If you date someone how far out of the closet do they have to be?

[ShyGuyInChicago]

For example, if you are out to your friends and family and your partner is not out to their friends and families, are you okay with that?

[Skeptical Bear]

I wouldn't care that much.

[nick]

Yes, but obviously it would restrict what you would be prepared to do in public, no holding hands for example. But straight friends can go to the cinema together, hang out at each other's houses, sleepover, so it would still be possible to date.

[PJay]

Yeah we had to make this decision recently. I pursuaded my bf to come out to his family and he's really glad he did now. My view is it gets all messy with the secrets and stuff anyway, so if you feel you can be honest about your relationship it might actually be easier.

[Mrs.KermitTheFrogx]

ive never actually told my mom im bisexual
But i think shes figured it out
but even with some of my straight girl friends
we still hold hands and stuff.
Kiss eachothers cheeks and stuff ....
so its actually easier becuase you can have sleepovers and stuff :}
which you cant really have if your dating a boy / girl(if your a boy)

[Dunce]

You could still date someone if they weren't completely out, or even if you'd just gotten close and you're the first they've told. Of course it's kind of common sense that if not many people know then you don't tell alot of people, or go around in public holding hands and such.

[Captor K]

Would really depend. Since I would treat him like everyone else, no one would ever suspect much anyway.

[Fourth Dimension]

i wouldnt care if they were out or not i would just want them to come out when they feel its right

[KillerKing]

I think its more a matter of if you can make a secret relationship work or not if one or both are not out to everyone, or the majority of people they know. Personally, I like the idea of secrecy in a relationship. It's like your not rubbing it in everyone's faces and I like the fact people can completely overlook a couple just because their not all touchy or holding hands. But, I would like to be open around friends with a partner, purely because it balances it out and you can still feel comfortable around them.

[Lights]

If I liked this boy a lot, and they weren't out, it wouldn't bother me so much. I would work with them to give them the confidence to come out and feel good about themselves. But I'm not even out to many people myself, so I'm not sure what would happen with something like this to me in reality.

[Weeping]

Well, I'm straight but I don't think it would matter a lot..

[mr.sexy_bomb]

I would be fine with that's because you can't make someone come out when you want to they got to be ready for it, as long as my bf doesn't act like mean or different with me when people are around, I would hate i if he did because then I would feel like he is ashame of me.

[Fruit_Tart.]

it wouldn't matter to me at all because i haven't really told anyone about my secret. :/ and even if i was out i wouldn't care if they weren't out, just as long as we get to spend time together.

[smitty35]

sure, but it affects what you can do in public, if someone from your partners family catches you two it may not be too good for your partner

[Philleeep]

What ever they want ;)