What's wrong with me?

[ThatScience]

I don't want to go out with any of the girls I know or am friends with.
Not that they're not all attractive; they're beautiful and so nice... I just don't see any of them in "that way".
I really want to see them that way, I just find it hard.

1) Am I normal?
2) What sould I do to change this?

[patrick99]

well do you like think there hot. but you do not want to date them i know how this makes no sence.

[ThatScience]

Well there's this one girl and I just think she's absolutely perfect!
I honestly can't think of anything bad about her but... I don't feel the need to date her or anyone... The problem is I feel the need to date SOMEONE...

[Stay]

Hello Jdude13,

Patrick has the wrong idea, looks shouldn't matter about a girl, in my opinion. Maybe you need to try and open yourself up some to them, flirt a little bit, see how you feel afterwords about them. I'm kind of like how you are right now, I really would love a relationship, but I just don't see anyone worth trying for at this point in time.

Here to help
~Stay

[Ambrosia]

Depending on your age and what exactly is going on in your life could be why you find yourself not attracted to these girls. The fact is, some guys just aren't attracted to every pretty face that walks by (While plenty fall dead in their tracks to anything with breasts). Justin has a point, looks shouldn't matter (but play a large part) so it's not because the girls you see aren't pretty. You need to give it time. Possibly open yourself up to more things, get to know girls better. You don't have to have a girlfriend to get on through life, that's a fact.

You'll meet someone some day and become just as love sick as the rest of the world. Dread it! =P

[Stay]

Depending on your age and what exactly is going on in your life could be why you find yourself not attracted to these girls. The fact is, some guys just aren't attracted to every pretty face that walks by (While plenty fall dead in their tracks to anything with breasts). Justin has a point, looks shouldn't matter (but play a large part) so it's not because the girls you see aren't pretty. You need to give it time. Possibly open yourself up to more things, get to know girls better. You don't have to have a girlfriend to get on through life, that's a fact.

You'll meet someone some day and become just as love sick as the rest of the world. Dread it! =P
I like this post. Haha. You should feel lucky you don't want a relationship.
In all serious though, just give it time and don't be afraid.

[The Joker]

There is absolutely nothing wrong with not wanting to date anyone. In fact, I personally find that much more normal than all the teenagers praising love.

[KylieEatWorld]

Nothing's wrong with you at all. You just don't feel the need for a relationship, yet. I find it admirable. You're independent and can do on your own for the time being. You don't need a relationship like everyone else.

[jason123]

Nothings wrong. I am kinda like you, I just choose not to go out with anyone for some reason. I am attracted to girls but i just stay out of there way and let them talk to me. As Foxglove said you don't need a relationship like everone else.

[SuperSuraj]

Yeah absolutely nothing wrong with you, i'm the same why, a lot of my friends are really beautiful girls (not to brag or anything) but i just dont want to have the possibility of ruining our friendship by dating.

[Ihaveleftforever]

yea your deff normal same here :)

[Daniel_]

1. your normal.
2. meet more women.

[kyle95]

You're partially right by not seeing anything wrong with them, now start looking at what's right about them and chill with them, just be friends and everything will fall into place. You're also right by identifying the problem of no desire of wanting to go out. Perhaps if you lower your expectations of what it means to "go out" you may find it much easier. Girls are more mature than we are and certainly more understanding. They're usually happy we're showing honest and genuine attention to them. Let her suggest or tell you what she expects from the date. You'll be quite surprised, pleasantly I may add. Remember, you just going out with them as friends, you're not getting married, so just be yourself mate and have fun :)

[Sebastian Michaelis]

1) Am I normal? YES
2) What sould I do to change this? NOTHING BE WHO YOU ARE AND DON'T CHANGE YOURSELF FOR ANYONE BUT YOU

[ThatScience]

I'm not looking at their looks... The fact that they are gorgeous is just a bonus. They're all so nice and compassionate.

One of them (the perfect one) just broke up and now I feel like I may want to ask her out. The only problem is that she's never single for too long. She's not promiscuous, -she goes out with people for a long time- it's just that I'm kinda friends with her ex and don't want to create any conflicts or awkwardness. I want to get to know her on a higher level but don't want to feel like I'm "snapping her up on the rebound" but I know that if I wait I'll miss out... It would be wrong to try and lay the "ground work" for a relationship whilst she is going out with someone else just because I'm convinced of the fact that they will break up eventually... She appears to be very fond of me, though, and in the last stages of their relationship she appeared to be granting me more attention than her (now ex-) boyfriend.

Should I:
*Try and rush into a relationship which may cause awkwardness?
*Try to ease into a relationship whilst she is dating her next boyfriend?
*Wait and see if she will ask me?
or
*Forget it and just accept that the situation is too volatile for me to handle?

I would greatly appreciate your help and thank those of you who read through my ramblings.

[Cryofthewolf]

Dude, you are completely normal. There are girls that I find attractive but I don't like them 'that way'. It doesn't make you gay or anything (if you are that's definitely ok too). Just give it time. You have the rest of your life to find somebody, so don't put too much thought into it now. Personally, I don't look for people to date. If someone comes along, then fine, I will go for it, but I don't actively search for people to date. Besides, I also find that people like me who don't actively search for dates for the sake of dating have better relationships.

Like I said, just give it time. I'm sure you will find somebody someday. =-)

[ThatScience]

It doesn't make you gay or anything (if you are that's definitely ok too).

I'm not worried about being gay just fyi... I just think that I should have at least one person in my life who I feel so comfortable with that I can share myself with her...

Also I'm gunna make the last post I did a new thread.