Getting Over it

[Nevermore]

I've suppressed so much over the years. I just don't know how to get over it. I mean even incidents that happened when I was little, I still have flashbacks and can't get over. Everything, especially at night, just floods my head with images, and it depresses the hell out of me. :( I just want to get over everything and move on. It's not like I hate the people who abused me, I've forgiven and put a lot of their pictures on my wall, so I can look up, and say somethings that are nice about them. I thought, that would help me get over it. It hasn't. I've prayed about it, I've tried to suppress it, diminish it. Nothing seems to work. What can I do to get over past traumas? I don't want to have to keep living and getting upset for things I can not change. The past is the past, and I want to keep it there.

[1_21Guns]

well I wish I could tell you theres a way to make it all just go away, but with a lot of things I still have the same problem. The few things I have managed to overcome were generally through realising the effect it had on me, the reasons behind it and finally letting myself react to it instead of holding it all back. The fact you want to get past it should be some help, but getting through past traumas never is easy, times the only thing that ever really heals it, and sometimes all though it's painful we do have to sit and think those things through

[Nevermore]

Thank you Natalie. How did you release the affect?

[1_21Guns]

I think I forced myself to sit and think it through, until I actually couldn't stop myself reacting to it, once I'd drained out all the build up (not gonna lie, it was a messy breakdown) I felt a lot more at ease about a lot of it. Trouble is we're all different, so as much as that helped me, it could also be very damaging to you

[Nevermore]

Thank you Natalie. :) I will ask my psychologist what she thinks I should do. I'm really glad it worked for you. I'll ask her if I should try it.

[1_21Guns]

Okay, best of luck hun :) I know it isn't easy :hug3:

[Myrnodin]

Id personallly recommend getting rid of all those pictures and little souvenirs that are bound to memories. "Saying nice things about them..." is cool, but nice things dont get you PAST things. What happened, happened, and you have forgiven, that is enough and fair. If you keep having their pictures there, you keep reminding yourself. (Thats only my opinion tho)

Id say that would be a great first step. :)

Hope it helps,

- Josh

[Syvelocin]

I think suppressing the feelings is actually a negative thing. I tried that, it led to DID quite frankly o.O And now, being forced to relive it through therapy, the memories are all back and I still have the disorder.

Instead of suppressing, I eventually decided to do the exact opposite. I got every single thought I could put into words out in the open to the people who had to hear them, which is easier said than done anyway except that's never been the type of person I am. I've always gone the "forget about it" route. I wish I could do the same now, but at least for the situation with my aunt, that's what I did. When she was finally sober again, I decided to see her, and she was her old self, a person I recognized as my mum's sister again. I told her everything that bothered me, we cried, blah blah blah, and now I have very little problems being around her anymore. My mum still hates her naturally, but it has really mended.