Parents= No food

[RisaLeigh16]

Ok, to start off with i live with my sister and my mother. My mom has a good job and we dont really have money problems. My mom never buys food for me and my sister. Our kitchen has litterally a box of rice, some noodles, ketchup, and water bottles...I always ask my mom if we can go to the grociery store and get some food, but she says later she will. we havnt gone to the grociery store in over 5 months. the only meal i get is school lunch when she gives me money for it (which is hardley ever) I dont really talk about it to my friends anymore because they are all like call child pertective services. but i cant do that to my mom and plus im too scared because then ill be "that girl" in school and it would be embarassing...idk what else to do tho. i havnt eaten for 3 days now..and the last thing i ate was an apple and had some chocolate milk because my friend gave me it for lunch. Does anyone go through something similar to me? Any advice?

[ShatteredWings]

No, you need to listen to your friends there.
CPS.
Your mother is being blatantly negelctful for absolutely no reason.

[TheSingingBird]

Yeah, someone needs to talk to your mom. You could try, but parents don't always listen to their kids, and it doesn't seem like you mom will if she won't even let you go to the grocery store. I hate to use the cliced advice, but tell a trusted adult. CPS won't necessarily remove you from home, but they'll intervene and get you the help you need.

[lipstick_kisses23]

That is all over child neglect. You should stay on your moms case if you don't want to call DYFUS, but from experience calling them did wonders for my mom. I couldn't ask for a better mom now. Maybe tough love is what she needs

[Rutherford The Brave]

I'm used to not having much, but mainly because my family doesnt have much money. I deal with it, when I eat I eat as much as I can make.

[Fiction]

As everyone else has said, you should call the child protection service. If you don't want to do that maybe you could tell someone at school who can help you?
What she is doing is neglect and it isn't healthy to go that long without food.

[lenny774]

You need to get some food one way or another. its either you need to confront her or contact cps. this is as others have stated blatant neglect. you are a human being and deserve 3 meals a day.

[closed]

I don't understand how severe it is. If she is persistently refuses to buy food for you, she brakes your human rights. Talk to her seriously about that situation. In 4 eyes talk, explain it to her. Tell her it few times... Then say, that you don't know what to do - you need food. If she still doesn't buy you food, and just refuses... well, you should contact authorities. But don't rush with it, and use it as a last resort. It's an absurd situation that you haven't eaten for 3 days, so you need to handle it. Again, have an open communication channel with your mother... If even after you cleared it to her, that you haven't eaten in three days she still ignores your needs... i doubt it will happen, but if it is, do it. Both for you and your sister.
Good luck :)

[Mrs.KermitTheFrogx]

im obvo not sure becuase i dont no how thin/fat your mom is but if she is really thin ever thought she has an eating disorder ?
Because it doesnt sound like she is a bad mother and you and her have a good realtionship
allthough it is child neglect but im just wondering incase she is obsessed with being thin.?
you need to talk to her about it and exsplain about you and your sister being so hungry all the time
and also maybe your mom is in debt ?
but doesnt want to worry you about it ...
im just wondering about other options becuase this kinda confuses me why somebody would do that :/ x

[Nelson]

My life = My dad blows all the money on beer and smokes and meds for fake illnesses, so theres only the BARE nessesities, like bread, butter, veg..

Pre 2008 I had food in the house all the time, milk, tea, snacks, etc.
IMO, it is neglect/child abuse.
But in the eyes of the law (in Australia at least) it's not illegal, all they can say is...
As long as you have a meal each night, it's not child abuse/neglect

Well, I'm sorry bigshot officials with six figure salaries, If I'm hungry over 90% of the day, I consider that CHILD ABUSE.

-point made-

[Apple iShart]

Well, here's what I suggest you do Risa (Apologies if that's not your actual name).

First things first, you need to assess the situation, look at the other posts on this topic, such as the eating disorders, or the possibility of debt you just aren't fully informed about.
If you don't mind a little example involving myself, my mom didn't even tell me she had lost her job until Months after it happened, and that was only because I asked about something that came up. So as others are saying, just ask her, but in a way that isn't reactive! The worst combination possible is probably a mother who hasn't eaten! Oh do I know all about that...lol.

Secondly, if you don't feel like you're ready to talk to your mom, try asking a friend at school to bring you some food everyday! I'm sure their parents won't mind packing a little extra fruit or something for someone that is as hungry as you seem to be, DON'T FEEL ASHAMED TO ASK! :) Everybody goes through struggle at some point in their lives, and to work through that struggle is what we learn from.

One more suggestion is to maybe look for a job. I saw that you're 17, and from what I know, pretty much everywhere hires employees at 16 and up! It's a great way to be able to buy yourself some food, get some work experience, and even put some money away for college or something you want to buy! Give it a shot. :)

Good luck in all you do!

[Charleigh]

You need to tell somebody, you cant survive off of other peoples food hun.
Honestly, I have a social worker (Im in foster care) and social workers can be really helpfull if you have a nice one that listens to you and cares about how you feel, otherwise they are useless. But you can contact them and they will help provide your mum with money, support, advise and also, for you they could help you in many ways.
You need to tell someone, this is important.

Or, offer to go shopping for her.

[BOBBY HILL]

Maybe your mom is in debt.

[RisaLeigh16]

no my mom nor i are obese, and thanks for all the suggestions. I've talked to her about it and i told her how i felt. She is going to the grociery store more than before, but we dont really buy a lot of meals....kinda small things. but i guess it will get me by. Im looking for a job but where i live they really arent hiring teens. But thank you again for all your suggestions.

[aaron4455]

ya i did my perents used make me starve if i dont come out for dinner on time

[kiki776]

congrats on talking to your mom! if you ask a friend if they have free lunch (what we get for poor people at my school) and they dont use or want it then you have more food i guess is what im trying to say. but idk if your school has those. just a thought to keep in mind. :D

[Ambrosia]

free lunch (what we get for poor people at my school)

Ahem, not all people on free lunch are POOR. That's a bit offending. I'm on free lunches and I'm not poor. I have everything I need just not everything i want.

And congrats on telling her! =D

[kiki776]

not trying to offend but thats what all my friends that have it too are poor

[Mikedamaniak]

Now according to the law that's child neglect but personally i think that from that that you can tell that the law thinks that anyone under 18 might as well be a baby (no offense). Yea that is kinda neglectful though, so tell her that, but still, you should be responsible 4 your own food.

[ImCoolBeans]

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