BFF + Cancer = Depressed

[smalltowngirl9189]

My ex/ bff just diagnoised with cancer and I'm already depressed + this makes me have a break down. In class I just randomly start crying. I love him and don't want him to go. I haven't eaten, I can't sleep, I can't think, I feel like i'm in a bubble, or as if I'm looking through somebody else's eyes. It's like I don't want anybody near me, I'm mad all the time, and I randomly start crying. Nobody knows about my bff except me and his parents... What do I do?:(

[Fiction]

I know how you feel, I have a friend that has just been told he doesn't have long to live. it is upsetting.
Although, cancer isn't the be all and end all of a person. Lots of people make a full recovery from cancer and never fall into remission. Lots of people have cancer and after they are better it never bothers them again. He has hope, hold onto this.

Of course, there is still the chance that something could happen. Cry about it, crying is allowed.

You have to stay strong for him, spend time with him, so that if anything does happen you know that you did all that you could to make his life happy :)

[smalltowngirl9189]

Thanks. and you're right but I doubt the recovery... He has bone cancer in which only 15% of bone cancer is actually a primary cancer. I've had 6 people recenty die of cancer in my family and friends.




I'm trying to keep an open mind though.

I hope your situation gets better too

[closed]

It's always hard having someone you know, and especially someone dear to you as this guy, being sick. But you need to be there for him, and stay strong. Cry as much as you need, write poems, music, anything that helps you with it. Remember that he is still here, and sometimes cancer can be healed. Anyway, just remember that you can turn to lots of people. Everyone here on vt would love to talk to you, and help you with it. Just remember that it's ok to cry, and it's not the end. Its hard, but you will get through it.

-If you ever need to talk about anything - i will be here :)
either on vm, pm, email, msn... everything is here, don't be shy to ask for help :hug:

[smalltowngirl9189]

Thank You guys!

Sorry for the double post but here's an update.. My friend has stage 3 Bone cancer
Please do not double post, use the edit button- Fiction

[Fourth Dimension]

im sorry to hear whats going on its scary i know what its like to lose a friend its not fun in the least bit especially if its a close friend what you need to do is just stay strong for your friend he will need all the love and support possible just keep in your mind he can and will beat this is you need someone to talk to im here for you

[smalltowngirl9189]

Thank you so much

[redman]

Dude im realy sorry about hearing that your friend has cancer i no what you are going throw 2 years ago my mouther past away from cancer and a year later my god mouther it was hard for me at frist but slowley with help with friends and guidences it help but right now a mouth ago my friend got diagnoised with cancer and i go visted him every day in the hospail mabey that could help you spend alot of time with your friend

[smalltowngirl9189]

Yeah I've been trying it just hurts me sooo bad to see him there like that.

[redman]

THen try this second opiton when he home and not feeling sick from the kemo visit hi clear your hade make it seem llike he not sick that your just haning out with him

[smalltowngirl9189]

Thanks Redman...

[drcookie]

i feel your pain.... all i can suggest is being with him as much as possible. we cant cure cancer. but being with him and making him feel wanted will temporarily relieve him from his pain. best of luck

[smalltowngirl9189]

Thank you guys! We've been spending a lot of time together now since he is out of the hospital. A lot of the kids in our school and some of his old friends won't even say, "Hi" to him. There's still the fact I know that it's going to be too soon before something happens..