Was it abuse?

[LiTTleBrok3nDolly]

So about a year ago i started to like this one boy and after a month he asked me out, not directly but i was in a dance room with some friends and he was there and he said" ...I like irish girls who give me pink jackets" i didnt hear him until a friend took me out and told me, i went to the girls locker room creeped out. Then kayla came back and told me he wanted to ask me out, i literally cried pacing back and forth not knowing what to say back, liz, the one who told me what he said sat on a bench and watched me, saying that it wasnt a big deal, until i told her why its freaking me out a guy likes me, so i sent kayla to ask him why he liked me and he didnt know why, he just does so i said to say maybe but its one hundred percent not no. After that class, i was walking away and told kayla to tel him yes, so when she did he literally jumped in the air and yelled "yes!". Then the next day he gave me a hug and gave him my number. When i was taken out of school i went to the bus stop and met up with him we sat on a bench and he sat real close, he asked if he was to close, i said yes and he told me hes a really close person. He moved away, and i told him he could come back so he did. We held hands for a while and i felt uncomfortable, like i didnt trust him. The next day i came to his house and went to the garage. He stood really close to me like dating partners do but when he went in to kiss me i looked away, and he had to force my face towards his and kiss. Then he got to close to my crotch and i moved his hand away, then he said "i wanna have sex with you" and smiled, laughed a little and began kissin my cheek. It wasnt pleasant, he always forced my hands open or moved my face to him. And then he told me he was going to grab my butt, but he counted down from 5 and then placed them on my butt, then he treated them like dough. Like he didnt care if he was hurting me (the next day it hurt to sit down a little bit) but after about 3 minutes of that he tried to poke my boobs and i pushed his arms away and he laughed like it was a joke. Then he leaned on the trunk of his car and he pulled me into him and squished me against his dick, literally like grabbed me in and pulled.It didnt feel nice, then we switched places and he leaned in so far i couldnt move an inch. FINALLY he noticed i was about to cry, he stopped and told me we didnt have to make out, then he claimed he could be the nicest guy in the world (i forgot to say he was HIGH ON DRUGS) and pulled me in again and began kissing me for long periods of time, tried to french kiss but i just smiled trying to brush it off my shoulder and he forced my arms around his neck, he put his arms around my waist and tried to pully down my pants, i backed away quickyl and he did nothing.....it went on like this. But my bottom hurt after wards, he constantly forced me to do things and wanted to have sex with me twice and almost pulled down my pants and grabbed my boob.

Was it abuse? OR did i just not have enough courage to stop something small like the butt grabbin from happening?

[Skeptical Bear]

This guy is obviously a pervert and only wants sex. I would call this abuse but not sure what kind, but this could turn into a rape situation unless you don't mind doing it with him. I would stop dating him if I were you. You aren't comfortable with the stuff he's doing and he seems to be hurting you. All the time you're together.

[Myrnodin]

Yes, it was a degree of abuse. Doing ANYTHING, and i mean ANYTHING against your will, even worse forcing you, counts as abuse and/or sexual harassment. It doesnt matter if he was high or not, if accepted to go to his house or not, the guy is clearly a pervert and i strongly recommend you get away from him.

Also you must remember that there is no such thing as "Not having enough courage for..." You are a girl and as such you HAVE to be respected. He shouldnt even have TRIED to touch you in the first place. Its very important for you to remember this, a lot of girls tend to think it was their fault; let me tell you, it was not. It never is.

Remember that people can promise a lot of things, but those are just words, if on your first visit he abused you, dont even think about how would it be in a longer relationship. I do would fear a rape scenario. There are plenty of good people out there, jsut wait a bit, and you will find a knight in shining armor, this guys who touched you, doesnt even deserve to breathe the same air you do.

Please be careful,

Regards,

Josh.

[Myrnodin]

edit: sorry, double posted.