I think I'm transgender

[Cinderandsmoke]

I feel like I should be a boy. I've never been "girly". The thought of wearing make up and wearing heels makes me gag. When I was little I did play with dolls, but only because that was all I had. When I have a crush on someone I don't giggle or try to look cute. I am bisexual and am out to my mom, but I'm afraid that this would make her ashamed. I am so scared its not even funny. I cry myself to sleep because no one knows about this and I don't feel like I am being myself. I feel as if I would fit in more with boys, talking about sports and cars. I am so scared and I just want to know if everything will be alright.

[Mrs.KermitTheFrogx]

I would love to lie to you and say everything will be fine
but look at it you have two option's
1) you can come out
2) you can stay like that forever ...
but if you tell your mom everything will change ...
but you will be who you want to be ... it will be tough and it may even end up in you moving school's ...
Good Luck Babe and ever need to talk in more detail
im here for you chickkk xx

[Skeptical Bear]

I know what you mean. I'm kinda in the same situation but different reason. Be your self. Don't be someone else because that's just hurting you inside. When you feel ready, tell your mom. All this of you not being your self will bubble up to something big. No matter what though, your nothing less than perfect, just as everyone is. Be strong..

[ShatteredWings]

I would love to lie to you and say everything will be fine
but look at it you have two option's
1) you can come out
2) you can stay like that forever ...
but if you tell your mom everything will change ...
but you will be who you want to be ... it will be tough and it may even end up in you moving school's ...
Good Luck Babe and ever need to talk in more detail
im here for you chickkk xx

No, there's one more option.
Wait until it's safe to come out. Finantially stable, or at least out of the house not dependant on your parents.

[Fiction]

Just because you are a girl doesn't mean you have to fit into the stereotype of one. It is perfectly alright to be a girl that is interested in sports and cars and hangs out with the boys.
Of course if despite this you still want to be a boy, the the options are as stated above.

[Aspiringanonymous]

It definitely is scary in the beginning - gotta be patient with yourself. Embracing a trans identity can have enormous implications - and accepting all of that takes time.

I am active in several local trans groups, and have definitely met people who were able to lead successful, fulfilling lives after completing their transition - more fulfilling than it could ever have been if they had not done so. But the process of active change is a lengthy one, typically spanning several years, and is often very mentally draining - especially if you cannot obtain the support of family and friends. The journey ahead is a long and demanding one - but very few of those who stick it out to the end, are not ultimately grateful that they made that decision.

Coming out to close friends is usually the best place to start - parents, they can wait for a while to come. I do think that it's important to at least confide in one person you can trust - so that you have someone to talk to with regard to these issues, when necessary.

[Cinderandsmoke]

It definitely is scary in the beginning - gotta be patient with yourself. Embracing a trans identity can have enormous implications - and accepting all of that takes time.

I am active in several local trans groups, and have definitely met people who were able to lead successful, fulfilling lives after completing their transition - more fulfilling than it could ever have been if they had not done so. But the process of active change is a lengthy one, typically spanning several years, and is often very mentally draining - especially if you cannot obtain the support of family and friends. The journey ahead is a long and demanding one - but very few of those who stick it out to the end, are not ultimately grateful that they made that decision.

Coming out to close friends is usually the best place to start - parents, they can wait for a while to come. I do think that it's important to at least confide in one person you can trust - so that you have someone to talk to with regard to these issues, when necessary.

Thank you, this is the best advice for me, mostly because if I did come out in my whole life I would be harassed. I live in a very religious town and there is no way I could switch schools. I have one friend who I could tell and I'm gonna start there. Hopefully high school goes fast and I get into a big college, maybe then I can transition.

Thanks everyone for your support!

[Aspiringanonymous]

Going to a decent college in a bigger city is really the best opportunity; more or less where I'm at right now.

Good luck, hang in there. :)

[ShatteredWings]

Thank you, this is the best advice for me, mostly because if I did come out in my whole life I would be harassed. I live in a very religious town and there is no way I could switch schools. I have one friend who I could tell and I'm gonna start there. Hopefully high school goes fast and I get into a big college, maybe then I can transition.

Thanks everyone for your support!

Oh hell, second you get out of high school, go to school away from your hometown. Chance to get away, make a new naem for yourself.
then you can.
I'm barely getting away with as far as i have in high school because i have oblivious parents.
How much your 'rents notice you're not a girl?

[tytf]

how does your mom act around gays