Bisexual's sick eh ? Well mom im one of them >.>

[Mrs.KermitTheFrogx]

Okay im sorry for going on about this
but i feel like ive got noone to talk to about this anymore
My friends are all fine with it ... but they dont understand ...
Me and my mom went into costa coffee this morning after shopping in Manchester.
There were two girls sat infront of me across the table from eachother.
Smiling , laughin , holding hands , looked like they had no care in the world
i sat down and my mom caught me starring at them.
So she said and i quote 'Sick arnt they ! They shouldnt be aloud. '
i tried to ignore her but she went on
'Why would they want to be like that? Their not normal'
I stood up and walked out.
When my mom arrived home she started going on like everything was okay.
She knows im a bi ... even if ive never told her ...
Shes scared of what her own daughter is.

[DarkHorses]

Hey Vikki,

I'm really sorry about what happened with your mom. I know that must have been hard for you to take. Acceptance from our parents is one thing we're constantly looking for, and when we don't feel like we have it we feel devastated.

The important thing to realize, though, is that acceptance from others isn't the most important thing. It's most important to accept yourself, no matter what anyone else says. It may make you feel guilty to be bisexual when your mom says things like she did, but you should always have the courage to be yourself.

I know it's easier said than done, but try not to let her words get to you. In the end it doesn't matter who accepted us or who stood up for us. It matters that we had the courage to be ourselves and stand our ground no matter what anyone said.

You can't change the way your mom sees bisexuality, but you can change the way it affects you. Just remember you're a great person, and you have the right to be who you are, even if some people do not agree. :hug:

[Mrs.KermitTheFrogx]

Thankyou so much
you sound like an amazing person.
People who get accepted by their parents seriously dont no how lucky they are :/
(Reputation added :} ) xx

[Quick_Sylver]

My mom was ok with it when I came out to her. Lately though, she's been asking more and more about "boys" in my life. I wrote her a blog post admitting I consider myself lesbian, but I dont know if she read it. Probably not. *shrugs* She and I went to a lesbian wedding back in October, and she was all over the couple. She's said flippant and discouraging things about them to me. Essentially=Its fine for others to be it, but not her daughter.

I know how it feels. :hug: You'll be able to handle it better when you're older. Time fixes everything.

[Mrs.KermitTheFrogx]

my mom does that with boys
shes been trying to set me up with her friends sons (who are rich brats :P )
hahaaa she's okay with me if i have a boyfriend she will be all happy
give me money to go on dates nd let us be alone in my room and stuff
but with girls she wont talk to me until i break up with them
and stop me completly going to my room with most girls(even friends)
and keep 'checking' up on us ... urghh
and inoo it will thankyou babe x

[James94]

I know exactly how you feel. I told my mum I thought I was gay a couple of years ago, but she didn't believe me. But anyway, recently whenever a gay or lesbian character comes up on the TV, or anything like that, she always likes to say how it's not normal and it makes her sick. Maybe she's just hoping that you/I may actually still be "normal", and that's it's just a phase, and saying negative things about bi/homosexuality will turn you away from it. While I disagree with parents acting like that, I can understand how it may be disappointing or saddening for your child to be abnormal in this way. Whether she doesn't know you are bi, or she's just trying to make you straight I don't know, but I'm sure in time if/when you tell her that you definitely are bi then she'll accept it :)

[Mrs.KermitTheFrogx]

I know exactly how you feel. I told my mum I thought I was gay a couple of years ago, but she didn't believe me. But anyway, recently whenever a gay or lesbian character comes up on the TV, or anything like that, she always likes to say how it's not normal and it makes her sick. Maybe she's just hoping that you/I may actually still be "normal", and that's it's just a phase, and saying negative things about bi/homosexuality will turn you away from it. While I disagree with parents acting like that, I can understand how it may be disappointing or saddening for your child to be abnormal in this way. Whether she doesn't know you are bi, or she's just trying to make you straight I don't know, but I'm sure in time if/when you tell her that you definitely are bi then she'll accept it :)

She has known i was bi since i was about 12/13 when she caught me kissing my first girlfriend in my bedroom ... she sent me to boarding school
i returned this year for y11
and she was fine with me because i had a boyfriend
(i mean she wasnt fine becuase she bought us like condoms and stuff so i think she was trying to get me to be plain straight)
but then a few days ago i was holding hands with just a girl mate and she started ignoring me ...
and i dont believe saddening becuas were not abnormal
there are probly about the same amount of gays/lesbians/bi as straight people... in the world ...
ive never needed to tell her im bii becuase she knows i am but she wont accept it ... thankyoou thoughh babex

[James94]

and i dont believe saddening becuas were not abnormal
there are probly about the same amount of gays/lesbians/bi as straight people... in the world ...
ive never needed to tell her im bii becuase she knows i am but she wont accept it ... thankyoou thoughh babex

I think it depends how you define "abnormal", but there you go. As I said, while she might not want to accept it now, and may be clinging on to the hope that you might be straight, in time I'm sure she will come round :)

[tisdave]

Hey there.
Well first of all, i must say that the UK, even though how reasonable it seems, is still not the best of places to have a homosexual/bisexual relationship. Even though it is becoming MUCH more accepted, especially recently - some people still have negative opinions towards such activities (such as your Mother).

You need to understand she may have been brought up to think it was wrong, especially as she was born more than 20 years ago, as Gay/Bi was not seen as normal that long ago. You'll need to slowly ease her in to accepting it, being forceful will only mean she won't accept it, making you even more upset.

Just hint here and there, and she should pick up on it simply, and deal with it in her own way.

Good Luck!

[Mrs.KermitTheFrogx]

I think it depends how you define "abnormal", but there you go. As I said, while she might not want to accept it now, and may be clinging on to the hope that you might be straight, in time I'm sure she will come round :)

There's no such thing as abnormal ...
There's no such thing as normal ...
We are who we are ... and nobody can change that
and believe me this applies to my mother hahax

[tisdave]

There's no such thing as abnormal ...
There's no such thing as normal ...
We are who we are ... and nobody can change that
and believe me this applies to my mother hahax

Strongly agree with all of that. Read over my post, it kind of explains itself.

[Mrs.KermitTheFrogx]

Hey there.
Well first of all, i must say that the UK, even though how reasonable it seems, is still not the best of places to have a homosexual/bisexual relationship. Even though it is becoming MUCH more accepted, especially recently - some people still have negative opinions towards such activities (such as your Mother).

You need to understand she may have been brought up to think it was wrong, especially as she was born more than 20 years ago, as Gay/Bi was not seen as normal that long ago. You'll need to slowly ease her in to accepting it, being forceful will only mean she won't accept it, making you even more upset.

Just hint here and there, and she should pick up on it simply, and deal with it in her own way.

Good Luck!


Its not is it ... especially being brought up in an old fashioned family
my mother was brought up that way and so was my step-father
they frown massivly down on it
i dont no how less forcefull i can be ?!
ive tried to pretend im straight but it doesnt work really </3
but thankyou chickk xxx

[tisdave]

Don't pretend, just be yourself.
Have you tried dropping the odd hint? Like saying 'she's not bad looking is she mam?' - as often, people may look at others in a non-sexual way, but complement them. Eventually, you can be more adventurous and explain.

[Mrs.KermitTheFrogx]

Don't pretend, just be yourself.
Have you tried dropping the odd hint? Like saying 'she's not bad looking is she mam?' - as often, people may look at others in a non-sexual way, but complement them. Eventually, you can be more adventurous and explain.

im not actually joking
if i said that to my mom she would slapp me.
ive gone all the way with girls ... and my moms seen me kissing a girl
she knows she just doesnt choose to believe it !
convo as over-heard by my mom and step-father
'I do not know how my own flesh and blood can be as sick twisted minded as Viki is ... why cant she just be like her sister ?! Shes perfect model , university , stunning. I guess Viki just took after her father'
My father ... a guy who knifed his own daughter ... yer thanks mom >.>

[disassociation2016]

I argue acceptance all the time with my parents even though I'm not out. Heck girls flirt with me all the time so it's not to obvious.

[Mrs.KermitTheFrogx]

I argue acceptance all the time with my parents even though I'm not out. Heck girls flirt with me all the time so it's not to obvious.

Ive never bothered arguing the acceptence
she just moans and says why can tyou be like your sister eh ?
and hahaa you will have to come out one day and i wish you look babex

[Charleigh]

Aww dont let your parent's run you down.
Hun, your Bi and that's all you need to know, as long as you know who you are, why give a fuck?
It's absoloutley amazing when you see people of the same sex holding hands and showing affection to one another in public, despite the stares they get and the looks they get thrown at them.
You are who you are and dont worry about weither your parent's accept you or not,
Your there daughter,
Your special,
And you alway's will be ^^
<3

[Mrs.KermitTheFrogx]

Aww dont let your parent's run you down.
Hun, your Bi and that's all you need to know, as long as you know who you are, why give a fuck?
It's absoloutley amazing when you see people of the same sex holding hands and showing affection to one another in public, despite the stares they get and the looks they get thrown at them.
You are who you are and dont worry about weither your parent's accept you or not,
Your there daughter,
Your special,
And you alway's will be ^^
<3

Thankyouu babee :)
Charlie i must say you sound like an amazing person x