ever need someone to talk to :hug3:

[HeroesAndCons]

u are not a dramaqueen your screaming for help

if u need me pm me

[Quahog]

I'm so sorry you're having to go through all that. Don't ever feel like you're a drama queen. If you know something isn't right, it probably isn't. Talk to your school counselor, and explain to them your situation, about you and your mother.

[Kitten]

Thanks guys. I'll surely PM you guys if i need to...