[freakingout] i cant do this!

[Fiending_the_freedom]

FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK!

my therapist just called.
she said shes concered about me becuase of how often i have suicidal thoughts.
she said legally she has to tell my dad that i used to cut & that i tried to overdose..
THATS SO UNFAIR.
i dont cut anymore!
i'm done!
3 months clean!
& i treid to overdose yes but that was a year ago.
why does she have to tell him?
i'm freaking out so bad.
hes going to tell my mom & my sister.
fuck,
i cant go through this,
this is too much.
they cant know.
i dont want them to know.
fuck this is the worst.
legally she needs to tell him within 24 hours.
fuck.
i have to go there after school [yea right like i'm going to school now]
& then my dads coming a half n hour after.
fuck i cant do this.
how am i going to look at him?
i want to leave the room when she tells him.
& i'm not going in the car home with him, i'm taking the subway.
oh god.

[mRojas2000]

You have to face what you have done... no matter how hard it'll be, you have to face it... sure, they are going to be disappointed with you, but they won't stop loving you.. if you had suicidal thoughts and you have tried to overdose theres got to be a reason... right??
But if you are like REALLY, but REALLY worried, then tell her her that you are going to do something worst that cutting or overdosing (please don't do it for real)

[Whisper]

OMG miguel....shhhhh
you havent been there
you dont know what your talking about

hun it'll be okay
please don't get mad at her
shes scared and worried about you
as a therapist shes legally bound to tell your parents or the authoritys if she belives you are going to be a damger to yourself or those around you
if something happens to you
shes responsible

Your parents care about you
I know its hard to tell sometimes
belive me I know
But they really do
your there little girl
NOTHING will ever change that

They want to help hun
if they didnt
they wouldnt send you to her period
they love you and they want to help
they probly just don't know how

If you don't want to be in the room then you don't have to be
and there good at telling things to rents
I've seen many and Frank had to tell my mum some stuff once
I didnt go in
I was TERRIFIED about what my mum would think
what shed do
but he made sure everything was okay
he took care of me

she'll take care of you
it'll be okay

~hug~

[TheWizard]

Wow thats a hard one. You just have to face the fact that you might need extra treatment.

My mom found out after I tried to kill myself (I took 70 sleeping pills and woke up from a coma three days later). She wasn't mad at all. All she wanted was to get me the best help I could get.

Your parents will do the same thing so don't worry about it. They will love you even more and they will do anything to keep you from killing yourself.

[Sapphire]

She has a legal obligation to inform the right people if she thinks you are a danger to yourself or others. But, this surely only applies for the present. The here and now. If you haven't cut for 3 months and the OD that shes talking of happened a year and a half ago then what are her grounds? You are surely showing improvement seeing as you arent cutting anymore!

shes legally bound to tell your parents or the authoritys if she belives you are going to be a damger to yourself or those around you
Not have been a danger to yourself or those around you. Therefore what are her grouds for informing GeekInDisguise's (sorry don't know your name) parents?

[schrei jess]

That's true what BornAgain said. Currently in danger and have been in danger are way different. If you havent cut for three motnhs (that's awesome, btw), and your suicide attempt was a year ago - she doesnt have much right at all. It's things like that that make us not want to talk or trust therapists. I feel like I cant talk about anything that matters because they will just turn right around and tell my parents. My parents already know about my cutting and my other issues, but I just want some privacy from them. Once you've done something like attempt suicide or self-harm and you tell someone, there is no turning back, it feels like you can have nothing to yourself.

Do you like your therapist? I dont mean right now, because I dont like my therapist and counselor when they call my parents and tell them what Ive told them, but have you ever liked him/her or trusted them at all? If not, can you get a new one? It's important to try and get a therapist that you can talk to and feel like you can trust. But whats hard for me to get is that how can we ever trust them if they are required by law to tell our parents if we are doing something harmful! I know that it isnt right to harm yourself or whatever, but it's ridiculous for us to be expected to get better when all of our secrets get spilled.

Sorry, I kind of went off the subject :P

Good luck, it's going to be hard to have your parents know what's going on, but you'll make it.

[Whisper]

There just trying to help
I'm gonna major in psycology
does that suddenly make me a bad person?

it might already be to late but if you really do belive it to be past tense and thats ALL thats happened you arent hiding anything from us
then try and explain it to her
calmly sit down and talk to her
tell her you've been doing better
you havent cut in months
and your suicide attempt was a LONG time ago

[some1]

gosh.....well its tru that if you are having a lot of suicidal thoughts, as a therapist, i would be concerned about this too and think about telling your parents...but that sucks! Im sorry but it does. She goes to a therapist to talk about private matters that can only discussed with a therapist because she would be the only person she is confortable with talking to and only a therapist and this woman is going to go and tell her parents??

I think thats not right. All this stuff is supposed to be confidential and as the patient she has the right to stop her therapist from telling her parents. If she tells her parents, then she cant trust her therapist anymore and wont bother getting anymore help. I mean, she did say she's stopped cutting.

[Whisper]

her parents are responsible for her well being untill shes 18
in western canada anyway when your 17 the therapist wont tell your parents anything your not legally an adult but your treated as one
but if they still think your seriously going to harm yourself or someone else they still are legally bound to tell someone
they make all of thi VERY clear when you first meet them

[schrei jess]

There just trying to help
I'm gonna major in psycology
does that suddenly make me a bad person?

it might already be to late but if you really do belive it to be past tense and thats ALL thats happened you arent hiding anything from us
then try and explain it to her
calmly sit down and talk to her
tell her you've been doing better
you havent cut in months
and your suicide attempt was a LONG time ago

I never said therapists are bad people. And yes, they are trying to help. But it makes it hard for anyone to trust them when they have to tell our parents things.

[some1]

Thats exactly what i mean

[Fiending_the_freedom]

i know they're just trying to help
but i'm not cutting at more & trust me i'm not at risk
& its 16 they cant tell your parents anything.
so i was in the hospital for 5 hours last night while my dad got me to see a phycriatrist to see if i need to be on suicide watch & be admited.
i dont.
i could have told them that >.>

[Whisper]

cool
in British Columbia and Alberta its 17
guess Ontario's diffrent

Talk to her ask her why there thinking this
this isnt something shed do just out of the blue
thats ALWAYS used as a last resort because it does bring up trust issues
so its never done lightly
think
have you done ANYTHING like anything at all that they might have missinterpeted(sp?)

i've been on suicide watch
its not THAT bad
theres allot of movies, jello and nice nurses